Are single people in their thirties really the “undesirables”?

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Anonymous wrote:Kamala Harris, first marriage age 49, enough said.

The more of a catch you are, the harder it is to find your match. I am in my 40s and have never wanted to have kids and it would take someone very special to make me want to get married. For context, I have everything going for me and I am happy having my own complete independent life. Sad so many people think it is a reflection of who you are if you are not married by a certain age. Also, living in DC since my early 20s has probably made me uninterested in marriage when I get hit on so frequently by married men in this town when going about my day minding my own business. Probably by the “dear husbands” of many so smugly posting on this thread, hah!

She has issues. Many older, single women can be great at their jobs but have issues. There are lots of single, never-married women in their 30's-40's who are extremely high achievers professionally, but they're not good partners for marriage and children. Not wanting children is typically indicative of an unhappy childhood.

LOL! Citation needed (and no, pulling it out of your *ss doesn't count.

Not wanting children is typically indicative of not wanting children.

I O-gree.

Love,
Oprah

Oprah had a very different issue in her fertile years. Besides not growing up in a stable environment, it was hard to find professionally successful black men.

LOL no it wasn’t and she talks about her relationship with Sted now, she’s pretty transparent about her journey

Actually, Oprah is a great example. Wonderful person (love her!), but had issues that prevented her from getting married and having kids. She's been very open about that. No one is saying that people single in their mid 30's up can't be great people, just that they're damaged in some way and not desirable partners for marriage and kids. If Oprah wanted that, then she could have had it a million times over.

Oprah has been with Steadman since her 30s. She said then and now that she did not want to get married. Over 30 years later, they are still together and not married. All people have issues. If someone does not desire marriage and/or children, it does not make them damaged. People have different preferences for their lives.

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Anonymous wrote:Huh? I know almost no one who married before 30.

This is true for me. too.