sister just told me about disturbing childhood events

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As I told her - she doesn’t get to toss it - and run- I’m sorry it happened, But her dropping something like that -in a text - after I said I would be taking space -is also problematic given the history of manipulation that has occurred between us...

I also told her the last thing I wanted to do was shut down a conversation but it was too painful to be so resented. Which I said and then she sent that text- what???

Are you hearing yourself? Thai isn’t about you. That must have been so painful for her to hold onto. She’s your sister!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:UPDATE Im the OP, but I am actually the sister - the stepdaughter.. I really needed to hear what was above to know an “objective take” although I tried to stick as closely to her literal quotes (“what? No you don’t get to throw this and run.” Etc) I don’t know if she would keep repeating them in a convo like this online... she really isn’t a monster

there was some sexual weirdness from my stepdad. I was not raped or sexually abused on a regular basis thank god, but The first time it happened I went ballistic but my mother didn’t want to deal with it; I honestly think she did the best she could but in her case that meant denial.I even brought it up years later and she forgot and seemed to genuinely not know what I meant (maybe - although she does that sort of thing a lot)

I am not sure of why I lobbed it out there to her/ but I was surprised maybe at her response? - it felt like I just needed it out there with her and it wouldn’t hurt as much (plus I am worried about my nieces or nephews and think she should know) and I felt like I needed to wash my hands of that responsibility - although if she doesn’t believe me - well I don’t know if she believes me or not but I guess I can’t do anything right now (right?) I don’t WANT at all to talk about this woth her - when she said she hoped we would one day I felt totally freaked out. I only told my therapist very recently- There was part of me that suspected She might not believe me

What a twist, OP! Feeling duped and confused by all this! You’re the sister and the sister is you? What??

[Anonymous]

Op, what did your stepfather do to you, exactly? At what age(s) did this abuse occur? Pedophiles don't get better, they get worse. You have a duty to protect your nieces and nephews and the way to do that is through clearly relaying to your siblings what he did to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:UPDATE Im the OP, but I am actually the sister - the stepdaughter.. I really needed to hear what was above to know an “objective take” although I tried to stick as closely to her literal quotes (“what? No you don’t get to throw this and run.” Etc) I don’t know if she would keep repeating them in a convo like this online... she really isn’t a monster

there was some sexual weirdness from my stepdad. I was not raped or sexually abused on a regular basis thank god, but The first time it happened I went ballistic but my mother didn’t want to deal with it; I honestly think she did the best she could but in her case that meant denial.I even brought it up years later and she forgot and seemed to genuinely not know what I meant (maybe - although she does that sort of thing a lot)

I am not sure of why I lobbed it out there to her/ but I was surprised maybe at her response? - it felt like I just needed it out there with her and it wouldn’t hurt as much (plus I am worried about my nieces or nephews and think she should know) and I felt like I needed to wash my hands of that responsibility - although if she doesn’t believe me - well I don’t know if she believes me or not but I guess I can’t do anything right now (right?) I don’t WANT at all to talk about this woth her - when she said she hoped we would one day I felt totally freaked out. I only told my therapist very recently- There was part of me that suspected She might not believe me

What a twist, OP! Feeling duped and confused by all this! You’re the sister and the sister is you? What??

You're very manipulative, OP.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like your dad was an abuser and you’re an enabler.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just wanted to say it and be done with it - I do NOT want to process it with them

What is it you would like to hear from your sister if you say you want to protect her kids and have it out there, but don't want to talk about it any more? I think your sister was not kind in her reaction, but I'm also unclear what outcome you'd like in your relationship here.

[Anonymous]

She’s probably lying.

I don’t understand DCUM’s obsession with hating and attacking every OP. It’s totally possible this sister, who has a history of manipulating and being a drama Queen, is lying again.

[Anonymous]

You need to do whatever you need to do, without harming your sister, to find out enough to develop a gut reaction to this claim. And then you need to follow that gut reaction.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t let my son around her either. Child molesters often abuse both genders

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, what did your stepfather do to you, exactly? At what age(s) did this abuse occur? Pedophiles don't get better, they get worse. You have a duty to protect your nieces and nephews and the way to do that is through clearly relaying to your siblings what he did to you.

Can you read? Op is not the one who was abused

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, what did your stepfather do to you, exactly? At what age(s) did this abuse occur? Pedophiles don't get better, they get worse. You have a duty to protect your nieces and nephews and the way to do that is through clearly relaying to your siblings what he did to you.

Can you read? Op is not the one who was abused

You clearly have not read through the thread. OP came back and said she was the abused one posing as the sister to see how people would react.

[Anonymous]

Given the update I don't think the OP/stepsister is a reliable narrator here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, what did your stepfather do to you, exactly? At what age(s) did this abuse occur? Pedophiles don't get better, they get worse. You have a duty to protect your nieces and nephews and the way to do that is through clearly relaying to your siblings what he did to you.

Can you read? Op is not the one who was abused

She updated. She is actually the sister.

[Anonymous]

I still don’t get if there was just weirdness or actual abuse.

[Anonymous]

What was the weirdness?? I honestly don't find you credible because you can't say what happened.