Married in your 20s? How's that worked out?

[Anonymous]

Married at 22, kid at 28, currently 32.

Wouldn't change getting married young at all. We learned to navigate life together. There was no merging of adult lives, we created a shared life. It's been really good.

[Anonymous]

Not well. Still together but we’re too different in too many ways. It’s not ugly but there’s nothing great about it either.

[Anonymous]

Not good. Together since 16. Married at 26 and divorced at 47. What I would not do to have my 20's back.

[Anonymous]

Teen pregnancy, got married at 22 (same guy), had more kids while in my 20's (husband did undergrad and grad school in evenings after work), still very happily married in mid thirties. The kid I had as a teen is an honors student, on track to graduate early and will finish college before I turn 40. Not a perfect life but we're happy.

[Anonymous]

Married at 25. 3 kids. Glad I was a young parent but married life sucks. We’ve been married 11 years now and it’s hard to get out.

[Anonymous]

Married at 18. Celebrate 30 years next month.

[Anonymous]

Married at 25. 14 years later- we are each other’s best friends and our bond is incredible probably because of all the growing we did together

[Anonymous]

Married at 22. We were married for 18 years when he had an affair with a coworker. It was a typical mid life crisis story.... like literally overnight he spiraled into a depression, questioned is entire life, and started doing things out of character, like have an affair. It was bizarre enough his mother and I feared he had a brain tumor or something.

Divorce was final about 6 months ago. Two kids, ages 8 and 10. Not sure I'd do anything differently, because I'm thrilled with the kids. But I do regret the year I spent putting up with his BS, fearing for his health when really he wasn't just being an immature boob.


Wow. Married at 22 DH 24. Married 30 years. When DH was 49 had midlife crisis and affair. It was exactly the same.
Still married, 52.

[Anonymous]

30, Married 6 years, together 11. 1 toddler. Perfect marriage, never fight, never argue, mutual respect for eachother but we have been dealing with some serious health issues for being so young. Life changing health issues. Not what I thought it would be like right now but wouldn't change who I'm with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:30, Married 6 years, together 11. 1 toddler. Perfect marriage, never fight, never argue, mutual respect for eachother but we have been dealing with some serious health issues for being so young. Life changing health issues. Not what I thought it would be like right now but wouldn't change who I'm with.

Sorry your health issues exist. Love each other and pray.

[Anonymous]

Married at 25 (me) and 34 (DH) about to celebrate 15 years. Kids are 14 and 12. Got pg accidentally right after wedding.

At the time we were sad we didn’t have more time together before kids. Now, I’m so glad we had them early. We have a great relationship with lots of time to look forward to. He just did a great career switch and I’m actually about to start a second career. Money is good, kids are almost raised, no more noses to wipe, We feel like we’re just getting started.

[Anonymous]

married at 27, 34 now, and not so much as a rough patch. no hiccups. our jobs are hard but we are still weird in love. you know, the creepy making out at stop lights talking nonsense pet talk to each other kind of in love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Married at 25 (me) and 34 (DH) about to celebrate 15 years. Kids are 14 and 12. Got pg accidentally right after wedding.

At the time we were sad we didn’t have more time together before kids. Now, I’m so glad we had them early. We have a great relationship with lots of time to look forward to. He just did a great career switch and I’m actually about to start a second career. Money is good, kids are almost raised, no more noses to wipe, We feel like we’re just getting started.

As someone younger than you, but with an older child, your children are NOT "almost raised" at 14 and 12. The teen years and early 20's are some of the MOST needy years you'll be raising your kids.

[Anonymous]

Started dating when I was 19 and DH was 17 (we were freshmen in college). Got married 10 years later and just celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary a few weeks ago - in a few more weeks it will be 20 years since our first date and we’ve now been together longer than not, which is nutty to think. Our kids are 14 months and 5 and a half years so it’s exhausting.

The exhaustion of young kids combined with some career dissatisfaction just makes things be less ideal than they could be. I also think about how I wish I’d known better how challenging our relationships with each other’s parents would be. But I still snort with laughter on a regular basis and mostly feel we resolve disagreements well. I imagine things could be better and could be worse. He’s a generous lover and a very doting father so that goes a long way.

I’m really glad I had 6-7 years after college (including 2 long distance) when I had roommates, got my masters degree, bought my condo and just generally got to grow up a bit. He says the thing he wishes were different is that our strengths and weaknesses are similar and it would be useful if we complemented each other. For instance, neither of us is much good at organizing.

[Anonymous]

You really need to be asking this question of 45 and 50 year olds--when the midlife crisis collides with the empty nest and a long marriage this is when you start to see things crack.