How do you get an affair/relationship started with another married person?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, we went running and it was nice.
He wants to do it agin.

you sound like my DW. I know she’s having an affair: mannerism, attitude and actions tell me all I need to know and it’s not her first one. Thing is, I’m cool with the extramarital stuff, just tell me what your up to. Honesty goes a long way, deception is a relationship killer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, we went running and it was nice.
He wants to do it agin.

you sound like my DW. I know she’s having an affair: mannerism, attitude and actions tell me all I need to know and it’s not her first one. Thing is, I’m cool with the extramarital stuff, just tell me what your up to. Honesty goes a long way, deception is a relationship killer.

...Except I’m single, and he is the married one.

[Anonymous]

Merry Christmas everyone !

[Anonymous]

Man here.

Had a beautiful married female coworker for 3 years. Never cheated but flirted constantly.One Friday afternoon she laments that her boorish BIL is visiting for the weekend and she hates spending time with him. Says she should post a playboy magazine in the guest room and maybe that would keep him in there longer.

I laugh and say 'but those are like $15 these days, too expensive!'

She says 'got any other suggestions?'

I jokingly say, 'why not just a self portrait, lol thats almost free'.

She says 'but who would take the picture?'

I joke that she can step into my office so I can see what Im working with.

This is all in the lobby of a well know Arlington consulting firm. I wasn't really trying to get her naked. I did not think for a moment she was going to go into my office and disrobe.

She walks into my office and smiles. I follow and she lifts her shirt and bra and shows me her t*ts and says 'will this work?'.

I close and lock the door and we proceed to fvck on the nasty carpet of my Arlington office floor.

That was that. Lasted 10 minutes and never happened again. I left about 6 months later and haven't spoken with her since. 100% true.

This was 2009 and we are both still married to our spouses. I never cheated again. Can't speak for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here.

Had a beautiful married female coworker for 3 years. Never cheated but flirted constantly.One Friday afternoon she laments that her boorish BIL is visiting for the weekend and she hates spending time with him. Says she should post a playboy magazine in the guest room and maybe that would keep him in there longer.

I laugh and say 'but those are like $15 these days, too expensive!'

She says 'got any other suggestions?'

I jokingly say, 'why not just a self portrait, lol thats almost free'.

She says 'but who would take the picture?'

I joke that she can step into my office so I can see what Im working with.

This is all in the lobby of a well know Arlington consulting firm. I wasn't really trying to get her naked. I did not think for a moment she was going to go into my office and disrobe.

She walks into my office and smiles. I follow and she lifts her shirt and bra and shows me her t*ts and says 'will this work?'.

I close and lock the door and we proceed to fvck on the nasty carpet of my Arlington office floor.

That was that. Lasted 10 minutes and never happened again. I left about 6 months later and haven't spoken with her since. 100% true.

This was 2009 and we are both still married to our spouses. I never cheated again. Can't speak for her.

Not an affair. That’s a one night stand. Big difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here.

Had a beautiful married female coworker for 3 years. Never cheated but flirted constantly.One Friday afternoon she laments that her boorish BIL is visiting for the weekend and she hates spending time with him. Says she should post a playboy magazine in the guest room and maybe that would keep him in there longer.

I laugh and say 'but those are like $15 these days, too expensive!'

She says 'got any other suggestions?'

I jokingly say, 'why not just a self portrait, lol thats almost free'.

She says 'but who would take the picture?'

I joke that she can step into my office so I can see what Im working with.

This is all in the lobby of a well know Arlington consulting firm. I wasn't really trying to get her naked. I did not think for a moment she was going to go into my office and disrobe.

She walks into my office and smiles. I follow and she lifts her shirt and bra and shows me her t*ts and says 'will this work?'.

I close and lock the door and we proceed to fvck on the nasty carpet of my Arlington office floor.

That was that. Lasted 10 minutes and never happened again. I left about 6 months later and haven't spoken with her since. 100% true.

This was 2009 and we are both still married to our spouses. I never cheated again. Can't speak for her.

Not an affair. That’s a one night stand. Big difference.

I would wager that their spouses wouldn't care about the differences. If I found out that my wife let her co worker nail her on the office floor and dump a load of cum in her, I'd be on the phone with a divorce attorney within 10 minutes. That's nasty.

[Anonymous]

Bit of a different situation here... Woman here, early 40s, straight, married with kids. I’ve found that I’m intensely attracted to another woman (also straight, married with kids). It’s both physical and emotional. I swear I’m picking us on some vibes. I don’t want to cross the line too much but curious to know her feelings. How can I figure out in a subtle way without risking awkwardness?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here.

Had a beautiful married female coworker for 3 years. Never cheated but flirted constantly.One Friday afternoon she laments that her boorish BIL is visiting for the weekend and she hates spending time with him. Says she should post a playboy magazine in the guest room and maybe that would keep him in there longer.

I laugh and say 'but those are like $15 these days, too expensive!'

She says 'got any other suggestions?'

I jokingly say, 'why not just a self portrait, lol thats almost free'.

She says 'but who would take the picture?'

I joke that she can step into my office so I can see what Im working with.

This is all in the lobby of a well know Arlington consulting firm. I wasn't really trying to get her naked. I did not think for a moment she was going to go into my office and disrobe.

She walks into my office and smiles. I follow and she lifts her shirt and bra and shows me her t*ts and says 'will this work?'.

I close and lock the door and we proceed to fvck on the nasty carpet of my Arlington office floor.

That was that. Lasted 10 minutes and never happened again. I left about 6 months later and haven't spoken with her since. 100% true.

This was 2009 and we are both still married to our spouses. I never cheated again. Can't speak for her.

Not an affair. That’s a one night stand. Big difference.

I would wager that their spouses wouldn't care about the differences. If I found out that my wife let her co worker nail her on the office floor and dump a load of cum in her, I'd be on the phone with a divorce attorney within 10 minutes. That's nasty.

If my no-libido wife did this I would buy her a congratulations present for demonstrating some tangible evidence of human sexual desire.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very curious....aren't the APs in this thread afraid of being found out? Like wouldn't it matter to you that your spouse would be very upset and that could be the end of your marriage?

No I wouldn't mind. I've been "very unhappy" with my H's lack of interest in physical touch and sex for over 15 years. If our marriage ends because I need things that he is not interested in giving to me, then that's on both of us. I have told him, directly and many times, in front of a counsellor and when it's just the two of us, that perfunctory sex involving body parts but not shared intimacy sucks totally. He doesn't understand what more I want and won't be vulnerable to me. If he decides that me sharing intimacy, which he doesn't want to give or receive, emotional and physical, is the end of our otherwise okay marriage, that's his choice. He would never admit it, but I think deep down he's relieved that he doesn't have to respond to me on other than a logistical level.

What happened here?? Did you buy into the ‘ no sex before marriage’ tripe?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here.

Had a beautiful married female coworker for 3 years. Never cheated but flirted constantly.One Friday afternoon she laments that her boorish BIL is visiting for the weekend and she hates spending time with him. Says she should post a playboy magazine in the guest room and maybe that would keep him in there longer.

I laugh and say 'but those are like $15 these days, too expensive!'

She says 'got any other suggestions?'

I jokingly say, 'why not just a self portrait, lol thats almost free'.

She says 'but who would take the picture?'

I joke that she can step into my office so I can see what Im working with.

This is all in the lobby of a well know Arlington consulting firm. I wasn't really trying to get her naked. I did not think for a moment she was going to go into my office and disrobe.

She walks into my office and smiles. I follow and she lifts her shirt and bra and shows me her t*ts and says 'will this work?'.

I close and lock the door and we proceed to fvck on the nasty carpet of my Arlington office floor.

That was that. Lasted 10 minutes and never happened again. I left about 6 months later and haven't spoken with her since. 100% true.

This was 2009 and we are both still married to our spouses. I never cheated again. Can't speak for her.

Not an affair. That’s a one night stand. Big difference.

Built for 3 yrs.

The "lasted for 10 mins" might be the reason there wasn't an encore.

[Anonymous]

This was just a ONS but 5 years ago I was a month away from getting married but I had a mentor type crush on an older guy (I was 35, he was 60) I did business with. We had business dinners a couple of times a year so this occasion was no different except near the end I blurted out that "my only disappointment about getting married was never having sex with you." He laughed and said there was still time. So we got the check, got a room and had amazing sex. It was a crazy thing to do and has never been repeated and we still do business together and neither of us has mentioned it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here.

Had a beautiful married female coworker for 3 years. Never cheated but flirted constantly.One Friday afternoon she laments that her boorish BIL is visiting for the weekend and she hates spending time with him. Says she should post a playboy magazine in the guest room and maybe that would keep him in there longer.

I laugh and say 'but those are like $15 these days, too expensive!'

She says 'got any other suggestions?'

I jokingly say, 'why not just a self portrait, lol thats almost free'.

She says 'but who would take the picture?'

I joke that she can step into my office so I can see what Im working with.

This is all in the lobby of a well know Arlington consulting firm. I wasn't really trying to get her naked. I did not think for a moment she was going to go into my office and disrobe.

She walks into my office and smiles. I follow and she lifts her shirt and bra and shows me her t*ts and says 'will this work?'.

I close and lock the door and we proceed to fvck on the nasty carpet of my Arlington office floor.

That was that. Lasted 10 minutes and never happened again. I left about 6 months later and haven't spoken with her since. 100% true.

This was 2009 and we are both still married to our spouses. I never cheated again. Can't speak for her.

Not an affair. That’s a one night stand. Big difference.

Built for 3 yrs.

The "lasted for 10 mins" might be the reason there wasn't an encore.

Oh, she came. There was a puddle on the floor that left a stain that was there until I left. I thought she realized she liked it too much and there were two options

1- Let it be and pretend it never happened.

2- Begin divorce proceedings, figure out custody, un-mingle finances, move get labeled all sorts of nasty things by everyone she and her husband knew...

Sometimes all a crush needs is one good fvck. I know I don't need to go to Disneyworld again, but I sure did love the first time I went.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This was just a ONS but 5 years ago I was a month away from getting married but I had a mentor type crush on an older guy (I was 35, he was 60) I did business with. We had business dinners a couple of times a year so this occasion was no different except near the end I blurted out that "my only disappointment about getting married was never having sex with you." He laughed and said there was still time. So we got the check, got a room and had amazing sex. It was a crazy thing to do and has never been repeated and we still do business together and neither of us has mentioned it.

Amazing !
Was he married?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This was just a ONS but 5 years ago I was a month away from getting married but I had a mentor type crush on an older guy (I was 35, he was 60) I did business with. We had business dinners a couple of times a year so this occasion was no different except near the end I blurted out that "my only disappointment about getting married was never having sex with you." He laughed and said there was still time. So we got the check, got a room and had amazing sex. It was a crazy thing to do and has never been repeated and we still do business together and neither of us has mentioned it.

Amazing !
Was he married?

Not then, but he is now and she should be one happy lady.

[Anonymous]

Attracted to the head of my dpt. (Not my direct boss)
Pretty sure he is bored in his marriage (complains about his wife & spends most of the time doing sports/in business trips.
I don’t know how to make it happen...
(Love my job, no way I’m ruining it)