Anti vax DH won't compromise principles and may quit Fed job, how should I prepare?

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Anonymous wrote:He is probably fully vaccinated beyond the covid vaccine and its his choice. If you want to divorce, go for it. You sound really difficult. Just file for divorce, agree to 50/50 custody, move out and find housing for yourself and be done with it. If you threaten divorce, be prepared to follow through. If my spouse filed, there would be no turning back.

SHE’S the one being difficult??!? What planet are you living on, PP? This whacko is willing to destroy his livelihood for nothing. GOH

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Anonymous wrote:Principles? lol Your husband is mentally ill. You need to get him mental health help.

This is ridiculous. DH, DC and I are all fully vaxed. I agree with the mandate and wish Biden would have included all interstate travel by public transport but someone not wanting to be vaxed does not mean they are mentally ill.

OP, I'm sorry. There is no easy answer on this but if he does quit his job without another comparable job that would be a dealbreaker for me.

someone with young teenage kids who gets fired or quits a GS-15 job because they are anti-vax - and also anti-testing! - has got some kind of mental problem. mental illness or personality disorder, doesn’t matter.

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Anonymous wrote:Principles? lol Your husband is mentally ill. You need to get him mental health help.

In the mental health world this is called “projection.”

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is probably fully vaccinated beyond the covid vaccine and its his choice. If you want to divorce, go for it. You sound really difficult. Just file for divorce, agree to 50/50 custody, move out and find housing for yourself and be done with it. If you threaten divorce, be prepared to follow through. If my spouse filed, there would be no turning back.

Your spouse should file.

My spouse had to take care of everything for three months after I got sick with the second vaccine shot after he pushed me into taking it. He doesn't want to do everything again and values our marriage. If he wants a divorce, he can have one.

I’m pregnant and not yet vaccinated and I want to get it soon…what happened to you? Did it end okay? Was the first shot okay?

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There’s only so many jobs in the right wing media space.

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Anonymous wrote:He is probably fully vaccinated beyond the covid vaccine and its his choice. If you want to divorce, go for it. You sound really difficult. Just file for divorce, agree to 50/50 custody, move out and find housing for yourself and be done with it. If you threaten divorce, be prepared to follow through. If my spouse filed, there would be no turning back.

SHE’S the one being difficult??!? What planet are you living on, PP? This whacko is willing to destroy his livelihood for nothing. GOH

This is probably fake and she wants a divorce. It has nothing to do with covid or vaccines so let her get a divorce. Maybe he's done being a fed and wants a different job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is probably fully vaccinated beyond the covid vaccine and its his choice. If you want to divorce, go for it. You sound really difficult. Just file for divorce, agree to 50/50 custody, move out and find housing for yourself and be done with it. If you threaten divorce, be prepared to follow through. If my spouse filed, there would be no turning back.

Ignore this nonsense, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is probably fully vaccinated beyond the covid vaccine and its his choice. If you want to divorce, go for it. You sound really difficult. Just file for divorce, agree to 50/50 custody, move out and find housing for yourself and be done with it. If you threaten divorce, be prepared to follow through. If my spouse filed, there would be no turning back.

Your spouse should file.

My spouse had to take care of everything for three months after I got sick with the second vaccine shot after he pushed me into taking it. He doesn't want to do everything again and values our marriage. If he wants a divorce, he can have one.

I’m pregnant and not yet vaccinated and I want to get it soon…what happened to you? Did it end okay? Was the first shot okay?

First shot was fine and no big deal. Second shot was a nightmare and I was dizzy for a few months and couldn't walk easily and the room was spinning. I also had really bad ear ringing - now its gone down some but still bad. And, a few other things. I suspect it was because of the medication I was on and I took the shot and the medication too close together. Either way no chance I'm doing another shot. For my kids, we'll heavily space them out.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is probably fully vaccinated beyond the covid vaccine and its his choice. If you want to divorce, go for it. You sound really difficult. Just file for divorce, agree to 50/50 custody, move out and find housing for yourself and be done with it. If you threaten divorce, be prepared to follow through. If my spouse filed, there would be no turning back.

Your spouse should file.

My spouse had to take care of everything for three months after I got sick with the second vaccine shot after he pushed me into taking it. He doesn't want to do everything again and values our marriage. If he wants a divorce, he can have one.

Suuuuure, Jan.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is probably fully vaccinated beyond the covid vaccine and its his choice. If you want to divorce, go for it. You sound really difficult. Just file for divorce, agree to 50/50 custody, move out and find housing for yourself and be done with it. If you threaten divorce, be prepared to follow through. If my spouse filed, there would be no turning back.

Your spouse should file.

My spouse had to take care of everything for three months after I got sick with the second vaccine shot after he pushed me into taking it. He doesn't want to do everything again and values our marriage. If he wants a divorce, he can have one.

Suuuuure, Jan.

I’m the pregnant pp and you should read the response this poster gave ahead it sounds credible and she’s no antivax.

Btw, to the previous poster, I only get vestibular migraines and deal with the ringing in the ears and take migraine medication so good to know at least for the second shot.

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Anonymous wrote:He is probably fully vaccinated beyond the covid vaccine and its his choice. If you want to divorce, go for it. You sound really difficult. Just file for divorce, agree to 50/50 custody, move out and find housing for yourself and be done with it. If you threaten divorce, be prepared to follow through. If my spouse filed, there would be no turning back.

Sure.

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Anonymous wrote:I would tell him if he quits his job over Covid he will lose both his job and his marriage. And if he says fine I’m quitting, start divorce proceedings. I know an anti-Vaxer who convinced his parents to not get vaccinated and they both died this summer from Covid. I wonder how he lives with that?

Probably waiting on inheritance.

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Op your husband sounds like mine. I can only tell you my house has been a tense one, over this plus other issues that lately revolve around politics and vastly different views. It's frickin miserable. That said, I personally decided that I can't divorce over this or any of our other disagreements, at least not now. I have decided to stand down. The data on kids is somewhat reassuring and I believe they will most likely be ok without vaccines. The fed mandate will take at least a little time to implement and I'm sure will have lawsuits and such. My dh may fall unde a dod loophole because they seem to be treated differently. I'll wait and see what he decides to do and try to let him make the decision. In the meantime I'm seeking out a new therapist and working on the things I can control. If he did decide to quit with no other options, I think we would move to a lower col area and I would continue working remotely or possibly seek out a new job. Honestly that doesn't sound like a bad option to me either. I'm sure others here would call me crazy for trying to be accommodating but this is what I'm trying. My kids are younger so I might feel different if they were older. But in the meantime my priority is to keep my kids close and to try to be a supportive, understanding and forgiving spouse. God help us all.

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Anonymous wrote:Are your children vaccinated? If so, how did he react to that?

I’m curious about this too.

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Why'd you marry such a loser?