sister just told me about disturbing childhood events
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... including "weird" issues from my father (her stepfather). This was after a big fight, over text, and after I told her I might not talk to her again.
She then told me she didn't want to say anything unless I have daughters (I have toddler who is a boy), but that she feels "deeply shameful and uncomfortable talking about it, but the fact that it's all blown up [she's referencing our fight and my saying I am done] means I can toss.. this information and run." She also says our mother ignored or denied that anything had happened by my father. Dropping something like that in a text? What??? She doesn't get to "toss it and run." It told her that was problematic given that I had told her that I was taking space, and the history of manipulation that has occurred between us (which she may not be aware of but may play into perhaps unwittingly)... it is just too painful. I also told her I was sorry it happened, and that I hoped she'd tell me someday, maybe, but that frankly I wasn't sure if we would repair things. |
Anonymous
| Why do you think she’s lying? |
Anonymous
| I didn't say I thought she was lying |
Anonymous
So, what reaction are you looking for? |
Anonymous
| She was physically abused, molested or raped. She is better off without all of you. |
Anonymous
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I don't know what to believe. I do think it's strange that she says this by text, after I told her I am done talking to her, and she's always been manipulative, and even by her own admission she thinks she gets to throw a bomb and then run away.
I have felt resented by her my whole life. |
Anonymous
Do you think there's an actual good time to tell someone something like that? And maybe she's manipulative because she was traumatized... kids who have been traumatized, stop maturing at the age that the trauma occurred if they don't get therapy. Did you know that? That's a scientific fact. Just for half a second think about how f*cked up you would be if something like whatever she says happened, happened and not only did you NOT get the therapy that you desperately needed, but that your mother didn't believe you or do anything about it?? If she's f*cked up, it's because of what happened to her. |
Anonymous
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As I told her - she doesn’t get to toss it - and run- I’m sorry it happened, But her dropping something like that -in a text - after I said I would be taking space -is also problematic given the history of manipulation that has occurred between us...
I also told her the last thing I wanted to do was shut down a conversation but it was too painful to be so resented. Which I said and then she sent that text- what??? |
Anonymous
This is probably fake but she cannot talk to you. Call her and ask. |
Anonymous
Your father assaulted/raped/molested her. Of course she resents you because you got to have a childhood and a dad who did not violate you. She on the other hand was a convenient and available child to victimize for the sicko who fathered you. Of course she resents you. She is giving you the biggest clue of why she is so unhappy. You can be the compassionate person and try to understand what she is feeling as a victim. You need to grow up and realize that her life was spoiled by your father. You need to realize that a great harm was done to her by your dad while you remained unscathed from that perversion. |
Anonymous
| She was right. You have the luxury and tendency to shut your eyes and to toss and run. So why should she have spared you? |
Anonymous
? What’s fake? |
Anonymous
She is the one who specifically said she was tossing a bomb and running. What makes do think *I* have that tendency? Whatever happened is not my fault |
Anonymous
| “Makes you think” |
Anonymous
| She is better off without you. Not a word of concern for her from you. |