Vent about marrying someone from a very underdeveloped country

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Anonymous wrote:Its fun to see life in a different place from bewildered eyes of a person who clearly hasn't traveled much. I'm imagining if there is any intelligent live form on any other planet reading similar threads about visiting earth.

I travel a lot and read quite a bit of travel writing, and I'm finding OP's musings very charming. It's like reading a child's "What I Did Last Summer" essay about her trip to Bangladesh with her parents. "In Bangladesh, people are skinnier. They wear bright colors. People in Bangladesh eat spicy food. It makes me feel sick. They have nice teeth! Whole families ride a motorcycle together. Bangladesh is poor. But people seem happy."

Op here. I am not a travel writer. I'm not entering myself into a travel writing contest. And just to clarify I never said they eat spicy food and it makes me sick. You're looking for ways to pick at me. I have traveled to 7 countries but this is my first time in a developing country. I guarantee none of the Bengali people are spending time thinking of ways to insult strangers online. My husband and I had very different experiences growing up. Bullying wasn't as bad for him and he said in general it's not bad here. You still haven't understood that. Shame on you.

OP. Get your story straight. Is this the first time you’ve been there or not?

I also think there's something off about this thread.

Duh

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Anonymous wrote:Please google and look online for Bangladesh stats.
Op staying in a lowest class house and is portraying a most dismal state, which it is not.
It is a 3rd world country but a majority of Bengalis are very modern. The amenities and interiors of houses are very polished or high end.

Most third world countries have an upper class that lives a Western lifestyle and sends kids abroad for their education. While the masses starve and live in much more difficult conditions.

She's describing what seems like a pretty middle-class life. They're not starving, they have access to WiFi and medical care, and they have needs, not necessarily wants.

Op here yes and DH had a private tutor growing up which seems to be the norm for the middle class. He also went to a private school.DH's nephew who lives in the house I am staying in has his child in a private school I noticed a difference in the women when we went to the schoolyard yesterday. In a lot of ways, they are living a more luxurious lifestyle. When I asked my SIL if she wanted a washer she said no because she prefers a household helper to do the washing by hand. They rarely wash dishes because someone comes every morning to do that. I did have a private tutor growing up but only because I am dyslexic. DH's nephew has one four days a week. His brother maintains all of their properties and rents out space to rickshaw drivers. They also have income from gardening vegetables. If they need middle care they go right away. No one is worried about being able to afford medicine or medical procedures. Their house is also paid off and has been for several decades. Taking loans for houses isn't a thing. The house I showed a picture of was paid off in full. It was around 40-50k and dh helped out with some of it. What middle class family in the US pays off their house?

That's so interesting op. I'm the pp you responded to.

I think also though there isn't the respect for property rights in Bangladesh, so you can own your house but the government could take it at any time???


Washing by hand is certainty better for the environment

People in these places prefer to wash by hand because it’s less expensive to pay someone to do it. Water quality is often poor so appliances that are very expensive in the first place don’t perform optimally and often break. Environmental concerns are not the main motivation.

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There's something off about any thread that gets to more than 10 pages.

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Anonymous wrote:I find it hard to believe that OP is actually a white woman as she claims. She uses phrases that I have only heard from south Asians like “pulling my leg”, gifted, etc. Her manner of speaking and grammar reads as someone who grew up in Asia.

I thought the same too. She also called tea bags as tea packets which is usually done in South Asia

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Anonymous wrote:Its fun to see life in a different place from bewildered eyes of a person who clearly hasn't traveled much. I'm imagining if there is any intelligent live form on any other planet reading similar threads about visiting earth.

I travel a lot and read quite a bit of travel writing, and I'm finding OP's musings very charming. It's like reading a child's "What I Did Last Summer" essay about her trip to Bangladesh with her parents. "In Bangladesh, people are skinnier. They wear bright colors. People in Bangladesh eat spicy food. It makes me feel sick. They have nice teeth! Whole families ride a motorcycle together. Bangladesh is poor. But people seem happy."

Op here. I am not a travel writer. I'm not entering myself into a travel writing contest. And just to clarify I never said they eat spicy food and it makes me sick. You're looking for ways to pick at me. I have traveled to 7 countries but this is my first time in a developing country. I guarantee none of the Bengali people are spending time thinking of ways to insult strangers online. My husband and I had very different experiences growing up. Bullying wasn't as bad for him and he said in general it's not bad here. You still haven't understood that. Shame on you.

Op
you very clearly stated before that this is your second time in Bangladesh.

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Please stop the cross examination... She's not on trial. If she gets facts about Bangladesh wrong, I'd be interested to hear your corrections. Just how perfectly would you be writing in her position

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Anonymous wrote:Please stop the cross examination... She's not on trial. If she gets facts about Bangladesh wrong, I'd be interested to hear your corrections. Just how perfectly would you be writing in her position

Sock puppet.

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Anonymous wrote:Please stop the cross examination... She's not on trial. If she gets facts about Bangladesh wrong, I'd be interested to hear your corrections. Just how perfectly would you be writing in her position

Sock puppet.

I'm beginning to wonder if she's actually a child who has to do this for some kind of assignment.
OP has told us that she's a bit simple, but I don't understand days of posting, complaining about the reaction she's getting, and then continuing to post. I think we've all posted something dumb that we regretted once we saw the responses. Most of us just move on at that point and hope the thread dies.

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Anonymous wrote:Please stop the cross examination... She's not on trial. If she gets facts about Bangladesh wrong, I'd be interested to hear your corrections. Just how perfectly would you be writing in her position

Sock puppet.

Ask Jeff, I'm in Boston.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please google and look online for Bangladesh stats.
Op staying in a lowest class house and is portraying a most dismal state, which it is not.
It is a 3rd world country but a majority of Bengalis are very modern. The amenities and interiors of houses are very polished or high end.

Most third world countries have an upper class that lives a Western lifestyle and sends kids abroad for their education. While the masses starve and live in much more difficult conditions.

She's describing what seems like a pretty middle-class life. They're not starving, they have access to WiFi and medical care, and they have needs, not necessarily wants.

Op here yes and DH had a private tutor growing up which seems to be the norm for the middle class. He also went to a private school.DH's nephew who lives in the house I am staying in has his child in a private school I noticed a difference in the women when we went to the schoolyard yesterday. In a lot of ways, they are living a more luxurious lifestyle. When I asked my SIL if she wanted a washer she said no because she prefers a household helper to do the washing by hand. They rarely wash dishes because someone comes every morning to do that. I did have a private tutor growing up but only because I am dyslexic. DH's nephew has one four days a week. His brother maintains all of their properties and rents out space to rickshaw drivers. They also have income from gardening vegetables. If they need middle care they go right away. No one is worried about being able to afford medicine or medical procedures. Their house is also paid off and has been for several decades. Taking loans for houses isn't a thing. The house I showed a picture of was paid off in full. It was around 40-50k and dh helped out with some of it. What middle class family in the US pays off their house?

I think also though there isn't the respect for property rights in Bangladesh, so you can own your house but the government could take it at any time???

That's the case in most of the world. China, Russia, Venezuela, Cuba, Vietnam, Iran, etc. Why do you think foreigners buy so many American houses and land?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please google and look online for Bangladesh stats.
Op staying in a lowest class house and is portraying a most dismal state, which it is not.
It is a 3rd world country but a majority of Bengalis are very modern. The amenities and interiors of houses are very polished or high end.

Most third world countries have an upper class that lives a Western lifestyle and sends kids abroad for their education. While the masses starve and live in much more difficult conditions.

She's describing what seems like a pretty middle-class life. They're not starving, they have access to WiFi and medical care, and they have needs, not necessarily wants.

Op here yes and DH had a private tutor growing up which seems to be the norm for the middle class. He also went to a private school.DH's nephew who lives in the house I am staying in has his child in a private school I noticed a difference in the women when we went to the schoolyard yesterday. In a lot of ways, they are living a more luxurious lifestyle. When I asked my SIL if she wanted a washer she said no because she prefers a household helper to do the washing by hand. They rarely wash dishes because someone comes every morning to do that. I did have a private tutor growing up but only because I am dyslexic. DH's nephew has one four days a week. His brother maintains all of their properties and rents out space to rickshaw drivers. They also have income from gardening vegetables. If they need middle care they go right away. No one is worried about being able to afford medicine or medical procedures. Their house is also paid off and has been for several decades. Taking loans for houses isn't a thing. The house I showed a picture of was paid off in full. It was around 40-50k and dh helped out with some of it. What middle class family in the US pays off their house?

I think also though there isn't the respect for property rights in Bangladesh, so you can own your house but the government could take it at any time???

That's the case in most of the world. China, Russia, Venezuela, Cuba, Vietnam, Iran, etc. Why do you think foreigners buy so many American houses and land?

I'm saying that's why it's cheaper. The title is worth less. Other Western countries don't let people buy up their land.

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Anonymous wrote:Please stop the cross examination... She's not on trial. If she gets facts about Bangladesh wrong, I'd be interested to hear your corrections. Just how perfectly would you be writing in her position

lol.

U again?!

[Anonymous]

The Daily Star (the largest English-language newspaper in Bangladesh) should do a human interest story on this thread.

[Anonymous]

Haven’t read this thread in entirety but it reads like a travel journal my 4th grader had to put together at GDS on various Ancient Cultures.
She’d just google search highlights or other peoples stories and write them in to her time travel journal.
Easy peasy.

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Anonymous wrote:Haven’t read this thread in entirety but it reads like a travel journal my 4th grader had to put together at GDS on various Ancient Cultures.
She’d just google search highlights or other peoples stories and write them in to her time travel journal.
Easy peasy.

Hahahahah!!! So true.