Did you take revenge on a cheater or the other man/woman?

[Anonymous]

I had two ideas.

Spray WHORE on her car with spray paint and call the division of banks to report her for bank fraud. She works at a bank where I have accounts and I'm pretty sure she did some things that would warrant an investigation. Won't get into details but I worked in that area so I know what the rules are. Also considered having her served a subpoena at her job for a deposition.

The spray painted car idea was my favorite fantasy.

In the end, did none of that. Didn't even depose her. Life is too short to engage in negative behavior. I wouldn't have felt comfortable with myself. She's the same loser without my help.

[Anonymous]

The best revenge is karma. Let it happen naturally and just move on and be happy that they loser isn’t your responsibility anymore. I’m happy and laughing all the way. Kara continues to hurt his sorry a$$.

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Anonymous wrote:I divorced him. I never once blamed the other woman - she meant nothing to me. He was the one who broke his vows to me, not her. I never even met her.

I never once lost my dignity which I do consider the best revenge. He was a crying mess.

Bravo👏🏻

This woman has class.

Yes. Unlike the cheaters.

+1 Bending over for a married man in your husband’s bed or a Marriott Courtyard is definitely not class.

You are right to leave those scumbags alone.

Talk about pure trash. Leaving and entering separate, looking over your shoulder in the hotel parking lot. Downright hooker.

Ha! This made me LOL. So true!

So trashy. I can’t believe these middle aged people pulling this nasty lowlife sh@t. Have some self-respect. I could never sneak around and lie and whore myself out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The best revenge is karma. Let it happen naturally and just move on and be happy that they loser isn’t your responsibility anymore. I’m happy and laughing all the way. Kara continues to hurt his sorry a$$.

Where's my cheaters karma? He's still rich with a young but chunky gf at his side who eats up all his money and pays him attention.

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Anonymous wrote:Both cheaters AND revenge-seeking crazies can be trashy.

Obviously sneaking around at motels is messed up and gross, but it doesn't change that running around obsessed with ruining AP/OW's life and calling anyone who doesn't jump to your defence a cheater as well is really unstable behavior. Get some therapy and make peace with what happened. You were wronged, but if you carry this energy around with you, you will lose friends (because they are sick of your ranting) and damage your chance at future relationships. Going to someone's workplace or sending their boss emails is absolutely trashy, and you will get dismissed as a psycho.

When I was 18 or so a 26 yr old guy and I se x Ted and video cammed. He said he had a girlfriend and they were always on and off but when I talked to him it was off. Anyway he gave me his website and email pass code because I was doing some of his web designing. We had met online on a date app. So when I log back In to his email he was emailing his coworker reminding her of a time when they f c k Ed and she blew him. His girlfriend worked with him and by the hardcore back and forth they were still on. Guess what happened next? And if its trashy to expose a cheater well I prefer it than mental anguish for not speaking up. That would make me trash.

How does all the name-calling and hypotheticals about you yourself being trash help you? It’s all insanity. There’s a reason calmer adults on the thread find posts like yours revolting. You’re far more dramatic than those dastardly cheating (I guess? Who can tell from your post) dogs.

I'm dramatic? Nope the cheater was. Funny how you and other "adults" defend immoral cheaters. To say ' just move on' says a lot about how you view and accept immoral behavior with no consideration for the people the cheater hurt.

No one else is “accepting it” or not. They don’t care, they weren’t married to them. If YOU don’t want to accept, get divorced. What are you expecting other people to do??

If the so called adults responding can't relate or don't care about the topic they need to stop responding and butt out.

You’re such a goddamned child.

She’s asking what you expect out of third parties when you’ve made it clear you envision middle-school reactions:

I always hated him!

Let’s go punch the whore!

You didn’t deserve that, girl! You’re a queen! Let’s slash his tires and give each other alibis!

Let’s draft a global email to tell everyone at his job!

Normal people will never react in this way. Ever. Sorry you’re learning this at your advanced age.

Tbh IDGAF what the critics say about my story or if they're supportive or not. Its obvious they are in full support of immoral behavior. People who fell in love especially at 18! Don't think rationally. So don't be stupid and say in your condescending tone "goddamned child" or "normal people". The reason normal people hate cheaters is because they know it brought out irrational behavior. Love is that way. Get it b i t ch?

[Anonymous]

So few stories of actual revenge here. Those would be fun. Because ... nutters.

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Anonymous wrote:Life takes care of trash.

Cheaters are unhappy and continually look for outside fixes like strange D@ck to get to fix it. They will continue to be miserable because they never face the hard issues or deal with their underlying low self esteem or mental issues.

Karma will handle it.

If you live a life of lies and continual lily trying to remember your cover story, you will never have peace. They also can’t trust others because of the way they live their own lives.

Sometimes it takes a little nudge for karma to happen. I feel absolutely zero guilt in notifying both XH’s and his AP’s work colleagues and supervisors of their affair. I’m just helping them own it. That it effects their security clearances is not my concern. Their actions, their consequences.

It’s just such a crazy move. It’s hard to understand a personality that would care about something like this.

Agree. Deciding to become an adulterer is a crazy move!

It’s not a power move to expect colleagues to give a shit about your marriage. It’s tacky and weak, and will certainly make the person screeching about her betrayal look like an utter crackpot and loser. I’m not an OW, but I have been at a workplace where a spouse did this and no one cared after like a week of gossip. Believe what you will, but it’s not a winning look, and that is independent of the lack of ethics in adultery. Keep your shit private.

Nope! I’ll never see the adulterers’ colleagues again. Their opinion of me means nothing. The adulterers on the other hand had professional reputations to worry about and if I negatively affected how their supervisors and colleagues view them, that is good enough for me. It’s their own actions that brought this on, not mine.

We’ve had a jilted spouse “notifying” the coworkers, showing up at the office and later killing their spouse. It is now a company policy to report anything like that to police as stalking since we have no idea how it might end and where it might go. We also strongly advise the spouse to get an order of protection. Bottom line, once you reach out to coworkers, all sympathy is now your spouse’s side because dealing with mental illness at home is hard.

[Anonymous]

^ and just as many times it’s a jilted AP/OM/OW that invites the violence.

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Anonymous wrote:^ and just as many times it’s a jilted AP/OM/OW that invites the violence.

Incites, not invites

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Both cheaters AND revenge-seeking crazies can be trashy.

Obviously sneaking around at motels is messed up and gross, but it doesn't change that running around obsessed with ruining AP/OW's life and calling anyone who doesn't jump to your defence a cheater as well is really unstable behavior. Get some therapy and make peace with what happened. You were wronged, but if you carry this energy around with you, you will lose friends (because they are sick of your ranting) and damage your chance at future relationships. Going to someone's workplace or sending their boss emails is absolutely trashy, and you will get dismissed as a psycho.

When I was 18 or so a 26 yr old guy and I se x Ted and video cammed. He said he had a girlfriend and they were always on and off but when I talked to him it was off. Anyway he gave me his website and email pass code because I was doing some of his web designing. We had met online on a date app. So when I log back In to his email he was emailing his coworker reminding her of a time when they f c k Ed and she blew him. His girlfriend worked with him and by the hardcore back and forth they were still on. Guess what happened next? And if its trashy to expose a cheater well I prefer it than mental anguish for not speaking up. That would make me trash.

How does all the name-calling and hypotheticals about you yourself being trash help you? It’s all insanity. There’s a reason calmer adults on the thread find posts like yours revolting. You’re far more dramatic than those dastardly cheating (I guess? Who can tell from your post) dogs.

I'm dramatic? Nope the cheater was. Funny how you and other "adults" defend immoral cheaters. To say ' just move on' says a lot about how you view and accept immoral behavior with no consideration for the people the cheater hurt.

No one else is “accepting it” or not. They don’t care, they weren’t married to them. If YOU don’t want to accept, get divorced. What are you expecting other people to do??

If the so called adults responding can't relate or don't care about the topic they need to stop responding and butt out.

You’re such a goddamned child.

She’s asking what you expect out of third parties when you’ve made it clear you envision middle-school reactions:

I always hated him!

Let’s go punch the whore!

You didn’t deserve that, girl! You’re a queen! Let’s slash his tires and give each other alibis!

Let’s draft a global email to tell everyone at his job!

Normal people will never react in this way. Ever. Sorry you’re learning this at your advanced age.

Tbh IDGAF what the critics say about my story or if they're supportive or not. Its obvious they are in full support of immoral behavior. People who fell in love especially at 18! Don't think rationally. So don't be stupid and say in your condescending tone "goddamned child" or "normal people". The reason normal people hate cheaters is because they know it brought out irrational behavior. Love is that way. Get it b i t ch?

So, love makes you irrational and abusive?

Get help before you get yourself in some deep shit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ and just as many times it’s a jilted AP/OM/OW that invites the violence.

We’ll report that too. Once you show up or reach out to a workplace that is not your own, we want to make sure you stay far, far away.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Every time I see people who revel in revenge so much, all I can think is “it’s no wonder you were cheated on.” You’re not the innocent party you try convince yourself you are.

Agree. You were an active part of the many reasons why your marriage was troubled. And it isn't victim blaming- it is acknowledging that marital problems are deeper than cheating. Cheating is a symptom of a bad marriage, not the cause.

I don't cosign on the revenge but I had a good married and a cheating spouse. He was broken, not me and our marriage was a happy one but he needed constant affirmation from new women to boost his esteem. Sometimes cheating is about the marriage but all the time, every time, it is about the cheater.

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Anonymous wrote:Every time I see people who revel in revenge so much, all I can think is “it’s no wonder you were cheated on.” You’re not the innocent party you try convince yourself you are.

Agree. You were an active part of the many reasons why your marriage was troubled. And it isn't victim blaming- it is acknowledging that marital problems are deeper than cheating. Cheating is a symptom of a bad marriage, not the cause.

I don't cosign on the revenge but I had a good married and a cheating spouse. He was broken, not me and our marriage was a happy one but he needed constant affirmation from new women to boost his esteem. Sometimes cheating is about the marriage but all the time, every time, it is about the cheater.

Then I would not consider that a good and happy marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:I divorced him. I never once blamed the other woman - she meant nothing to me. He was the one who broke his vows to me, not her. I never even met her.

I never once lost my dignity which I do consider the best revenge. He was a crying mess.

Bravo👏🏻

This woman has class.

Yes. Unlike the cheaters.

+1 Bending over for a married man in your husband’s bed or a Marriott Courtyard is definitely not class.

You are right to leave those scumbags alone.

Talk about pure trash. Leaving and entering separate, looking over your shoulder in the hotel parking lot. Downright hooker.

Ha! This made me LOL. So true!

So trashy. I can’t believe these middle aged people pulling this nasty lowlife sh@t. Have some self-respect. I could never sneak around and lie and whore myself out.

Ha! The bolded really capturee what it's all about! Secret payments to Fairfield Inns and Courtyard Marriotts...stroking egos...and other things. And don't forget "talking" and making out in remote parking lots! All while pushing 50 years old...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Both cheaters AND revenge-seeking crazies can be trashy.

Obviously sneaking around at motels is messed up and gross, but it doesn't change that running around obsessed with ruining AP/OW's life and calling anyone who doesn't jump to your defence a cheater as well is really unstable behavior. Get some therapy and make peace with what happened. You were wronged, but if you carry this energy around with you, you will lose friends (because they are sick of your ranting) and damage your chance at future relationships. Going to someone's workplace or sending their boss emails is absolutely trashy, and you will get dismissed as a psycho.

When I was 18 or so a 26 yr old guy and I se x Ted and video cammed. He said he had a girlfriend and they were always on and off but when I talked to him it was off. Anyway he gave me his website and email pass code because I was doing some of his web designing. We had met online on a date app. So when I log back In to his email he was emailing his coworker reminding her of a time when they f c k Ed and she blew him. His girlfriend worked with him and by the hardcore back and forth they were still on. Guess what happened next? And if its trashy to expose a cheater well I prefer it than mental anguish for not speaking up. That would make me trash.

How does all the name-calling and hypotheticals about you yourself being trash help you? It’s all insanity. There’s a reason calmer adults on the thread find posts like yours revolting. You’re far more dramatic than those dastardly cheating (I guess? Who can tell from your post) dogs.

I'm dramatic? Nope the cheater was. Funny how you and other "adults" defend immoral cheaters. To say ' just move on' says a lot about how you view and accept immoral behavior with no consideration for the people the cheater hurt.

No one else is “accepting it” or not. They don’t care, they weren’t married to them. If YOU don’t want to accept, get divorced. What are you expecting other people to do??

If the so called adults responding can't relate or don't care about the topic they need to stop responding and butt out.

You’re such a goddamned child.

She’s asking what you expect out of third parties when you’ve made it clear you envision middle-school reactions:

I always hated him!

Let’s go punch the whore!

You didn’t deserve that, girl! You’re a queen! Let’s slash his tires and give each other alibis!

Let’s draft a global email to tell everyone at his job!

Normal people will never react in this way. Ever. Sorry you’re learning this at your advanced age.

Tbh IDGAF what the critics say about my story or if they're supportive or not. Its obvious they are in full support of immoral behavior. People who fell in love especially at 18! Don't think rationally. So don't be stupid and say in your condescending tone "goddamned child" or "normal people". The reason normal people hate cheaters is because they know it brought out irrational behavior. Love is that way. Get it b i t ch?

You’re psychotic white trash. No wonder he humiliated you.