Did you take revenge on a cheater or the other man/woman?

[Anonymous]

Signing up for a dating app when you are married is the epitome of classless. Displaying your nasty middle aged bodies all over the Internet for other depressed losers to gawk at because you are so lacking in self esteem or your own spouse can't stand to bang you. I'm talking about both genders here. Losers attract losers.

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Anonymous wrote:Life takes care of trash.

Cheaters are unhappy and continually look for outside fixes like strange D@ck to get to fix it. They will continue to be miserable because they never face the hard issues or deal with their underlying low self esteem or mental issues.

Karma will handle it.

If you live a life of lies and continual lily trying to remember your cover story, you will never have peace. They also can’t trust others because of the way they live their own lives.

Sometimes it takes a little nudge for karma to happen. I feel absolutely zero guilt in notifying both XH’s and his AP’s work colleagues and supervisors of their affair. I’m just helping them own it. That it effects their security clearances is not my concern. Their actions, their consequences.

It’s just such a crazy move. It’s hard to understand a personality that would care about something like this.

Agree. Deciding to become an adulterer is a crazy move!

It’s not a power move to expect colleagues to give a shit about your marriage. It’s tacky and weak, and will certainly make the person screeching about her betrayal look like an utter crackpot and loser. I’m not an OW, but I have been at a workplace where a spouse did this and no one cared after like a week of gossip. Believe what you will, but it’s not a winning look, and that is independent of the lack of ethics in adultery. Keep your shit private.

Nope! I’ll never see the adulterers’ colleagues again. Their opinion of me means nothing. The adulterers on the other hand had professional reputations to worry about and if I negatively affected how their supervisors and colleagues view them, that is good enough for me. It’s their own actions that brought this on, not mine.

You didn’t. Plenty of CEOs are/were cheaters. It only makes you look crazy and makes people sympathize with the cheater for cheating

That's the crazy part! So many cheaters in this world. I knew that my so-called friends who supported my cheating ex were either cheaters themselves or had been cheated on and accepted the betrayal of their own spouse so they felt uncomfortable consoling me. You never know who walks among us.

Agree with the PP who says it's tacky, weak and crazy to do this. We had this happen and everyone thought the person was deranged. The hot gossip was entertaining for a few days but one colleague even remarked how he'd cheat on that level of crazy too and sympathized with our cheating coworker.

Maybe they felt uncomfortable consoling you because you were acting completely unhinged.

It's tacky, weak and crazy to cheat. You really think a woman or man that has to sneak into a Marriott at different times to not be seen or is having sex in a parking lot in their 40s/50s with strangers or their AP is CLASSY? Do you think the woman leaving her kids with her husband while she lies about going to sleepover at her 'girlfriends' house' in middle age is a classy act? Or---having her lover dive tuck and roll into her car when he lies and says he is going to the gym and she picks him up to bang him at the Hyatt.

These are not classy people. Lying and being deceitful and acting like a horny teenager in middle age is the opposite of class. It is weak, tacky and smacks of absolutely zero impulse control and poor morals/character/integrity. It's pretty cute to see the cheaters try to flip the switch and call everyone else 'tacky'...the ones blowing strangers off of Ashley Madison and Tinder.

Yeah. I had to laugh at the ones screwing in the shadows and telling lies stating they are the epitome of class and decorum. Blowing strangers, not even for $ behind your spouse's back doesn't make it classy because it is not at a Motel 6.

[Anonymous]

Both cheaters AND revenge-seeking crazies can be trashy.

Obviously sneaking around at motels is messed up and gross, but it doesn't change that running around obsessed with ruining AP/OW's life and calling anyone who doesn't jump to your defence a cheater as well is really unstable behavior. Get some therapy and make peace with what happened. You were wronged, but if you carry this energy around with you, you will lose friends (because they are sick of your ranting) and damage your chance at future relationships. Going to someone's workplace or sending their boss emails is absolutely trashy, and you will get dismissed as a psycho.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both cheaters AND revenge-seeking crazies can be trashy.

Obviously sneaking around at motels is messed up and gross, but it doesn't change that running around obsessed with ruining AP/OW's life and calling anyone who doesn't jump to your defence a cheater as well is really unstable behavior. Get some therapy and make peace with what happened. You were wronged, but if you carry this energy around with you, you will lose friends (because they are sick of your ranting) and damage your chance at future relationships. Going to someone's workplace or sending their boss emails is absolutely trashy, and you will get dismissed as a psycho.

Yes to all of this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are the cheaters weighing in? The question is for those that were betrayed.

I was cheated on. Move on, don’t wallow in it.

How many years did you spend with the cheater? And how many times to your knowledge were you cheated on?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both cheaters AND revenge-seeking crazies can be trashy.

Obviously sneaking around at motels is messed up and gross, but it doesn't change that running around obsessed with ruining AP/OW's life and calling anyone who doesn't jump to your defence a cheater as well is really unstable behavior. Get some therapy and make peace with what happened. You were wronged, but if you carry this energy around with you, you will lose friends (because they are sick of your ranting) and damage your chance at future relationships. Going to someone's workplace or sending their boss emails is absolutely trashy, and you will get dismissed as a psycho.

The average betrayed spouse tells nobody, minus a true close friend, and/or their therapist.

The average cheater does all of the things mentioned and often much worse.

Anyone that has children is not running around screaming about their spouse. Revenge FANTASIES, on the other hand, are quite common. But they are 'fantasies'.

I would not place sending a cheater's spouse an email with just the facts in the category of revenge. This is courtesy.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are the cheaters weighing in? The question is for those that were betrayed.

I was cheated on. Move on, don’t wallow in it.

How many years did you spend with the cheater? And how many times to your knowledge were you cheated on?

Who cares? Move on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Life takes care of trash.

Cheaters are unhappy and continually look for outside fixes like strange D@ck to get to fix it. They will continue to be miserable because they never face the hard issues or deal with their underlying low self esteem or mental issues.

Karma will handle it.

If you live a life of lies and continual lily trying to remember your cover story, you will never have peace. They also can’t trust others because of the way they live their own lives.

Sometimes it takes a little nudge for karma to happen. I feel absolutely zero guilt in notifying both XH’s and his AP’s work colleagues and supervisors of their affair. I’m just helping them own it. That it effects their security clearances is not my concern. Their actions, their consequences.

It’s just such a crazy move. It’s hard to understand a personality that would care about something like this.

Agree. Deciding to become an adulterer is a crazy move!

It’s not a power move to expect colleagues to give a shit about your marriage. It’s tacky and weak, and will certainly make the person screeching about her betrayal look like an utter crackpot and loser. I’m not an OW, but I have been at a workplace where a spouse did this and no one cared after like a week of gossip. Believe what you will, but it’s not a winning look, and that is independent of the lack of ethics in adultery. Keep your shit private.

Nope! I’ll never see the adulterers’ colleagues again. Their opinion of me means nothing. The adulterers on the other hand had professional reputations to worry about and if I negatively affected how their supervisors and colleagues view them, that is good enough for me. It’s their own actions that brought this on, not mine.

You didn’t. Plenty of CEOs are/were cheaters. It only makes you look crazy and makes people sympathize with the cheater for cheating

That's the crazy part! So many cheaters in this world. I knew that my so-called friends who supported my cheating ex were either cheaters themselves or had been cheated on and accepted the betrayal of their own spouse so they felt uncomfortable consoling me. You never know who walks among us.

Agree with the PP who says it's tacky, weak and crazy to do this. We had this happen and everyone thought the person was deranged. The hot gossip was entertaining for a few days but one colleague even remarked how he'd cheat on that level of crazy too and sympathized with our cheating coworker.

Maybe they felt uncomfortable consoling you because you were acting completely unhinged.

It's tacky, weak and crazy to cheat. You really think a woman or man that has to sneak into a Marriott at different times to not be seen or is having sex in a parking lot in their 40s/50s with strangers or their AP is CLASSY? Do you think the woman leaving her kids with her husband while she lies about going to sleepover at her 'girlfriends' house' in middle age is a classy act? Or---having her lover dive tuck and roll into her car when he lies and says he is going to the gym and she picks him up to bang him at the Hyatt.

These are not classy people. Lying and being deceitful and acting like a horny teenager in middle age is the opposite of class. It is weak, tacky and smacks of absolutely zero impulse control and poor morals/character/integrity. It's pretty cute to see the cheaters try to flip the switch and call everyone else 'tacky'...the ones blowing strangers off of Ashley Madison and Tinder.

Yeah. I had to laugh at the ones screwing in the shadows and telling lies stating they are the epitome of class and decorum. Blowing strangers, not even for $ behind your spouse's back doesn't make it classy because it is not at a Motel 6.

Pure trash. Being a mother, it really grosses me out that women can sell their own kids out for some strange D. Double standard or what, but I'm coming at it from a mother's standpoint and I can't imagine ditching my kids for D.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both cheaters AND revenge-seeking crazies can be trashy.

Obviously sneaking around at motels is messed up and gross, but it doesn't change that running around obsessed with ruining AP/OW's life and calling anyone who doesn't jump to your defence a cheater as well is really unstable behavior. Get some therapy and make peace with what happened. You were wronged, but if you carry this energy around with you, you will lose friends (because they are sick of your ranting) and damage your chance at future relationships. Going to someone's workplace or sending their boss emails is absolutely trashy, and you will get dismissed as a psycho.

When I was 18 or so a 26 yr old guy and I se x Ted and video cammed. He said he had a girlfriend and they were always on and off but when I talked to him it was off. Anyway he gave me his website and email pass code because I was doing some of his web designing. We had met online on a date app. So when I log back In to his email he was emailing his coworker reminding her of a time when they f c k Ed and she blew him. His girlfriend worked with him and by the hardcore back and forth they were still on. Guess what happened next? And if its trashy to expose a cheater well I prefer it than mental anguish for not speaking up. That would make me trash.

[Anonymous]

I'm the pp and I have to mention that his girlfriend turned out to be pregnant with the cheaters kid while he was sleeping or sex tng other women. Men are trash.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are the cheaters weighing in? The question is for those that were betrayed.

I was cheated on. Move on, don’t wallow in it.

How many years did you spend with the cheater? And how many times to your knowledge were you cheated on?

Who cares? Move on.

I care. You wasted my f c king time. Mine and yours.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Both cheaters AND revenge-seeking crazies can be trashy.

Obviously sneaking around at motels is messed up and gross, but it doesn't change that running around obsessed with ruining AP/OW's life and calling anyone who doesn't jump to your defence a cheater as well is really unstable behavior. Get some therapy and make peace with what happened. You were wronged, but if you carry this energy around with you, you will lose friends (because they are sick of your ranting) and damage your chance at future relationships. Going to someone's workplace or sending their boss emails is absolutely trashy, and you will get dismissed as a psycho.

When I was 18 or so a 26 yr old guy and I se x Ted and video cammed. He said he had a girlfriend and they were always on and off but when I talked to him it was off. Anyway he gave me his website and email pass code because I was doing some of his web designing. We had met online on a date app. So when I log back In to his email he was emailing his coworker reminding her of a time when they f c k Ed and she blew him. His girlfriend worked with him and by the hardcore back and forth they were still on. Guess what happened next? And if its trashy to expose a cheater well I prefer it than mental anguish for not speaking up. That would make me trash.

How does all the name-calling and hypotheticals about you yourself being trash help you? It’s all insanity. There’s a reason calmer adults on the thread find posts like yours revolting. You’re far more dramatic than those dastardly cheating (I guess? Who can tell from your post) dogs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I plot. And I wait. The further out from the affair when they think they have gotten away with it, is the better time to strike.

You sound like my ex, who has been plotting revenge against my old AP for a long time. I haven’t even seen or spoken to AP in ages, we ended things a looooong time ago.

Honestly it’s just sad watching someone waste so much of their life and energy over something that happened a long time ago. Everyone else has moved on. Ex makes threats of some big master plan to get revenge and seriously no one cares. Honestly it just reinforces that I made the right decision, because who wants to be with someone that spiteful?

I agree why is he wasting oxygen on a cheater and co-cheater. Why would he even be talking to you to make those threats? That is wasting space in his head, very unhealthy.

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Anonymous wrote:Life takes care of trash.

Cheaters are unhappy and continually look for outside fixes like strange D@ck to get to fix it. They will continue to be miserable because they never face the hard issues or deal with their underlying low self esteem or mental issues.

Karma will handle it.

If you live a life of lies and continual lily trying to remember your cover story, you will never have peace. They also can’t trust others because of the way they live their own lives.

Sometimes it takes a little nudge for karma to happen. I feel absolutely zero guilt in notifying both XH’s and his AP’s work colleagues and supervisors of their affair. I’m just helping them own it. That it effects their security clearances is not my concern. Their actions, their consequences.

It’s just such a crazy move. It’s hard to understand a personality that would care about something like this.

Agree. Deciding to become an adulterer is a crazy move!

It’s not a power move to expect colleagues to give a shit about your marriage. It’s tacky and weak, and will certainly make the person screeching about her betrayal look like an utter crackpot and loser. I’m not an OW, but I have been at a workplace where a spouse did this and no one cared after like a week of gossip. Believe what you will, but it’s not a winning look, and that is independent of the lack of ethics in adultery. Keep your shit private.

Nope! I’ll never see the adulterers’ colleagues again. Their opinion of me means nothing. The adulterers on the other hand had professional reputations to worry about and if I negatively affected how their supervisors and colleagues view them, that is good enough for me. It’s their own actions that brought this on, not mine.

You didn’t. Plenty of CEOs are/were cheaters. It only makes you look crazy and makes people sympathize with the cheater for cheating

That's the crazy part! So many cheaters in this world. I knew that my so-called friends who supported my cheating ex were either cheaters themselves or had been cheated on and accepted the betrayal of their own spouse so they felt uncomfortable consoling me. You never know who walks among us.

Agree with the PP who says it's tacky, weak and crazy to do this. We had this happen and everyone thought the person was deranged. The hot gossip was entertaining for a few days but one colleague even remarked how he'd cheat on that level of crazy too and sympathized with our cheating coworker.

Maybe they felt uncomfortable consoling you because you were acting completely unhinged.

It's tacky, weak and crazy to cheat. You really think a woman or man that has to sneak into a Marriott at different times to not be seen or is having sex in a parking lot in their 40s/50s with strangers or their AP is CLASSY? Do you think the woman leaving her kids with her husband while she lies about going to sleepover at her 'girlfriends' house' in middle age is a classy act? Or---having her lover dive tuck and roll into her car when he lies and says he is going to the gym and she picks him up to bang him at the Hyatt.

These are not classy people. Lying and being deceitful and acting like a horny teenager in middle age is the opposite of class. It is weak, tacky and smacks of absolutely zero impulse control and poor morals/character/integrity. It's pretty cute to see the cheaters try to flip the switch and call everyone else 'tacky'...the ones blowing strangers off of Ashley Madison and Tinder.

Yeah. I had to laugh at the ones screwing in the shadows and telling lies stating they are the epitome of class and decorum. Blowing strangers, not even for $ behind your spouse's back doesn't make it classy because it is not at a Motel 6.

That's such low behavior. People resorting to doing that kind of stuff have some serious internal sh*t going on inside. Healthy adults don't lie, manipulate and gaslight and live secret, double lives. What wasted mental energy.

You also can't rationalize with people of such low character and they are incapable of guilt, shame or empathy...so pretty much whatever you have planned won't much matter to someone that low on the character totem pole.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Both cheaters AND revenge-seeking crazies can be trashy.

Obviously sneaking around at motels is messed up and gross, but it doesn't change that running around obsessed with ruining AP/OW's life and calling anyone who doesn't jump to your defence a cheater as well is really unstable behavior. Get some therapy and make peace with what happened. You were wronged, but if you carry this energy around with you, you will lose friends (because they are sick of your ranting) and damage your chance at future relationships. Going to someone's workplace or sending their boss emails is absolutely trashy, and you will get dismissed as a psycho.

When I was 18 or so a 26 yr old guy and I se x Ted and video cammed. He said he had a girlfriend and they were always on and off but when I talked to him it was off. Anyway he gave me his website and email pass code because I was doing some of his web designing. We had met online on a date app. So when I log back In to his email he was emailing his coworker reminding her of a time when they f c k Ed and she blew him. His girlfriend worked with him and by the hardcore back and forth they were still on. Guess what happened next? And if its trashy to expose a cheater well I prefer it than mental anguish for not speaking up. That would make me trash.

How does all the name-calling and hypotheticals about you yourself being trash help you? It’s all insanity. There’s a reason calmer adults on the thread find posts like yours revolting. You’re far more dramatic than those dastardly cheating (I guess? Who can tell from your post) dogs.

I'm dramatic? Nope the cheater was. Funny how you and other "adults" defend immoral cheaters. To say ' just move on' says a lot about how you view and accept immoral behavior with no consideration for the people the cheater hurt.