Are single people in their thirties really the “undesirables”?

[Anonymous]

No that’s a stupid DCUM thing. It might be a little more difficult for a woman to meet someone her age if she is in a rush to have kids, because it puts pressure on early in the dating process.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kamala Harris, first marriage age 49, enough said.

The more of a catch you are, the harder it is to find your match. I am in my 40s and have never wanted to have kids and it would take someone very special to make me want to get married. For context, I have everything going for me and I am happy having my own complete independent life. Sad so many people think it is a reflection of who you are if you are not married by a certain age. Also, living in DC since my early 20s has probably made me uninterested in marriage when I get hit on so frequently by married men in this town when going about my day minding my own business. Probably by the “dear husbands” of many so smugly posting on this thread, hah!

She has issues. Many older, single women can be great at their jobs but have issues. There are lots of single, never-married women in their 30's-40's who are extremely high achievers professionally, but they're not good partners for marriage and children. Not wanting children is typically indicative of an unhappy childhood.

So most men had unhappy childhoods?

I love being entertained by these trolls!

[Anonymous]

My coworker just got married at 65! She moved from Baltimore to Arizona to live out their golden years in Sun City.

[Anonymous]

My aunt -- who married well into her 50s-- always told me: "we won't live long enough to hate each other, so take your time". I listened to my auntie and got married at 44.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kamala Harris, first marriage age 49, enough said.

The more of a catch you are, the harder it is to find your match. I am in my 40s and have never wanted to have kids and it would take someone very special to make me want to get married. For context, I have everything going for me and I am happy having my own complete independent life. Sad so many people think it is a reflection of who you are if you are not married by a certain age. Also, living in DC since my early 20s has probably made me uninterested in marriage when I get hit on so frequently by married men in this town when going about my day minding my own business. Probably by the “dear husbands” of many so smugly posting on this thread, hah!

While some women like the authoritarian type, it's not unreasonable for a man not to want to marry a cop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kamala Harris, first marriage age 49, enough said.

The more of a catch you are, the harder it is to find your match. I am in my 40s and have never wanted to have kids and it would take someone very special to make me want to get married. For context, I have everything going for me and I am happy having my own complete independent life. Sad so many people think it is a reflection of who you are if you are not married by a certain age. Also, living in DC since my early 20s has probably made me uninterested in marriage when I get hit on so frequently by married men in this town when going about my day minding my own business. Probably by the “dear husbands” of many so smugly posting on this thread, hah!

She has issues. Many older, single women can be great at their jobs but have issues. There are lots of single, never-married women in their 30's-40's who are extremely high achievers professionally, but they're not good partners for marriage and children. Not wanting children is typically indicative of an unhappy childhood.

What in the actual F.

I had a lovely, lovely childhood and am still very, very close to my family. I have no interest in having children, mostly because domesticity isn't my thing. I would much rather be free to pursue hobbies, travel, and do what I please than clean up kid puke, cook for a family, do laundry, etc. My family even jokes about how I've said I don't want kids from the time I was actually still a kid. It's just not me, never has been, never will be. Staying home with a family every night sounds like the ultimate boredom to me, but I also respect and appreciate that it is incredibly fulfilling for others. We're all different and need and want different things in life. It's what makes the world interesting, but certainly isn't a a marker of an unhappy childhood.

[Anonymous]

My 48 year old daughter is getting married for the first time. I married at 48 for the first time also. DD was conceived years before I married.

[Anonymous]

Every 45 year old single person says that they are a fantastic catch and only didn't get married because they took their time and were very picky.

This accurately describes around 5% of those single 45 year olds. The other 95% have stuff going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every 45 year old single person says that they are a fantastic catch and only didn't get married because they took their time and were very picky.

This accurately describes around 5% of those single 45 year olds. The other 95% have stuff going on.

^This is BS. I can think of multiple married couples who have major infidelity issues, alcoholism, drug addictions, etc. and they all had these issues before they got married. Lots and lots of settling going on up front.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every 45 year old single person says that they are a fantastic catch and only didn't get married because they took their time and were very picky.

This accurately describes around 5% of those single 45 year olds. The other 95% have stuff going on.

Yayyy! I'm top 5%! Wish it were true for income ,too.

[Anonymous]

The happiest, most lovey-dovey couple I've ever known met in their late 70s/early 80s, after they'd both married, raised children, and been widowed after being with their first spouses for decades.

[Anonymous]

Some are and some aren’t. But very few people look better at 35 than they did at 25.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The happiest, most lovey-dovey couple I've ever known met in their late 70s/early 80s, after they'd both married, raised children, and been widowed after being with their first spouses for decades.

Then WTF do they have to do with single people in their 30s?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No! Many highly educated people chose to marry later in life.

In 1950, the average age for women to marry was 20.

Now, we have things to accomplish first. It is fine. Just live your best life and you will likely attract a compatible person who is a good match.

Women can’t accomplish things after we’re married?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every 45 year old single person says that they are a fantastic catch and only didn't get married because they took their time and were very picky.

This accurately describes around 5% of those single 45 year olds. The other 95% have stuff going on.

^This is BS. I can think of multiple married couples who have major infidelity issues, alcoholism, drug addictions, etc. and they all had these issues before they got married. Lots and lots of settling going on up front.

NP. I believe both are true. Lots of married couples obviously have issues. This does not negate the large percentage of never married 45 year olds who have some major issues that have kept them from marrying or committing.