Did you take revenge on a cheater or the other man/woman?

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Anonymous wrote:Life takes care of trash.

Cheaters are unhappy and continually look for outside fixes like strange D@ck to get to fix it. They will continue to be miserable because they never face the hard issues or deal with their underlying low self esteem or mental issues.

Karma will handle it.

If you live a life of lies and continual lily trying to remember your cover story, you will never have peace. They also can’t trust others because of the way they live their own lives.

Sometimes it takes a little nudge for karma to happen. I feel absolutely zero guilt in notifying both XH’s and his AP’s work colleagues and supervisors of their affair. I’m just helping them own it. That it effects their security clearances is not my concern. Their actions, their consequences.

It’s just such a crazy move. It’s hard to understand a personality that would care about something like this.

Agree. Deciding to become an adulterer is a crazy move!

It’s not a power move to expect colleagues to give a shit about your marriage. It’s tacky and weak, and will certainly make the person screeching about her betrayal look like an utter crackpot and loser. I’m not an OW, but I have been at a workplace where a spouse did this and no one cared after like a week of gossip. Believe what you will, but it’s not a winning look, and that is independent of the lack of ethics in adultery. Keep your shit private.

Nope! I’ll never see the adulterers’ colleagues again. Their opinion of me means nothing. The adulterers on the other hand had professional reputations to worry about and if I negatively affected how their supervisors and colleagues view them, that is good enough for me. It’s their own actions that brought this on, not mine.

You didn’t. Plenty of CEOs are/were cheaters. It only makes you look crazy and makes people sympathize with the cheater for cheating

That's the crazy part! So many cheaters in this world. I knew that my so-called friends who supported my cheating ex were either cheaters themselves or had been cheated on and accepted the betrayal of their own spouse so they felt uncomfortable consoling me. You never know who walks among us.

Agree with the PP who says it's tacky, weak and crazy to do this. We had this happen and everyone thought the person was deranged. The hot gossip was entertaining for a few days but one colleague even remarked how he'd cheat on that level of crazy too and sympathized with our cheating coworker.

Maybe they felt uncomfortable consoling you because you were acting completely unhinged.

It's tacky, weak and crazy to cheat. You really think a woman or man that has to sneak into a Marriott at different times to not be seen or is having sex in a parking lot in their 40s/50s with strangers or their AP is CLASSY? Do you think the woman leaving her kids with her husband while she lies about going to sleepover at her 'girlfriends' house' in middle age is a classy act? Or---having her lover dive tuck and roll into her car when he lies and says he is going to the gym and she picks him up to bang him at the Hyatt.

These are not classy people. Lying and being deceitful and acting like a horny teenager in middle age is the opposite of class. It is weak, tacky and smacks of absolutely zero impulse control and poor morals/character/integrity. It's pretty cute to see the cheaters try to flip the switch and call everyone else 'tacky'...the ones blowing strangers off of Ashley Madison and Tinder.

Yeah. I had to laugh at the ones screwing in the shadows and telling lies stating they are the epitome of class and decorum. Blowing strangers, not even for $ behind your spouse's back doesn't make it classy because it is not at a Motel 6.

That's such low behavior. People resorting to doing that kind of stuff have some serious internal sh*t going on inside. Healthy adults don't lie, manipulate and gaslight and live secret, double lives. What wasted mental energy.

You also can't rationalize with people of such low character and they are incapable of guilt, shame or empathy...so pretty much whatever you have planned won't much matter to someone that low on the character totem pole.

Yeah. Cheaters are so far gone they have no shame so what would embarrass a normally healthy person has no effect on them. They think their nastiness is sexy or cute and it’s someone else’s fault for what they are doing.

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Anonymous wrote:Both cheaters AND revenge-seeking crazies can be trashy.

Obviously sneaking around at motels is messed up and gross, but it doesn't change that running around obsessed with ruining AP/OW's life and calling anyone who doesn't jump to your defence a cheater as well is really unstable behavior. Get some therapy and make peace with what happened. You were wronged, but if you carry this energy around with you, you will lose friends (because they are sick of your ranting) and damage your chance at future relationships. Going to someone's workplace or sending their boss emails is absolutely trashy, and you will get dismissed as a psycho.

When I was 18 or so a 26 yr old guy and I se x Ted and video cammed. He said he had a girlfriend and they were always on and off but when I talked to him it was off. Anyway he gave me his website and email pass code because I was doing some of his web designing. We had met online on a date app. So when I log back In to his email he was emailing his coworker reminding her of a time when they f c k Ed and she blew him. His girlfriend worked with him and by the hardcore back and forth they were still on. Guess what happened next? And if its trashy to expose a cheater well I prefer it than mental anguish for not speaking up. That would make me trash.

How does all the name-calling and hypotheticals about you yourself being trash help you? It’s all insanity. There’s a reason calmer adults on the thread find posts like yours revolting. You’re far more dramatic than those dastardly cheating (I guess? Who can tell from your post) dogs.

I'm dramatic? Nope the cheater was. Funny how you and other "adults" defend immoral cheaters. To say ' just move on' says a lot about how you view and accept immoral behavior with no consideration for the people the cheater hurt.

No one else is “accepting it” or not. They don’t care, they weren’t married to them. If YOU don’t want to accept, get divorced. What are you expecting other people to do??

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Anonymous wrote:Both cheaters AND revenge-seeking crazies can be trashy.

Obviously sneaking around at motels is messed up and gross, but it doesn't change that running around obsessed with ruining AP/OW's life and calling anyone who doesn't jump to your defence a cheater as well is really unstable behavior. Get some therapy and make peace with what happened. You were wronged, but if you carry this energy around with you, you will lose friends (because they are sick of your ranting) and damage your chance at future relationships. Going to someone's workplace or sending their boss emails is absolutely trashy, and you will get dismissed as a psycho.

When I was 18 or so a 26 yr old guy and I se x Ted and video cammed. He said he had a girlfriend and they were always on and off but when I talked to him it was off. Anyway he gave me his website and email pass code because I was doing some of his web designing. We had met online on a date app. So when I log back In to his email he was emailing his coworker reminding her of a time when they f c k Ed and she blew him. His girlfriend worked with him and by the hardcore back and forth they were still on. Guess what happened next? And if its trashy to expose a cheater well I prefer it than mental anguish for not speaking up. That would make me trash.

How does all the name-calling and hypotheticals about you yourself being trash help you? It’s all insanity. There’s a reason calmer adults on the thread find posts like yours revolting. You’re far more dramatic than those dastardly cheating (I guess? Who can tell from your post) dogs.

I'm dramatic? Nope the cheater was. Funny how you and other "adults" defend immoral cheaters. To say ' just move on' says a lot about how you view and accept immoral behavior with no consideration for the people the cheater hurt.

No one else is “accepting it” or not. They don’t care, they weren’t married to them. If YOU don’t want to accept, get divorced. What are you expecting other people to do??

If the so called adults responding can't relate or don't care about the topic they need to stop responding and butt out.

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Anonymous wrote:Both cheaters AND revenge-seeking crazies can be trashy.

Obviously sneaking around at motels is messed up and gross, but it doesn't change that running around obsessed with ruining AP/OW's life and calling anyone who doesn't jump to your defence a cheater as well is really unstable behavior. Get some therapy and make peace with what happened. You were wronged, but if you carry this energy around with you, you will lose friends (because they are sick of your ranting) and damage your chance at future relationships. Going to someone's workplace or sending their boss emails is absolutely trashy, and you will get dismissed as a psycho.

When I was 18 or so a 26 yr old guy and I se x Ted and video cammed. He said he had a girlfriend and they were always on and off but when I talked to him it was off. Anyway he gave me his website and email pass code because I was doing some of his web designing. We had met online on a date app. So when I log back In to his email he was emailing his coworker reminding her of a time when they f c k Ed and she blew him. His girlfriend worked with him and by the hardcore back and forth they were still on. Guess what happened next? And if its trashy to expose a cheater well I prefer it than mental anguish for not speaking up. That would make me trash.

How does all the name-calling and hypotheticals about you yourself being trash help you? It’s all insanity. There’s a reason calmer adults on the thread find posts like yours revolting. You’re far more dramatic than those dastardly cheating (I guess? Who can tell from your post) dogs.

I'm dramatic? Nope the cheater was. Funny how you and other "adults" defend immoral cheaters. To say ' just move on' says a lot about how you view and accept immoral behavior with no consideration for the people the cheater hurt.

No one else is “accepting it” or not. They don’t care, they weren’t married to them. If YOU don’t want to accept, get divorced. What are you expecting other people to do??

If the so called adults responding can't relate or don't care about the topic they need to stop responding and butt out.

You’re such a goddamned child.

She’s asking what you expect out of third parties when you’ve made it clear you envision middle-school reactions:

I always hated him!

Let’s go punch the whore!

You didn’t deserve that, girl! You’re a queen! Let’s slash his tires and give each other alibis!

Let’s draft a global email to tell everyone at his job!

Normal people will never react in this way. Ever. Sorry you’re learning this at your advanced age.

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Anonymous wrote:Life takes care of trash.

Cheaters are unhappy and continually look for outside fixes like strange D@ck to get to fix it. They will continue to be miserable because they never face the hard issues or deal with their underlying low self esteem or mental issues.

Karma will handle it.

If you live a life of lies and continual lily trying to remember your cover story, you will never have peace. They also can’t trust others because of the way they live their own lives.

Sometimes it takes a little nudge for karma to happen. I feel absolutely zero guilt in notifying both XH’s and his AP’s work colleagues and supervisors of their affair. I’m just helping them own it. That it effects their security clearances is not my concern. Their actions, their consequences.

It’s just such a crazy move. It’s hard to understand a personality that would care about something like this.

Agree. Deciding to become an adulterer is a crazy move!

It’s not a power move to expect colleagues to give a shit about your marriage. It’s tacky and weak, and will certainly make the person screeching about her betrayal look like an utter crackpot and loser. I’m not an OW, but I have been at a workplace where a spouse did this and no one cared after like a week of gossip. Believe what you will, but it’s not a winning look, and that is independent of the lack of ethics in adultery. Keep your shit private.

Nope! I’ll never see the adulterers’ colleagues again. Their opinion of me means nothing. The adulterers on the other hand had professional reputations to worry about and if I negatively affected how their supervisors and colleagues view them, that is good enough for me. It’s their own actions that brought this on, not mine.

You didn’t. Plenty of CEOs are/were cheaters. It only makes you look crazy and makes people sympathize with the cheater for cheating

That's the crazy part! So many cheaters in this world. I knew that my so-called friends who supported my cheating ex were either cheaters themselves or had been cheated on and accepted the betrayal of their own spouse so they felt uncomfortable consoling me. You never know who walks among us.

Agree with the PP who says it's tacky, weak and crazy to do this. We had this happen and everyone thought the person was deranged. The hot gossip was entertaining for a few days but one colleague even remarked how he'd cheat on that level of crazy too and sympathized with our cheating coworker.

Maybe they felt uncomfortable consoling you because you were acting completely unhinged.

It's tacky, weak and crazy to cheat. You really think a woman or man that has to sneak into a Marriott at different times to not be seen or is having sex in a parking lot in their 40s/50s with strangers or their AP is CLASSY? Do you think the woman leaving her kids with her husband while she lies about going to sleepover at her 'girlfriends' house' in middle age is a classy act? Or---having her lover dive tuck and roll into her car when he lies and says he is going to the gym and she picks him up to bang him at the Hyatt.

These are not classy people. Lying and being deceitful and acting like a horny teenager in middle age is the opposite of class. It is weak, tacky and smacks of absolutely zero impulse control and poor morals/character/integrity. It's pretty cute to see the cheaters try to flip the switch and call everyone else 'tacky'...the ones blowing strangers off of Ashley Madison and Tinder.

Yeah. I had to laugh at the ones screwing in the shadows and telling lies stating they are the epitome of class and decorum. Blowing strangers, not even for $ behind your spouse's back doesn't make it classy because it is not at a Motel 6.

That's such low behavior. People resorting to doing that kind of stuff have some serious internal sh*t going on inside. Healthy adults don't lie, manipulate and gaslight and live secret, double lives. What wasted mental energy.

You also can't rationalize with people of such low character and they are incapable of guilt, shame or empathy...so pretty much whatever you have planned won't much matter to someone that low on the character totem pole.

Yeah. Cheaters are so far gone they have no shame so what would embarrass a normally healthy person has no effect on them. They think their nastiness is sexy or cute and it’s someone else’s fault for what they are doing.

+1 These people have no shame so it really doesn’t matter what you do.

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Anonymous wrote:Both cheaters AND revenge-seeking crazies can be trashy.

Obviously sneaking around at motels is messed up and gross, but it doesn't change that running around obsessed with ruining AP/OW's life and calling anyone who doesn't jump to your defence a cheater as well is really unstable behavior. Get some therapy and make peace with what happened. You were wronged, but if you carry this energy around with you, you will lose friends (because they are sick of your ranting) and damage your chance at future relationships. Going to someone's workplace or sending their boss emails is absolutely trashy, and you will get dismissed as a psycho.

When I was 18 or so a 26 yr old guy and I se x Ted and video cammed. He said he had a girlfriend and they were always on and off but when I talked to him it was off. Anyway he gave me his website and email pass code because I was doing some of his web designing. We had met online on a date app. So when I log back In to his email he was emailing his coworker reminding her of a time when they f c k Ed and she blew him. His girlfriend worked with him and by the hardcore back and forth they were still on. Guess what happened next? And if its trashy to expose a cheater well I prefer it than mental anguish for not speaking up. That would make me trash.

How does all the name-calling and hypotheticals about you yourself being trash help you? It’s all insanity. There’s a reason calmer adults on the thread find posts like yours revolting. You’re far more dramatic than those dastardly cheating (I guess? Who can tell from your post) dogs.

I'm dramatic? Nope the cheater was. Funny how you and other "adults" defend immoral cheaters. To say ' just move on' says a lot about how you view and accept immoral behavior with no consideration for the people the cheater hurt.

No one else is “accepting it” or not. They don’t care, they weren’t married to them. If YOU don’t want to accept, get divorced. What are you expecting other people to do??

If the so called adults responding can't relate or don't care about the topic they need to stop responding and butt out.

You’re such a goddamned child.

She’s asking what you expect out of third parties when you’ve made it clear you envision middle-school reactions:

I always hated him!

Let’s go punch the whore!

You didn’t deserve that, girl! You’re a queen! Let’s slash his tires and give each other alibis!

Let’s draft a global email to tell everyone at his job!

Normal people will never react in this way. Ever. Sorry you’re learning this at your advanced age.

Hahaha. Now that is funny! Some ladies here are unhinged and seem equally trashy.

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I put her ("the other woman") phone number on Craigslist in W4M and escort ads.

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Anonymous wrote:I put her ("the other woman") phone number on Craigslist in W4M and escort ads.

thats a little funny

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Anonymous wrote:Life takes care of trash.

Cheaters are unhappy and continually look for outside fixes like strange D@ck to get to fix it. They will continue to be miserable because they never face the hard issues or deal with their underlying low self esteem or mental issues.

Karma will handle it.

If you live a life of lies and continual lily trying to remember your cover story, you will never have peace. They also can’t trust others because of the way they live their own lives.

Sometimes it takes a little nudge for karma to happen. I feel absolutely zero guilt in notifying both XH’s and his AP’s work colleagues and supervisors of their affair. I’m just helping them own it. That it effects their security clearances is not my concern. Their actions, their consequences.

It’s just such a crazy move. It’s hard to understand a personality that would care about something like this.

Agree. Deciding to become an adulterer is a crazy move!

It’s not a power move to expect colleagues to give a shit about your marriage. It’s tacky and weak, and will certainly make the person screeching about her betrayal look like an utter crackpot and loser. I’m not an OW, but I have been at a workplace where a spouse did this and no one cared after like a week of gossip. Believe what you will, but it’s not a winning look, and that is independent of the lack of ethics in adultery. Keep your shit private.

Nope! I’ll never see the adulterers’ colleagues again. Their opinion of me means nothing. The adulterers on the other hand had professional reputations to worry about and if I negatively affected how their supervisors and colleagues view them, that is good enough for me. It’s their own actions that brought this on, not mine.

You didn’t. Plenty of CEOs are/were cheaters. It only makes you look crazy and makes people sympathize with the cheater for cheating

That's the crazy part! So many cheaters in this world. I knew that my so-called friends who supported my cheating ex were either cheaters themselves or had been cheated on and accepted the betrayal of their own spouse so they felt uncomfortable consoling me. You never know who walks among us.

Agree with the PP who says it's tacky, weak and crazy to do this. We had this happen and everyone thought the person was deranged. The hot gossip was entertaining for a few days but one colleague even remarked how he'd cheat on that level of crazy too and sympathized with our cheating coworker.

Maybe they felt uncomfortable consoling you because you were acting completely unhinged.

It's tacky, weak and crazy to cheat. You really think a woman or man that has to sneak into a Marriott at different times to not be seen or is having sex in a parking lot in their 40s/50s with strangers or their AP is CLASSY? Do you think the woman leaving her kids with her husband while she lies about going to sleepover at her 'girlfriends' house' in middle age is a classy act? Or---having her lover dive tuck and roll into her car when he lies and says he is going to the gym and she picks him up to bang him at the Hyatt.

These are not classy people. Lying and being deceitful and acting like a horny teenager in middle age is the opposite of class. It is weak, tacky and smacks of absolutely zero impulse control and poor morals/character/integrity. It's pretty cute to see the cheaters try to flip the switch and call everyone else 'tacky'...the ones blowing strangers off of Ashley Madison and Tinder.

Yeah. I had to laugh at the ones screwing in the shadows and telling lies stating they are the epitome of class and decorum. Blowing strangers, not even for $ behind your spouse's back doesn't make it classy because it is not at a Motel 6.

That's such low behavior. People resorting to doing that kind of stuff have some serious internal sh*t going on inside. Healthy adults don't lie, manipulate and gaslight and live secret, double lives. What wasted mental energy.

You also can't rationalize with people of such low character and they are incapable of guilt, shame or empathy...so pretty much whatever you have planned won't much matter to someone that low on the character totem pole.

Yeah. Cheaters are so far gone they have no shame so what would embarrass a normally healthy person has no effect on them. They think their nastiness is sexy or cute and it’s someone else’s fault for what they are doing.

+1 These people have no shame so it really doesn’t matter what you do.

Ha! The bolded is so true.

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Anonymous wrote:Life takes care of trash.

Cheaters are unhappy and continually look for outside fixes like strange D@ck to get to fix it. They will continue to be miserable because they never face the hard issues or deal with their underlying low self esteem or mental issues.

Karma will handle it.

If you live a life of lies and continual lily trying to remember your cover story, you will never have peace. They also can’t trust others because of the way they live their own lives.

Sometimes it takes a little nudge for karma to happen. I feel absolutely zero guilt in notifying both XH’s and his AP’s work colleagues and supervisors of their affair. I’m just helping them own it. That it effects their security clearances is not my concern. Their actions, their consequences.

It’s just such a crazy move. It’s hard to understand a personality that would care about something like this.

Agree. Deciding to become an adulterer is a crazy move!

It’s not a power move to expect colleagues to give a shit about your marriage. It’s tacky and weak, and will certainly make the person screeching about her betrayal look like an utter crackpot and loser. I’m not an OW, but I have been at a workplace where a spouse did this and no one cared after like a week of gossip. Believe what you will, but it’s not a winning look, and that is independent of the lack of ethics in adultery. Keep your shit private.

Nope! I’ll never see the adulterers’ colleagues again. Their opinion of me means nothing. The adulterers on the other hand had professional reputations to worry about and if I negatively affected how their supervisors and colleagues view them, that is good enough for me. It’s their own actions that brought this on, not mine.

You didn’t. Plenty of CEOs are/were cheaters. It only makes you look crazy and makes people sympathize with the cheater for cheating

That's the crazy part! So many cheaters in this world. I knew that my so-called friends who supported my cheating ex were either cheaters themselves or had been cheated on and accepted the betrayal of their own spouse so they felt uncomfortable consoling me. You never know who walks among us.

Agree with the PP who says it's tacky, weak and crazy to do this. We had this happen and everyone thought the person was deranged. The hot gossip was entertaining for a few days but one colleague even remarked how he'd cheat on that level of crazy too and sympathized with our cheating coworker.

Maybe they felt uncomfortable consoling you because you were acting completely unhinged.

It's tacky, weak and crazy to cheat. You really think a woman or man that has to sneak into a Marriott at different times to not be seen or is having sex in a parking lot in their 40s/50s with strangers or their AP is CLASSY? Do you think the woman leaving her kids with her husband while she lies about going to sleepover at her 'girlfriends' house' in middle age is a classy act? Or---having her lover dive tuck and roll into her car when he lies and says he is going to the gym and she picks him up to bang him at the Hyatt.

These are not classy people. Lying and being deceitful and acting like a horny teenager in middle age is the opposite of class. It is weak, tacky and smacks of absolutely zero impulse control and poor morals/character/integrity. It's pretty cute to see the cheaters try to flip the switch and call everyone else 'tacky'...the ones blowing strangers off of Ashley Madison and Tinder.

Yeah. I had to laugh at the ones screwing in the shadows and telling lies stating they are the epitome of class and decorum. Blowing strangers, not even for $ behind your spouse's back doesn't make it classy because it is not at a Motel 6.

That's such low behavior. People resorting to doing that kind of stuff have some serious internal sh*t going on inside. Healthy adults don't lie, manipulate and gaslight and live secret, double lives. What wasted mental energy.

You also can't rationalize with people of such low character and they are incapable of guilt, shame or empathy...so pretty much whatever you have planned won't much matter to someone that low on the character totem pole.

Yeah. Cheaters are so far gone they have no shame so what would embarrass a normally healthy person has no effect on them. They think their nastiness is sexy or cute and it’s someone else’s fault for what they are doing.

+1 These people have no shame so it really doesn’t matter what you do.

Exactly. The AP has also chosen to come into your playground which is a automatic invite into theirs. Whatever one decides to do, it's best to move on fairly quickly and having a happy life is the best revenge. Though a little anon payback is perfectly ok as long as it's legal!!!

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Anonymous wrote:Anything but the lame living your best life is the best revenge.

Sure, why not.

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Anonymous wrote:I brought their epic love affair out into the light on facebook. I dont think OW liked that ugly pic I posted of her. Or screenshots of their nasty conversations. I'm a petty biatch.

So yeah, living well IS the best revenge. But only after slapping those lovebirds in the face with a dose of reality. Her husband divorced her. I divorced mine.

Sounds good!

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Cheated on many, many years ago. I chose to lean on my friends and follow their advice. I knew I wasn’t thinking clearly. I told the divorce attorney I wanted to walk out of this with primary custody of my kids, fair child support, and my dignity. I held my head high and refused to be pulled into the mud. I have never spoken to the other woman. I didn’t always do a great job staying calm. I had some moments I’m not proud of. But overall, I left the marriage with what I wanted - healthy kids, custody of my kids, fair child support, and my dignity and grace.

No revenge would be worth giving any of that up.

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Anonymous wrote:Every time I see people who revel in revenge so much, all I can think is “it’s no wonder you were cheated on.” You’re not the innocent party you try convince yourself you are.

Agree. You were an active part of the many reasons why your marriage was troubled. And it isn't victim blaming- it is acknowledging that marital problems are deeper than cheating. Cheating is a symptom of a bad marriage, not the cause.

Cheating has many different causes. It’s untrue it’s the case of a bad marriage. The majority of men cite their marriage as happy. Many are still having sex with their wives.

Therapists and psychologists have gotten away from blaming the marriage and the spouse.

Cheating #1 lies with the cheater and the problems they have inside of them that allows them to lie, gaslight and betray. It can range from mental illness, childhood trauma, sexual addiction, mental illness, narcissism, histrionic disorder, midlife crisis, depression, etc.

It’s not uncommon for a spouse to be 100% blindsided that there were any issues.

The treatment and recovery for betrayal is also changing as it is now seen that it can cause severe trauma. EMDR and other forms of ptsd-type treatment methods have some success.

It’s always about the cheater at the very base level of unable to communicate and the ability to compartmentalize and lie without guilt or feeling.

Does there have to be a diagnosis involved? Sometimes, cheaters are just selfish aSSholes and jerks, not victims of childhood drama or mental illness.

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Anonymous wrote:I divorced him. I never once blamed the other woman - she meant nothing to me. He was the one who broke his vows to me, not her. I never even met her.

I never once lost my dignity which I do consider the best revenge. He was a crying mess.

Bravo👏🏻

This woman has class.

Yes. Unlike the cheaters.

+1 Bending over for a married man in your husband’s bed or a Marriott Courtyard is definitely not class.

You are right to leave those scumbags alone.

Talk about pure trash. Leaving and entering separate, looking over your shoulder in the hotel parking lot. Downright hooker.

Ha! This made me LOL. So true!