Do most affairs eventually come out?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman here.
As others have said, most keep it quiet and either tell no one or just one other person.
None of my friends’ affairs or one night stands have come out.

Christ. You are a real winner. Hang around with a bunch of whores. You must be one too.

I’m 50 and none of my college girlfriends, work best friends of 20 years or childhood friend have cheated on their spouses. No divorces in my family.

Telling. You are who you hang out with. Studies show this too.

Uhhh.... I read this as because 'most keep it quiet' she doesn't know about anyone's affair, but is assuming that some in her circle could very well be having affairs. She doesn't know. Her point is that people having affairs keep it quiet. As in, you seriously don't know if your college girlfriends, work best friends, or childhood friends have cheated on their spouses. Even if there are no divorces in your family, that doesn't mean there hasn't been an affair.

Wrong. I seriously love/adore my friends’ husbands. Our husbands all get along great. I get along famously with the wives of my husbands’ friends. If we visit in another state we both go. Everyone hangs out.

I would be so disappointed and disgusted if I found out one of my friends was cheating on her husband. We are 50 now and everyone has been together since late 20s-early 30s.

We have similar morals and outlook on life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman here.
As others have said, most keep it quiet and either tell no one or just one other person.
None of my friends’ affairs or one night stands have come out.

Christ. You are a real winner. Hang around with a bunch of whores. You must be one too.

I’m 50 and none of my college girlfriends, work best friends of 20 years or childhood friend have cheated on their spouses. No divorces in my family.

Telling. You are who you hang out with. Studies show this too.

Agree. Sounds like white trash- the pp with all the whore cheating girlfriends. Gross

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My ex-wife had an affair with her tennis instructor. We were married for 18 years and she had an affair for 6 years before I found out.

Two of my ex-wife's friends had affairs, one with her boss and one with a coworker.

An acquaintance has an arrangement with a college student where he visits her a certain number of times a month and she gets paid a "stipend". Apparently there is a network to recruit and get into this arrangement. I do not think his wife knows.

A also know one coworker who is carrying on an affair in another city where we travel frequently.

Heard about it but never knew anyone who actually did it. Scary thing for parents.

When our DD went off to college, DH brought this up with me. Seemed surprisingly aware of all the details

From what I learned it is not widespread. Maybe a few dozen per college.

[Anonymous]

I’ve been with a married guy for 13 years. We were fwb before he got married. Just kept our relationship going. No one he knows has a clue.

[Anonymous]

Early thirties. I know of at least two that came out but they came out because the spouse left to be with the other person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been with a married guy for 13 years. We were fwb before he got married. Just kept our relationship going. No one he knows has a clue.

Are you married?? Wth are you getting out of sloppy seconds?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve been with a married guy for 13 years. We were fwb before he got married. Just kept our relationship going. No one he knows has a clue.

Are you married?? Wth are you getting out of sloppy seconds?

No I’m single. Honestly not much but I just won’t get off the ride. I’ve tried a few times but he is persistent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, this board isn’t representative (geography, more people with relationship issues etc.) and so be careful of generalizing based on what you read here.

Grew up in a small town in the south. People tell me all kinds of good stuff because they have to tell someone and i am safe because I don’t go home much. My first BF - the only other person I went to HS with - is currently cheatIng on his husband. Smh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been with a married guy for 13 years. We were fwb before he got married. Just kept our relationship going. No one he knows has a clue.

Are you married?? Wth are you getting out of sloppy seconds?

No I’m single. Honestly not much but I just won’t get off the ride. I’ve tried a few times but he is persistent.

Do you have kids or are you just content being somebody’s f@ck bag?

Where is your self-esteem? Do you have an ounce of remorse that you are hurting a woman and kids very badly by your actions?

Karma babe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also, this board isn’t representative (geography, more people with relationship issues etc.) and so be careful of generalizing based on what you read here.

Grew up in a small town in the south. People tell me all kinds of good stuff because they have to tell someone and i am safe because I don’t go home much. My first BF - the only other person I went to HS with - is currently cheatIng on his husband. Smh

Small town in the south and gay marriage? Progressive...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been with a married guy for 13 years. We were fwb before he got married. Just kept our relationship going. No one he knows has a clue.

Are you married?? Wth are you getting out of sloppy seconds?

No I’m single. Honestly not much but I just won’t get off the ride. I’ve tried a few times but he is persistent.

Do you have kids or are you just content being somebody’s f@ck bag?

Where is your self-esteem? Do you have an ounce of remorse that you are hurting a woman and kids very badly by your actions?

Karma babe.

His wife doesn’t know so I’m not hurting anyone. I’d be fine with it ending but he won’t let that happen. I probably don’t have much self respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been with a married guy for 13 years. We were fwb before he got married. Just kept our relationship going. No one he knows has a clue.

Are you married?? Wth are you getting out of sloppy seconds?

No I’m single. Honestly not much but I just won’t get off the ride. I’ve tried a few times but he is persistent.

Do you have kids or are you just content being somebody’s f@ck bag?

Where is your self-esteem? Do you have an ounce of remorse that you are hurting a woman and kids very badly by your actions?

Karma babe.

His wife doesn’t know so I’m not hurting anyone. I’d be fine with it ending but he won’t let that happen. I probably don’t have much self respect.

Wtf? He won’t let that happen? Does he have a gun to your head?

Yes you are hurting his wife and it will come out and you will have destroyed her mentally. PTSD and years of therapy and awfulness.
You are an awful disgusting whore with zero self-esteem. You are worthless. Scum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex-wife had an affair with her tennis instructor. We were married for 18 years and she had an affair for 6 years before I found out.

Two of my ex-wife's friends had affairs, one with her boss and one with a coworker.

An acquaintance has an arrangement with a college student where he visits her a certain number of times a month and she gets paid a "stipend". Apparently there is a network to recruit and get into this arrangement. I do not think his wife knows.

A also know one coworker who is carrying on an affair in another city where we travel frequently.

Sugar Babies and Seeking Arrangement--the college girl is in reality a prostitute who goes by a fancy name of sugar baby

[Anonymous]

^not to mention old and alone. She’s been doing this 13-years...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been with a married guy for 13 years. We were fwb before he got married. Just kept our relationship going. No one he knows has a clue.

Are you married?? Wth are you getting out of sloppy seconds?

No I’m single. Honestly not much but I just won’t get off the ride. I’ve tried a few times but he is persistent.

Do you have kids or are you just content being somebody’s f@ck bag?

Where is your self-esteem? Do you have an ounce of remorse that you are hurting a woman and kids very badly by your actions?

Karma babe.

His wife doesn’t know so I’m not hurting anyone. I’d be fine with it ending but he won’t let that happen. I probably don’t have much self respect.

Wtf? He won’t let that happen? Does he have a gun to your head?

Yes you are hurting his wife and it will come out and you will have destroyed her mentally. PTSD and years of therapy and awfulness.
You are an awful disgusting whore with zero self-esteem. You are worthless. Scum.

When I have tried to end it he freaks out, is mean to me. Shows up at my house anyway . I met him and was fwb with him years before he ever met her. I don’t think it will come out. He’s very good