I was cheated on. Move on, don’t wallow in it. |
Not cheaters, just normal people weighing in. |
Sometimes it takes a little nudge for karma to happen. I feel absolutely zero guilt in notifying both XH’s and his AP’s work colleagues and supervisors of their affair. I’m just helping them own it. That it effects their security clearances is not my concern. Their actions, their consequences. |
It’s just such a crazy move. It’s hard to understand a personality that would care about something like this. |
Agree. Deciding to become an adulterer is a crazy move! |
It’s not a power move to expect colleagues to give a shit about your marriage. It’s tacky and weak, and will certainly make the person screeching about her betrayal look like an utter crackpot and loser. I’m not an OW, but I have been at a workplace where a spouse did this and no one cared after like a week of gossip. Believe what you will, but it’s not a winning look, and that is independent of the lack of ethics in adultery. Keep your shit private. |
Nope! I’ll never see the adulterers’ colleagues again. Their opinion of me means nothing. The adulterers on the other hand had professional reputations to worry about and if I negatively affected how their supervisors and colleagues view them, that is good enough for me. It’s their own actions that brought this on, not mine. |
You didn’t. Plenty of CEOs are/were cheaters. It only makes you look crazy and makes people sympathize with the cheater for cheating |
Maybe I did and maybe I didn’t. I didn’t mind at all taking five minutes out of my day to send out an e-mail letting folks know about the adulterers. The aftermath is not something I concerned myself with. |
Of course it is, otherwise you would have no motive to even bother. |
| This thread reminds me of the crazy astronaut lady |
That's the crazy part! So many cheaters in this world. I knew that my so-called friends who supported my cheating ex were either cheaters themselves or had been cheated on and accepted the betrayal of their own spouse so they felt uncomfortable consoling me. You never know who walks among us. |
| Maybe they didn’t console you because they see you’re a pain in the ass, and they didn’t blame your ex. |
Agree with the PP who says it's tacky, weak and crazy to do this. We had this happen and everyone thought the person was deranged. The hot gossip was entertaining for a few days but one colleague even remarked how he'd cheat on that level of crazy too and sympathized with our cheating coworker. Maybe they felt uncomfortable consoling you because you were acting completely unhinged. |
It's tacky, weak and crazy to cheat. You really think a woman or man that has to sneak into a Marriott at different times to not be seen or is having sex in a parking lot in their 40s/50s with strangers or their AP is CLASSY? Do you think the woman leaving her kids with her husband while she lies about going to sleepover at her 'girlfriends' house' in middle age is a classy act? Or---having her lover dive tuck and roll into her car when he lies and says he is going to the gym and she picks him up to bang him at the Hyatt. These are not classy people. Lying and being deceitful and acting like a horny teenager in middle age is the opposite of class. It is weak, tacky and smacks of absolutely zero impulse control and poor morals/character/integrity. It's pretty cute to see the cheaters try to flip the switch and call everyone else 'tacky'...the ones blowing strangers off of Ashley Madison and Tinder. |