Upstairs is off-limits to guests

[Anonymous]

Why does everyone assume using an extra bathroom upstairs means going into the master quarters? Most people with a home big enough to host a party have a bathroom in the hall. Is that off limits too? Why do you all assume people are explosively sh*tting everywhere? I would hope that people I’ve invited into my home feel welcome to use a hallway bathroom if the powder room is full or whatever.

You people are discrediting yourselves with these extremes. You sound loony beyond loony.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does everyone assume using an extra bathroom upstairs means going into the master quarters? Most people with a home big enough to host a party have a bathroom in the hall. Is that off limits too? Why do you all assume people are explosively sh*tting everywhere? I would hope that people I’ve invited into my home feel welcome to use a hallway bathroom if the powder room is full or whatever.

You people are discrediting yourselves with these extremes. You sound loony beyond loony.

I don't necessarily want you going into my teenagers' bathroom. They are responsible for cleaning it and while they keep it reasonably o.k. it really isn't a room meant for guests to see/use. Plus, my teens don't want to clean up whatever mess you might be making while your in there.

Guests should use the bathroom(s) provided for the guests.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why does everyone assume using an extra bathroom upstairs means going into the master quarters? Most people with a home big enough to host a party have a bathroom in the hall. Is that off limits too? Why do you all assume people are explosively sh*tting everywhere? I would hope that people I’ve invited into my home feel welcome to use a hallway bathroom if the powder room is full or whatever.

You people are discrediting yourselves with these extremes. You sound loony beyond loony.

I don't necessarily want you going into my teenagers' bathroom. They are responsible for cleaning it and while they keep it reasonably o.k. it really isn't a room meant for guests to see/use. Plus, my teens don't want to clean up whatever mess you might be making while your in there.

Guests should use the bathroom(s) provided for the guests.

+1 Each bathroom in our house has different people who use it and are responsible for cleaning it. It’s rude to assume that everyone has cleaners. We don’t.

We provide a bathroom for guests to use. That’s the one they should use. They are not welcome to use other bathrooms. They are not welcome to wander into any section of the house that has not been shown to them. They are not welcome to make themselves at home in my house unless specifically invited to do so.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why does everyone assume using an extra bathroom upstairs means going into the master quarters? Most people with a home big enough to host a party have a bathroom in the hall. Is that off limits too? Why do you all assume people are explosively sh*tting everywhere? I would hope that people I’ve invited into my home feel welcome to use a hallway bathroom if the powder room is full or whatever.

You people are discrediting yourselves with these extremes. You sound loony beyond loony.

I don't necessarily want you going into my teenagers' bathroom. They are responsible for cleaning it and while they keep it reasonably o.k. it really isn't a room meant for guests to see/use. Plus, my teens don't want to clean up whatever mess you might be making while your in there.

Guests should use the bathroom(s) provided for the guests.

+1 Each bathroom in our house has different people who use it and are responsible for cleaning it. It’s rude to assume that everyone has cleaners. We don’t.

We provide a bathroom for guests to use. That’s the one they should use. They are not welcome to use other bathrooms. They are not welcome to wander into any section of the house that has not been shown to them. They are not welcome to make themselves at home in my house unless specifically invited to do so.

Nobody assumes you have cleaners. I don’t think I’ve ever been to the home of someone who had cleaners. I guess it’s wrong to assume you maintain a basic standard of cleanliness and hygiene, but everyone has their flaws. Gross!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why does everyone assume using an extra bathroom upstairs means going into the master quarters? Most people with a home big enough to host a party have a bathroom in the hall. Is that off limits too? Why do you all assume people are explosively sh*tting everywhere? I would hope that people I’ve invited into my home feel welcome to use a hallway bathroom if the powder room is full or whatever.

You people are discrediting yourselves with these extremes. You sound loony beyond loony.

I don't necessarily want you going into my teenagers' bathroom. They are responsible for cleaning it and while they keep it reasonably o.k. it really isn't a room meant for guests to see/use. Plus, my teens don't want to clean up whatever mess you might be making while your in there.

Guests should use the bathroom(s) provided for the guests.

+1 Each bathroom in our house has different people who use it and are responsible for cleaning it. It’s rude to assume that everyone has cleaners. We don’t.

We provide a bathroom for guests to use. That’s the one they should use. They are not welcome to use other bathrooms. They are not welcome to wander into any section of the house that has not been shown to them. They are not welcome to make themselves at home in my house unless specifically invited to do so.

Nobody assumes you have cleaners. I don’t think I’ve ever been to the home of someone who had cleaners. I guess it’s wrong to assume you maintain a basic standard of cleanliness and hygiene, but everyone has their flaws. Gross!

My teens do not want to clean up after you. That is all you need to know. Stay out of their bathroom.

[Anonymous]

You people who make it a point to sneak into private areas of your host's home are doing so in order to find something to be scandalized about, aren't you? Because you are nosy and a gossip. Just admit it.

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Anonymous wrote:A fan does not disguise the sounds of pooping, and a match doesn’t get rid of the smell entirely. So I will continue to use the bathroom upstairs when I need to poop or if I have an explosive bowel movement.

And you will never be invited back

+1.

Learn to say, “Not to be indelicate, but may I use an upstairs bathroom?”

No one talks like that. I have never heard. Anyone use the word “indelicate “ like that.

Look, if I have to have an explosive bowel movement, I’m going to run upstairs without anyone noticing, find the master bathroom, and have at it.

And if the master bedroom door is closed? You would just go in anyway?

What do you think?

What do *I* think? I think I've NEVER open someone's master bedroom door without an explicit invitation. But this thread isn't about me, because I'm not an animal who thinks it's appropriate to poop in others' private spaces that they don't want me in. So I guess I wouldn't know.

I'm wondering what would you do if someone was changing? Or having sex? Or doing something else private in their own bedroom that you just barged into? Would you even feel embarrassed? Or that social discomfort is all just par for the course for these people?

If you are upstairs having sex while hosting a party, you deserve to be barged in on.

And if you are barging into someone else's bedroom you are a creeper and weirdo.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why does everyone assume using an extra bathroom upstairs means going into the master quarters? Most people with a home big enough to host a party have a bathroom in the hall. Is that off limits too? Why do you all assume people are explosively sh*tting everywhere? I would hope that people I’ve invited into my home feel welcome to use a hallway bathroom if the powder room is full or whatever.

You people are discrediting yourselves with these extremes. You sound loony beyond loony.

I don't necessarily want you going into my teenagers' bathroom. They are responsible for cleaning it and while they keep it reasonably o.k. it really isn't a room meant for guests to see/use. Plus, my teens don't want to clean up whatever mess you might be making while your in there.

Guests should use the bathroom(s) provided for the guests.

+1 Each bathroom in our house has different people who use it and are responsible for cleaning it. It’s rude to assume that everyone has cleaners. We don’t.

We provide a bathroom for guests to use. That’s the one they should use. They are not welcome to use other bathrooms. They are not welcome to wander into any section of the house that has not been shown to them. They are not welcome to make themselves at home in my house unless specifically invited to do so.

Why even host? Really? Your tone is so terribly unwelcoming and miserable. Truly.

[Anonymous]

So many extremes here!

Guests shouldn't go snooping into private places in a guests home.

Hosts shouldn't blow their top if someone walks into the wrong bathroom if the bathroom isn't inside of a closed door bedroom. When you gotta go you gotta go.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why does everyone assume using an extra bathroom upstairs means going into the master quarters? Most people with a home big enough to host a party have a bathroom in the hall. Is that off limits too? Why do you all assume people are explosively sh*tting everywhere? I would hope that people I’ve invited into my home feel welcome to use a hallway bathroom if the powder room is full or whatever.

You people are discrediting yourselves with these extremes. You sound loony beyond loony.

I don't necessarily want you going into my teenagers' bathroom. They are responsible for cleaning it and while they keep it reasonably o.k. it really isn't a room meant for guests to see/use. Plus, my teens don't want to clean up whatever mess you might be making while your in there.

Guests should use the bathroom(s) provided for the guests.

+1 Each bathroom in our house has different people who use it and are responsible for cleaning it. It’s rude to assume that everyone has cleaners. We don’t.

We provide a bathroom for guests to use. That’s the one they should use. They are not welcome to use other bathrooms. They are not welcome to wander into any section of the house that has not been shown to them. They are not welcome to make themselves at home in my house unless specifically invited to do so.

Why even host? Really? Your tone is so terribly unwelcoming and miserable. Truly.

Oh, excuse me that I didn't get the chance to scour my master bedroom and bathroom to your specifications. Sorry that the nice dinner, the lovely public areas of my house, the well appointed powder room and plenty of parking outside weren't enough for you. It's not enough that my teens cleared their own vehicles out of the driveway and parked them down the street so that you would have a place to park, now you expect them to clean up your sh*t in their bathroom. I'm sure that hosts are falling all over themselves to invite you to their parties. Not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many extremes here!

Guests shouldn't go snooping into private places in a guests home.

Hosts shouldn't blow their top if someone walks into the wrong bathroom if the bathroom isn't inside of a closed door bedroom. When you gotta go you gotta go.

Guests have no business walking down hallways and opening doors to find a bathroom that they have not been invited to use. Wait for the powder room.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So many extremes here!

Guests shouldn't go snooping into private places in a guests home.

Hosts shouldn't blow their top if someone walks into the wrong bathroom if the bathroom isn't inside of a closed door bedroom. When you gotta go you gotta go.

Guests have no business walking down hallways and opening doors to find a bathroom that they have not been invited to use. Wait for the powder room.

I mean you do you but unless I find someone opening dresser drawers I'm not gonna lose my mind. People should be able to look for a bathroom if they need to go.

At the end of the day it is nuance. I think its generally clear if you catch someone snooping vs someone looking for a bathroom and getting kind of lost. As a gracious host I'm not gonna get all pissy with the latter. With the former I'd keep my eye on them and give them a little bit of a side eye to hopefully socially embarrass them into behaving better.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So many extremes here!

Guests shouldn't go snooping into private places in a guests home.

Hosts shouldn't blow their top if someone walks into the wrong bathroom if the bathroom isn't inside of a closed door bedroom. When you gotta go you gotta go.

Guests have no business walking down hallways and opening doors to find a bathroom that they have not been invited to use. Wait for the powder room.

I mean you do you but unless I find someone opening dresser drawers I'm not gonna lose my mind. People should be able to look for a bathroom if they need to go.

At the end of the day it is nuance. I think its generally clear if you catch someone snooping vs someone looking for a bathroom and getting kind of lost. As a gracious host I'm not gonna get all pissy with the latter. With the former I'd keep my eye on them and give them a little bit of a side eye to hopefully socially embarrass them into behaving better.

I'm not going to go off on a guest. But depending on the circumstances of their intrusion I may never welcome them back again.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So many extremes here!

Guests shouldn't go snooping into private places in a guests home.

Hosts shouldn't blow their top if someone walks into the wrong bathroom if the bathroom isn't inside of a closed door bedroom. When you gotta go you gotta go.

Guests have no business walking down hallways and opening doors to find a bathroom that they have not been invited to use. Wait for the powder room.

Again, I’m using the upstairs master to poop during a party. Not sure why it’s so hard to accept

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why does everyone assume using an extra bathroom upstairs means going into the master quarters? Most people with a home big enough to host a party have a bathroom in the hall. Is that off limits too? Why do you all assume people are explosively sh*tting everywhere? I would hope that people I’ve invited into my home feel welcome to use a hallway bathroom if the powder room is full or whatever.

You people are discrediting yourselves with these extremes. You sound loony beyond loony.

I don't necessarily want you going into my teenagers' bathroom. They are responsible for cleaning it and while they keep it reasonably o.k. it really isn't a room meant for guests to see/use. Plus, my teens don't want to clean up whatever mess you might be making while your in there.

Guests should use the bathroom(s) provided for the guests.

+1 Each bathroom in our house has different people who use it and are responsible for cleaning it. It’s rude to assume that everyone has cleaners. We don’t.

We provide a bathroom for guests to use. That’s the one they should use. They are not welcome to use other bathrooms. They are not welcome to wander into any section of the house that has not been shown to them. They are not welcome to make themselves at home in my house unless specifically invited to do so.

Nobody assumes you have cleaners. I don’t think I’ve ever been to the home of someone who had cleaners. I guess it’s wrong to assume you maintain a basic standard of cleanliness and hygiene, but everyone has their flaws. Gross!

My teens do not want to clean up after you. That is all you need to know. Stay out of their bathroom.

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It’s not that I care whether a pooper or a snooper think my hygiene is good enough. I don’t. On the contrary, I don’t want them to spread their own filth around the house where someone else in my family would need to deal with it.

It’s really not that hard to use a guest bathroom!