Married in your 20s? How's that worked out?
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Anonymous
| For those of you who married in your 20s and have been married--to the same person--for at least ten years, how's it going? What's good, not so good? Would you do it again, knowing what you know now? |
Anonymous
| Married at 23; 33 now. DH is 38. I think our marriage is good. Our finances are good, our careers are good. It’s not perfect but I wouldn’t do things differently. |
Anonymous
| 43 now. Married at 23. Life is amazing for the most part. Kids are 18 and 16. Money is plentiful. |
Anonymous
| Most days I'd do it again. Some days I wish things had gone differently. I don't think humans are built for monogamy, but being monogamous with my wife definitely has plenty of benefits. |
Anonymous
| married in my mid 20's. known each other for 10 yrs prior to marriage, married 9, so appx known each other for 19yrs total. no kid yet not really an issue difficult TTC. but ultimately mutual respect for each other would do it again in a heart beat! |
Anonymous
| Married at 24; children at 25. No regrets but I wish we would have had more time together alone before kids to travel and socialize. |
Anonymous
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We married at 20 and 21, in college. Definitely had our share of ramen noodles. We’re 18 years in. We took turns getting our graduate degrees (both working full time, but one of us was in school at night while the other took care of cooking, laundry, house). We have a three-year-old and are enjoying parenthood.
I wouldn’t do anything differently, but I know we’re unicorns. We have friends that also married in their early 20s and they’ve mostly split up. They also had kids shortly after marrying. |
Anonymous
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Married at 22. Married 14 years now. Two kids. Had kids in our early 30s. Only thing I would change is have the kids in our late 20s.
Like everything else, there are positives and things yougive up, but on balance I would do it again without a doubt. |
Anonymous
| Married at 28 and it's been 7 years, and all is well so far. We got together at 19, though, so we've been together now for 16 years total. One toddler and one on the way. We fight sometimes and don't pull our punches (metaphorically) when we do, but generally our goals, beliefs, and worldviews are aligned and we are pretty happy. |
Anonymous
I know I'm veering off topic here, but I think marriages that start at age 28 are different than some of the others mentioned here (ages 20-23). When you marry at 28, you can barely eek in a baby before 30, at which point many people are already pretty established. Many of the stresses on a young marriage are related to finances and having kids very young. We got engaged at 19, married at 22, kids at 23 and 26. We are 11 years married. Now that the cash is rolling in, and we are 32 with two elementary schoolers, life is pretty sweet! |
Anonymous
| Married at 21 and still very, very happy at 42. |
Anonymous
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Married at 20 & started divorce process at 33.
So not good. But I'll be 45 when my youngest graduates so I feel pretty good about that and we built up a lot in assets (paid off 3 mortgages doubling value of house on each consecutive purchase). I hope my kids don't marry off until they're at least 25. Lots of maturing and self growth happens between 20-24. |
Anonymous
| We got married at 21 the summer after our junior years of college. Five children, two grandchildren, and 30 years later all is well. We are 51. Our kids are grown. DH retires in 4 years. We are looking forward to new adventures! |
Anonymous
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Got married at 23. Life has hit us hard in many ways, but we have survived for 15 years and counting despite the odds. I call that success! |
Anonymous
| We're two months shy of ten years. Things are great. DH still surprises me and makes me laugh. We've gotten through some rough crap (surgeries, deaths, unexpected expansions of our family) and came out stronger and still smiling. |