How do you get an affair/relationship started with another married person?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Attracted to the head of my dpt. (Not my direct boss)
Pretty sure he is bored in his marriage (complains about his wife & spends most of the time doing sports/in business trips.
I don’t know how to make it happen...
(Love my job, no way I’m ruining it)

Amateur! Seriously? Any non-overweight woman can have sex with any married man alive. He's married, so by definition he is deprived sexually and will jump at the first hint of a woman showing desire for him. Invite him out to coffee, sit close, smile alot, touch his arm, suggest you 2 should connect later for drinks.

[Anonymous]

Yes, amateur!
Never did that...
I’m scared of the consequences in case of rejection I guess.
Not overweight - actually pretty fit !
... And almost 20 years younger than him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, amateur!
Never did that...
I’m scared of the consequences in case of rejection I guess.
Not overweight - actually pretty fit !
... And almost 20 years younger than him

He's married. That means he has not experienced a woman's sexual desire in many years. Getting him into bed will be the easiest thing you've ever done. Just wear a low-cut shirt, lean over during coffee, suggest a drink after work. Enjoy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Attracted to the head of my dpt. (Not my direct boss)
Pretty sure he is bored in his marriage (complains about his wife & spends most of the time doing sports/in business trips.
I don’t know how to make it happen...
(Love my job, no way I’m ruining it)

don't want to ruin your job, but you're willing to ruin your marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Attracted to the head of my dpt. (Not my direct boss)
Pretty sure he is bored in his marriage (complains about his wife & spends most of the time doing sports/in business trips.
I don’t know how to make it happen...
(Love my job, no way I’m ruining it)

don't want to ruin your job, but you're willing to ruin your marriage?

Oh, I am single.

[Anonymous]

^^sure you are

[Anonymous]

Not easy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, amateur!
Never did that...
I’m scared of the consequences in case of rejection I guess.
Not overweight - actually pretty fit !
... And almost 20 years younger than him

He's married. That means he has not experienced a woman's sexual desire in many years. Getting him into bed will be the easiest thing you've ever done. Just wear a low-cut shirt, lean over during coffee, suggest a drink after work. Enjoy.

+1 here. ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bit of a different situation here... Woman here, early 40s, straight, married with kids. I’ve found that I’m intensely attracted to another woman (also straight, married with kids). It’s both physical and emotional. I swear I’m picking us on some vibes. I don’t want to cross the line too much but curious to know her feelings. How can I figure out in a subtle way without risking awkwardness?

Invite her out to dinner. Order clams. She’ll get the hint.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, amateur!
Never did that...
I’m scared of the consequences in case of rejection I guess.
Not overweight - actually pretty fit !
... And almost 20 years younger than him

He's married. That means he has not experienced a woman's sexual desire in many years. Getting him into bed will be the easiest thing you've ever done. Just wear a low-cut shirt, lean over during coffee, suggest a drink after work. Enjoy.

A dying plant just needs a little water...

[Anonymous]

I think someone is flirting with me in a plausibly deniable way. How do I respond without putting my cards on the table.

Second, the person flirting with me happens to be my doctor. He makes comments about my appearance and touches me a lot during every visit, but each specific item is deniable. So, he'll squeeze my shoulder two times per visit, compliment my smile, or say I always look nice, stare at me, etc. There is definitely a vibe.

I'm certain he's attracted, but I'm not certain where he wants it to go. It's maddening because I am so keen on him.

What does his behavior sound like and what should I do to make something happen? I'm afraid if I'm too subtle nothing will come of it, but if I come on strong it could be very embarrassing.

[Anonymous]

Same "Anonymous" here. I also forgot to mention that he's complimented both my personality and my actions as well as my looks. He's also asked me "how are things at home" (although I suppose this is something a doctor might ask). So...with everything I've said, do you think he is testing the waters for an affair? What would be the clearest sign?

[Anonymous]

^^^ that is so ethically wrong! I bet this doctor does thiat stuff with other patients

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^^ that is so ethically wrong! I bet this doctor does thiat stuff with other patients

Do you think he is testing the waters with me? Does this sound like more flirting than is normal?

When you say that he does that stuff with other patients, do you mean in a harmless way (as in him being over-friendly) or in a lecherous way? I'm having a very hard time reading this or figuring out how to take this to the next level. I am MASSIVELY attracted to this man and I talked to my husband and he agreed to an open relationship since our sex life has been non-existent for several years. I would even say something direct to this man...but will die of embarrassment if I've read this wrong and he's just being a harmless flirt with no intentions of it going anywhere.

[Anonymous]

That is gross for the doctor to be doing that.