Married in your 20s? How's that worked out?

[Anonymous]

Married at 26, now 41. DH 48, so 15 years. Still love him and know he was the right choice, but I wish I had had a few more years to grow into myself before joining with someone for life.

[Anonymous]

We met at 25, married at 28, and had kids at 35. We're now 46. Life has its ups and downs but overall, it has been pretty good. I love that we had so many years together pre-kids. I think that gave us a strong foundation for life post kids. I wouldn't change a thing.

[Anonymous]

10 years next month. I could not do this life without dh. I've never met anyone like him. He's an amazing human being, great father and loving husband. We're 8 months pregnant with #2. Marrying dh has been the best thing that ever happened to me in life. I had an ex that I was engaged to. I called off the wedding and everyone told me I was insane, but I just knew my life had to be better than it was with him. I think having that ex makes me never take dh for granted.

We're glad we waited to have kids into our 30s.

[Anonymous]

45 now. Married at 24. Husband a year and a half older. Waited to have kids until early 30s. Our relationship is fantastic, especially since we have a kid with special needs which is hell on a lot of marriages. It’s work but I’m also very lucky.

[Anonymous]

Married at 19. He was 22. Divorced after 13 years of marriage. Wouldn't of married at that young age if I didn't go into the military.

[Anonymous]

Married at 29, dated 6 years. We are 50 and separated and going to live together until the kids go to college in 2 years. He has some mental illnesses so that plays into him staying in the house until he can get more stable.

[Anonymous]

Married at 22. We were married for 18 years when he had an affair with a coworker. It was a typical mid life crisis story.... like literally overnight he spiraled into a depression, questioned is entire life, and started doing things out of character, like have an affair. It was bizarre enough his mother and I feared he had a brain tumor or something.

Divorce was final about 6 months ago. Two kids, ages 8 and 10. Not sure I'd do anything differently, because I'm thrilled with the kids. But I do regret the year I spent putting up with his BS, fearing for his health when really he wasn't just being an immature boob.

[Anonymous]

Should read "he really WAS just being a boob."

[Anonymous]

Married at 24, 12 years in. Kids are 10 and 7. We had some growing pains at the beginning but are extremely happy overall. Yes, I'd do it again in a heartbeat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We met at 25, married at 28, and had kids at 35. We're now 46. Life has its ups and downs but overall, it has been pretty good. I love that we had so many years together pre-kids. I think that gave us a strong foundation for life post kids. I wouldn't change a thing.

Your foundation comment is right on.

My experience is similar but slightly different. DW and I met at 18 and 21 (respectively), married a year later. No kids until 10 years after that, ended up with three. They are all grown and out of the house now. While we had the usual stresses associated with dual careers and raising kids, we got through them. Sometimes it wasn't pretty, but never nasty.

I think our relationship now is the best it's ever been. We really grew up together and the shared experiences of life have taught us to love and care for each other.

.......but, maybe that's the bourbon talking.........

[Anonymous]

Met at 20/21, married at 22/23, and after 11 years of marriage we're 33/34. I'm currently pregnant with our 3rd child.

It's weird now looking at young twenty-somethings and realizing how young we were when we met and got married but I could not be happier with my choice. I feel very lucky that I met my match while we were so young. We have experienced so much of life together, traveled a ton before kids, supported each other through grad school and career changes. We've grown and matured together.

[Anonymous]

I was 28 and DH was 40. Still crazy in love with this amazing, brilliant, gorgeous man after 16 years and one child.

[Anonymous]

Married at 22, 6 weeks after college graduation. Husband was a few weeks shy of 25.
That was 2001, so nearly 17 years now. We have a fifth grader and a kindergartner. The periods right after the kids were born were the hardest-especially the first who was a very tough baby.
We are very happy together. Still very much in love. Life has its ups and downs but (mostly) we pull together.

[Anonymous]

Met at 23, married at 25, kids 6 and 9 years later. Married 30 years so I think it's gone well.

[Anonymous]

Everyone I know that got married immediately after HS or College is now divorced. Everyone I know that was dating in HS or college, but waited until 25-28 (or even later) to get married is still married (I'm now in my mid-40's).