Are single people in their thirties really the “undesirables”?

[Anonymous]

I'm 37, male, and single. Admittedly, dating apps (Bumble, Tinder, etc.) have confirmed I'm pretty undesirable. I'm tall and make low six-figures but I think my face isn't very attractive (weak jaw, naturally chubby cheeks even though I'm pretty skinny). I'm not balding even slight and stay in good shape, play sports, and (before covid) hit the gym 6x a week. I had trouble getting my career going when I got out of grad school, which I think put me about 5 years behind financially. It is what it is. I have hobbies and interests so life is still tolerable, but I don't delude myself into thinking I'm a desirable person. I gave up caring about that several years ago.

[Anonymous]

This is the smug married thread of the year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do all the heathy well adjusted attractive people really just find themselves in marriages by their late twenties? All that are left are the weird losers?

Being married doesn’t mean you’re any better or more adjusted or more desirable than anyone else. It’s simply a lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One poster here seems really freaked out by brunches.

I was just thinking that! What is it about brunches that triggers that poster so bad?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One poster here seems really freaked out by brunches.

I was just thinking that! What is it about brunches that triggers that poster so bad?

Don’t know, but I’ve seen them in more than one thread screaming about bunch and shoes, it’s weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One poster here seems really freaked out by brunches.

I was just thinking that! What is it about brunches that triggers that poster so bad?

Show us on the doll where the smoked salmon hurt you...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One poster here seems really freaked out by brunches.

I was just thinking that! What is it about brunches that triggers that poster so bad?

Show us on the doll where the smoked salmon hurt you...

Okay I'm literally crying after reading that 😂

[Anonymous]

Are we assuming that everyone in the world wants to be married?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 37, male, and single. Admittedly, dating apps (Bumble, Tinder, etc.) have confirmed I'm pretty undesirable. I'm tall and make low six-figures but I think my face isn't very attractive (weak jaw, naturally chubby cheeks even though I'm pretty skinny). I'm not balding even slight and stay in good shape, play sports, and (before covid) hit the gym 6x a week. I had trouble getting my career going when I got out of grad school, which I think put me about 5 years behind financially. It is what it is. I have hobbies and interests so life is still tolerable, but I don't delude myself into thinking I'm a desirable person. I gave up caring about that several years ago.

If you are undesirable -- and I am not saying you are -- it would be because of this. I don't understand why we tell ourselves horrible things that we would never dare say to someone else. Think about that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One poster here seems really freaked out by brunches.

I was just thinking that! What is it about brunches that triggers that poster so bad?

Show us on the doll where the smoked salmon hurt you...

LOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL this ends the thread. Everybody go home!

[Anonymous]

I think marrying too early is a bad idea...you don't really know yourself in your 20s. Marrying in your 30s (women) and 30s early 40s (men) in DC area or any metropolitan area is fine. I didn't get married until 39...hubs is a few years older.

[Anonymous]

All of my college GF’s were married in their mid to late 20’s except for one. While she is smart and beautiful she has always been very high maintenance. She recently got married at 36 to a great guy and I hope she doesn’t blow it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think marrying too early is a bad idea...you don't really know yourself in your 20s. Marrying in your 30s (women) and 30s early 40s (men) in DC area or any metropolitan area is fine. I didn't get married until 39...hubs is a few years older.

I got married at 25 but we didn’t have children until I was 31 which gave us time to get really settled as a couple and work on our careers given we were both Ivy MBA’s. We also saved a lot of money during that time which gave us a lot of options once we had children. I continued to work but having the financial option not to was a big stress reliever. If I had had a baby at 25 my life would have been different.

[Anonymous]

I got fell in love and got married at 25 and I grew up in this area, and we both have good careers.

What I've seen are some who aren't married by their 30s fall into traps of staying in long relationships (including live in) and the man never proposes. Not smart to do "live in" relationships, from what I've seen, if you want marriage and kids in your future as a woman.

And/or, they have a "checklist" that is really transparent and off putting to men (trying to get a high earner, etc).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think marrying too early is a bad idea...you don't really know yourself in your 20s. Marrying in your 30s (women) and 30s early 40s (men) in DC area or any metropolitan area is fine. I didn't get married until 39...hubs is a few years older.

And yet is the kind of man you call hubs. All you need to know about him.