Are single people in their thirties really the “undesirables”?

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Anonymous wrote:Do all the heathy well adjusted attractive people really just find themselves in marriages by their late twenties? All that are left are the weird losers?

No they are desirable, they just will get to their divorce with a little delay..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only singles I know in their late thirties do have some issues.

Like what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only singles I know in their late thirties do have some issues.

+1. I think there's still a decent pool of dating partners until about early 30's. The good guys and most of the good women are married by mid 30's. I agree with one of the pp's that most of the really good catches are married in their 20's.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Most of the posters here are in their 30’s. So...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:LOL I swear this board is filled with people who locked themselves down at 19 and are now regretting their life choices at 32 with 3 toddlers and no peace.

+1. Oh, yes! In DC overall, marriages tend to be later, but if you read DCUM you're a barren hag or a carrier of autism-riddled sperm if you marry and procreate after like, 27. It's weird.

+2

[Anonymous]

A lot of the time, yes. If I think of the people I've known over time, is it mostly the more attractive, successful and well adjusted that are married by 30? Absolutely. And if I think of my friends are are in the mid 30s and still not married, they quite literally were less desirable. For example, one girl who is now 35 thought she was going to marry my other friend. They dated for two years but eventually he just couldn't handle her type A personality and also had some slightly more physically attractive options. He's now married and she isn't. Another of my friends in their mid 30s is not married and he's really nice but a little bit awkward and not very attractive (maybe like a 5). Another friend had the same issue as friend #1 except she was actually dumped by my brother for another girl when she was hoping they'd be together forever. Brother is now married and she, at 36, is not. I can go on and on but there's no example out of maybe 100 people I keep in contact with where a "desirable person" has rationally chosen to remain unmarried into their 30s

[Anonymous]

Ask lawyers and doctors how many friends' weddings they attended in their 30s. For some, 30s is the normal time to marry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of the time, yes. If I think of the people I've known over time, is it mostly the more attractive, successful and well adjusted that are married by 30? Absolutely. And if I think of my friends are are in the mid 30s and still not married, they quite literally were less desirable. For example, one girl who is now 35 thought she was going to marry my other friend. They dated for two years but eventually he just couldn't handle her type A personality and also had some slightly more physically attractive options. He's now married and she isn't. Another of my friends in their mid 30s is not married and he's really nice but a little bit awkward and not very attractive (maybe like a 5). Another friend had the same issue as friend #1 except she was actually dumped by my brother for another girl when she was hoping they'd be together forever. Brother is now married and she, at 36, is not. I can go on and on but there's no example out of maybe 100 people I keep in contact with where a "desirable person" has rationally chosen to remain unmarried into their 30s

Interesting. Your post made me think back to people I know and when they married. The ones who married younger fell into a few categories: those who fell passionately in love in high school or college, those who stared their jobs/careers right after high school, or the very wealthy. Those who married later tended to be those who moved away for college, those who travelled or partied a bunch before "settling down" and those pursuing careers that require singularly focused, time-consuming work in the early years. The ones who married later had relationships along the way, but they ended due to career related moves or career interference.

[Anonymous]

Yeah I think so. I'm 35 and many of my peers who are 35-37. The ones who aren't married are usually a bit off. Either weird personality or not attractive or both. Sure there's some people who've fallen through the cracks but that's more atypical and comes as a surprise.

I'm noticing a trend where the ones who are just now getting married are marrying less desirable men too. Balding, fat, divorced with older kids. Women don't choose these men unless there's no other options.

There's a few who aren't married but have been with their boyfriends 5+ years. I'm curious to see if those boyfriends will marry them or dump them and leave them out to dry at the end of their fertile years.

[Anonymous]

No, but I think people who say things like that are very damaged, even if they're married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah I think so. I'm 35 and many of my peers who are 35-37. The ones who aren't married are usually a bit off. Either weird personality or not attractive or both. Sure there's some people who've fallen through the cracks but that's more atypical and comes as a surprise.

I'm noticing a trend where the ones who are just now getting married are marrying less desirable men too. Balding, fat, divorced with older kids. Women don't choose these men unless there's no other options.

There's a few who aren't married but have been with their boyfriends 5+ years. I'm curious to see if those boyfriends will marry them or dump them and leave them out to dry at the end of their fertile years.

Why is balding again mentioned on here as less desirable? It's hereditary. Plus it should theoretically be more attractive because it means more testosterone.

[Anonymous]

3 girls in my family, all quite pretty and above average intelligence married in their 20's. Brother, nerdy, married mid 30's. Luckily there was a nerdy girl perfect for him out there.

[Anonymous]

No, but a lot of divorced moms in their 30s like to pretend they're somehow better off.

[Anonymous]

Wedding announcements in the NYT tend to come from couples in their 30s. But maybe they're all undesirable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wedding announcements in the NYT tend to come from couples in their 30s. But maybe they're all undesirable.

Its self selection. Also, alot of their cutsie stories about how they met and then got engaged in Tanzania are annoying.