1/4 of US Women may quit their jobs

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I understand a single mom.

But no married woman should quit her job. I am married and will NOT be quitting. There is NO reason that woman should need to quit their jobs while men do not! Just say no, ladies. Is your husband going to quit his job to do housework and distance learning? Of course not. Women have to stop voluntarily sacrificing their careers and financial well-being when men do not.

What? How can single moms quit their jobs? Who is going to pay the bills? I see where you were headed with this tangent but your offramp is bananas.

X1000. What, pp?! I’m a single mom and working as hard as I absolutely can to NOT lose my job. There’s no one to be my financial back up.

Kids can go live with Dad or you pay for child care.

Yeah, all single moms have dads their kids can live with

How can I pay child care if I quit my job?

[Anonymous]

I’m an independent contact or whose contracts ended due to covid in August. I haven’t sought to get new contracts because I thought my kids might need me (3rd and 6th grades), but they really haven’t much. I’m bored so I might need to go back. My husband does a lot at home and my kids are pretty good at helping too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I gave notice and will be quitting this month. My children need me. It sucks to be part of that statistic, but my boss (who has small children) heaped piles upon piles of work on me and didn’t understand why I wasn’t happy about working 60+ hours per week during a pandemic and DL. If I had a more flexible and understanding job, I’d try to work through this. But here we are.

Women need to stop doing stuff like this if we ever want to achieve equality.

There is no equality. Sucks that women in USA have it so bad. Is it a surprise? We tolerate a POTUS who is on record for wanting to fu** his hot daughter and for admitting that he grabs womens pu$$ies. There is no respect for women.

Unlike Denmark and Sweden where people pay huge amounts of taxes so that childcare and maternity/paternity leave is the norm.. in US the richest pay no taxes. Trump gloats that he pays no taxes. The only way my DD can have a career and a family is if we provide the childcare. This is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Ivanka has a job. And she has kids. And she has no qualifications. And she pays no taxes.

Why aren't more women like her?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a SAHM, these articles about women quitting all seem pretty obvious to me. Yes, a few of you managed to marry a fully “woke” equal partner who will do 50% or more of the “mental load” in addition to housework and child rearing, but I learned pretty quickly I did not marry such a man.

And I’ll be damned if I’m going to carry the whole mental load, run the house, care for the kids AND work a full time job. I’m not a martyr.

So don’t do the mental load and housework. Just say no.

Prioritize yourself and your career. You deserve it the same as a privileged man does. Again no one is forcing you to do housework. You basically allowed your husband to force you to quit working and when your kids are older you’ll deeply regret it.

This is why I'm leaning in now while so many of you are leaning out. I've seen what it's like for my mom and other older sahms and it is not pretty.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I believe it. This is unsustainable if you’re ids aren’t in in person schooling.

It’s beyond sickening to watch your kids fail at distance learning, the house is a mess because 24-7 everyone, DH is useless and needs to focus at work, your own work falls to later and later in the day and evening, sitters either don’t speak English or sit in their phones most of the time.

Hate it in Wash DC. Open the elementary schools so the kids don’t fall further and further behind.

Not just elementary schools.

Middle schools and High schools too.

Otherwise I agree with your post.

+1 billion.

What dc s problem? Numbers are low, tons of examples of open schools for months now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I gave notice and will be quitting this month. My children need me. It sucks to be part of that statistic, but my boss (who has small children) heaped piles upon piles of work on me and didn’t understand why I wasn’t happy about working 60+ hours per week during a pandemic and DL. If I had a more flexible and understanding job, I’d try to work through this. But here we are.

Women need to stop doing stuff like this if we ever want to achieve equality.

Women need to stop quitting terrible jobs?

Women need to stop quitting their job to provide unpaid labor for men.

We need to change the system so this doesn't need to happen. The problem is the system. Let's not blame a woman for making s decision that makes sense for her - it creates a vicious cycle and focuses the blame in the wrong place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I gave notice and will be quitting this month. My children need me. It sucks to be part of that statistic, but my boss (who has small children) heaped piles upon piles of work on me and didn’t understand why I wasn’t happy about working 60+ hours per week during a pandemic and DL. If I had a more flexible and understanding job, I’d try to work through this. But here we are.

Women need to stop doing stuff like this if we ever want to achieve equality.

Women need to stop quitting terrible jobs?

Women need to stop quitting their job to provide unpaid labor for men.

We need to change the system so this doesn't need to happen. The problem is the system. Let's not blame a woman for making s decision that makes sense for her - it creates a vicious cycle and focuses the blame in the wrong place.

I disagree. I think one of the main issues is that women willingly provide so much unpaid labor. I always was under the impression that women are victimized by men. The older I get, the more I see how women contribute to the problem.

An entire wsj section today about how women are hurt professionally by covid. Really?? Where are their husbands? Why are women assuming this responsibility?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I gave notice and will be quitting this month. My children need me. It sucks to be part of that statistic, but my boss (who has small children) heaped piles upon piles of work on me and didn’t understand why I wasn’t happy about working 60+ hours per week during a pandemic and DL. If I had a more flexible and understanding job, I’d try to work through this. But here we are.

Women need to stop doing stuff like this if we ever want to achieve equality.

Women need to stop quitting terrible jobs?

Women need to stop quitting their job to provide unpaid labor for men.

We need to change the system so this doesn't need to happen. The problem is the system. Let's not blame a woman for making s decision that makes sense for her - it creates a vicious cycle and focuses the blame in the wrong place.

I disagree. I think one of the main issues is that women willingly provide so much unpaid labor. I always was under the impression that women are victimized by men. The older I get, the more I see how women contribute to the problem.

An entire wsj section today about how women are hurt professionally by covid. Really?? Where are their husbands? Why are women assuming this responsibility?

I agree that women let men get off Scott free often but blaming the women for that doesn’t help.

I am 10 years younger than DH. While he makes more than I do, my earning potential is greater. It is easier for us as he has a very flexible job, so our solution is that I work hard while he tread water. But we have that luxury and a big cushion.

Women who could be stars in 5 years are getting wiped out by covid and our regressive president. Vote to express your thoughts about how the future should be. I am taking my moonshot- I want to see on my deathbed that my career saved lives.other moms should have that privilege (and responsibility). Yes men can have it too but that will happen any ways. Moms out there, don’t give up. How can we help you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I gave notice and will be quitting this month. My children need me. It sucks to be part of that statistic, but my boss (who has small children) heaped piles upon piles of work on me and didn’t understand why I wasn’t happy about working 60+ hours per week during a pandemic and DL. If I had a more flexible and understanding job, I’d try to work through this. But here we are.

Women need to stop doing stuff like this if we ever want to achieve equality.

Women need to stop quitting terrible jobs?

Women need to stop quitting their job to provide unpaid labor for men.

We need to change the system so this doesn't need to happen. The problem is the system. Let's not blame a woman for making s decision that makes sense for her - it creates a vicious cycle and focuses the blame in the wrong place.

I disagree. I think one of the main issues is that women willingly provide so much unpaid labor. I always was under the impression that women are victimized by men. The older I get, the more I see how women contribute to the problem.

An entire wsj section today about how women are hurt professionally by covid. Really?? Where are their husbands? Why are women assuming this responsibility?

I agree that women let men get off Scott free often but blaming the women for that doesn’t help.

I am 10 years younger than DH. While he makes more than I do, my earning potential is greater. It is easier for us as he has a very flexible job, so our solution is that I work hard while he tread water. But we have that luxury and a big cushion.

Women who could be stars in 5 years are getting wiped out by covid and our regressive president. Vote to express your thoughts about how the future should be. I am taking my moonshot- I want to see on my deathbed that my career saved lives.other moms should have that privilege (and responsibility). Yes men can have it too but that will happen any ways. Moms out there, don’t give up. How can we help you?

I do hope that women with big dreams and big jobs can make it happen. Maybe there should be programs to help those who might not otherwise have a cushion? Like "scholarships" for promising working women.

My thing is though, not all careers are like that, not all women feel this way about work. In DC, we have all these brilliant, ambitious women, and yes they should go get it! For some of us, the job is good, the job aligns with talents, the job is a source of pride, but it is not the identity. So I don't love the shame given to women who might quit just because they can, in a no-win situation.

[Anonymous]

This isn't anything new. I quit my job years ago to take care of my child who ended up with SN and then later a family member. It made sense as my husband made more than me and his earning potential was higher. I don't resent it at all and surprised how much I preferred being at home. I don't see the issue. You either pay for child care or stay home.

[Anonymous]

I'm very close to quitting.
3 kids, 3 schools.
total craziness.

I've been working for 20 years straight and I'm sort of relishing the idea of a break. The income is not insignificant for us but neither is my sanity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ivanka has a job. And she has kids. And she has no qualifications. And she pays no taxes.

Why aren't more women like her?

she has always had full time nannies

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:School isn't child care. They need to get child care. We don't need to open schools. You want to open schools but we cannot do that safely right now. Grow up and take care of your kids and stop expecting others to.

FALSE. Much evidence to the contrary.

No, TRUE. The idea that people were entitled to 13 years of free (well, nearly free, as the amount of property tax paid by each individual that is earmarked directly for public education is hilarously small and would not cover the crappiest childcare provider in the world) childcare just because they chose to have children was an INCORRECT ASSUMPTION whic has now been proven false, as the state sets the standards for education and in their opinion (the only opinion that matters), those standards are being met by educating without the babysitting component.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand a single mom.

But no married woman should quit her job. I am married and will NOT be quitting. There is NO reason that woman should need to quit their jobs while men do not! Just say no, ladies. Is your husband going to quit his job to do housework and distance learning? Of course not. Women have to stop voluntarily sacrificing their careers and financial well-being when men do not.

What? How can single moms quit their jobs? Who is going to pay the bills? I see where you were headed with this tangent but your offramp is bananas.

X1000. What, pp?! I’m a single mom and working as hard as I absolutely can to NOT lose my job. There’s no one to be my financial back up.

Kids can go live with Dad or you pay for child care.

Yeah, all single moms have dads their kids can live with

How can I pay child care if I quit my job?

A lot of them do and the mom refuses to give Dad equal time or even a good time share to spite and for child support. You pay for child care. Simple.