School called me to clean my daughter up because of an accident.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, outside of a SN classroom poop accidents are not normal in K and not something school staff are prepared to deal with. I hope you took your little one home for the day - poor kiddo.

I have worked in a special needs Pre-k and K class. This is actually rare among the kids in the class who are potty trained. If a child is not in diapers or a pull up it can be pretty difficult to change them without making a huge mess, especially if the underwear are also wet. K classroom in my current school do not have gloves or wipes. It sucks for everyone but I understand why they called.

[Anonymous]

These things happen as another poster pointed out - not common but not unusual like everyone is claiming

But if the school is calling and telling you to come get her, then yes she really needs to go home. In my experience. They don’t ask you to come get your kid unless they really have to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No she is not SN. She has 2-3 pee accidents but never poop. She does have some anxiety surrounding asking to go the the bathroom. Her K class does not have a bathroom in the classroom. They take 3 scheduled bathroom breaks as a class, but she doesn’t always utilize those teams. I wish the teacher would push her to always try during those breaks. I do not think that I should have to come take her home in the middle of the day tho. I’m sure this is something schools nurses are used to.

This is absolutely not normal. Your poor daughter.

Are you upset because you looked bad at work?

This is not daycare. It is not normal for educators to be cleaning up an elementary child’s poop.

[Anonymous]

My son was scared of the loud flushing sound the toilets made and would try to hold it till he couldn't. When my son communicate this with me I worked with his teacher and we came up with a solution.
Try to speak with your daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son was scared of the loud flushing sound the toilets made and would try to hold it till he couldn't. When my son communicate this with me I worked with his teacher and we came up with a solution.
Try to speak with your daughter.

Ha, I thought my daughter was the only kid scared of the loud flusher! She ended up with a UTI before we figured out the problem and worked with the teacher (who flushed for her)

[Anonymous]

This her first year in school, we did not do preschool. She does not have accidents at home, and hasn’t for years. According to to the teacher, she encourages my DD to try and DD refuses. I talked to her tonight about how she has to try when the teacher tells her to, and she said okay. She did mention there is a boy at her table who laughs at her, and then mentioned another girl who rushes/pushes her when walking down the steps(she does not like stairs) So there definitely could be some anxiety.

-OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This her first year in school, we did not do preschool. She does not have accidents at home, and hasn’t for years. According to to the teacher, she encourages my DD to try and DD refuses. I talked to her tonight about how she has to try when the teacher tells her to, and she said okay. She did mention there is a boy at her table who laughs at her, and then mentioned another girl who rushes/pushes her when walking down the steps(she does not like stairs) So there definitely could be some anxiety.

-OP

Did you stay home with her if she didn’t go to preschool?

I hope the kids don’t make fun of her for her poop accident. Kids can be mean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG. People on this board clearly have not been around a lot of kids in school. One time accidents like this are not common but not unusual. It happened to my one kid in K. An explosion like yours. This kid has been regular since he was a baby. But the class kept getting worked up all day, and he was afraid to ask to go to the bathroom. Classroom misbehavior made (and still makes) him very anxious. He usually didn’t go outside designated times. He HATED the school bathrooms, so he avoided them to the extent possible. He held everything until he couldn’t. It was a BIG mess. Awful. Embarrassing. He had never had a problem before or since. I never had problems as a child, but Thankfully, I was aware of incidents when I was in my school days (a couple — yes more than one going as far as SIXTH grade). The older ones weren’t explosions per se but kids were sent home. One was a relative and another I knew from overhearing a discussion my mom had with s neighbor. Last year I ran a school program right after school. I took over the specials room after a kindergarten class, and yep, the teacher and I cleaned up messes a couple of times. (The janitorial staff took too long to come before my students arrived.)

All this is to say ... your child is not alone. If this is a regular problem, look into it further. My other kid was a withholder — which was waaay bad. If it’s a one time thing, move on.

The part that is really not normal is not the child but op’s reaction - I can’t believe I was called. Surely the nurse is used to this. Etc. it borders on seeming like a troll.

That said, I agree it makes sense to talk to her. Figure out if she is afraid of the bathroom or something and has been trying to hold it all day. Poor kid.

I've experienced enough of these types of parents to know that OP isn't a troll. I currently know of a parent who is livid that the school health tech won't just administer IV antibiotics for a student with a temporary port who needs medication administered during the school day. One of the parents has to come to school every day to do it and just can't understand why the school won't do it for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This her first year in school, we did not do preschool. She does not have accidents at home, and hasn’t for years. According to to the teacher, she encourages my DD to try and DD refuses. I talked to her tonight about how she has to try when the teacher tells her to, and she said okay. She did mention there is a boy at her table who laughs at her, and then mentioned another girl who rushes/pushes her when walking down the steps(she does not like stairs) So there definitely could be some anxiety.

-OP

Teacher should not be asking her. Teacher should be telling her to go and if she doesn't go, even if she doesn't need to, you have consequences at home. This is why a prek program before K is good even if its just for a year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG. People on this board clearly have not been around a lot of kids in school. One time accidents like this are not common but not unusual. It happened to my one kid in K. An explosion like yours. This kid has been regular since he was a baby. But the class kept getting worked up all day, and he was afraid to ask to go to the bathroom. Classroom misbehavior made (and still makes) him very anxious. He usually didn’t go outside designated times. He HATED the school bathrooms, so he avoided them to the extent possible. He held everything until he couldn’t. It was a BIG mess. Awful. Embarrassing. He had never had a problem before or since. I never had problems as a child, but Thankfully, I was aware of incidents when I was in my school days (a couple — yes more than one going as far as SIXTH grade). The older ones weren’t explosions per se but kids were sent home. One was a relative and another I knew from overhearing a discussion my mom had with s neighbor. Last year I ran a school program right after school. I took over the specials room after a kindergarten class, and yep, the teacher and I cleaned up messes a couple of times. (The janitorial staff took too long to come before my students arrived.)

All this is to say ... your child is not alone. If this is a regular problem, look into it further. My other kid was a withholder — which was waaay bad. If it’s a one time thing, move on.

The part that is really not normal is not the child but op’s reaction - I can’t believe I was called. Surely the nurse is used to this. Etc. it borders on seeming like a troll.

That said, I agree it makes sense to talk to her. Figure out if she is afraid of the bathroom or something and has been trying to hold it all day. Poor kid.

I've experienced enough of these types of parents to know that OP isn't a troll. I currently know of a parent who is livid that the school health tech won't just administer IV antibiotics for a student with a temporary port who needs medication administered during the school day. One of the parents has to come to school every day to do it and just can't understand why the school won't do it for them.

This is a bit of a different situation and if there is a nurse on site, it would make sense for them to do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This her first year in school, we did not do preschool. She does not have accidents at home, and hasn’t for years. According to to the teacher, she encourages my DD to try and DD refuses. I talked to her tonight about how she has to try when the teacher tells her to, and she said okay. She did mention there is a boy at her table who laughs at her, and then mentioned another girl who rushes/pushes her when walking down the steps(she does not like stairs) So there definitely could be some anxiety.

-OP

Did you stay home with her if she didn’t go to preschool?

I hope the kids don’t make fun of her for her poop accident. Kids can be mean.

This is why she should have been taken home and cleaned up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG. People on this board clearly have not been around a lot of kids in school. One time accidents like this are not common but not unusual. It happened to my one kid in K. An explosion like yours. This kid has been regular since he was a baby. But the class kept getting worked up all day, and he was afraid to ask to go to the bathroom. Classroom misbehavior made (and still makes) him very anxious. He usually didn’t go outside designated times. He HATED the school bathrooms, so he avoided them to the extent possible. He held everything until he couldn’t. It was a BIG mess. Awful. Embarrassing. He had never had a problem before or since. I never had problems as a child, but Thankfully, I was aware of incidents when I was in my school days (a couple — yes more than one going as far as SIXTH grade). The older ones weren’t explosions per se but kids were sent home. One was a relative and another I knew from overhearing a discussion my mom had with s neighbor. Last year I ran a school program right after school. I took over the specials room after a kindergarten class, and yep, the teacher and I cleaned up messes a couple of times. (The janitorial staff took too long to come before my students arrived.)

All this is to say ... your child is not alone. If this is a regular problem, look into it further. My other kid was a withholder — which was waaay bad. If it’s a one time thing, move on.

The part that is really not normal is not the child but op’s reaction - I can’t believe I was called. Surely the nurse is used to this. Etc. it borders on seeming like a troll.

That said, I agree it makes sense to talk to her. Figure out if she is afraid of the bathroom or something and has been trying to hold it all day. Poor kid.

I've experienced enough of these types of parents to know that OP isn't a troll. I currently know of a parent who is livid that the school health tech won't just administer IV antibiotics for a student with a temporary port who needs medication administered during the school day. One of the parents has to come to school every day to do it and just can't understand why the school won't do it for them.

This is a bit of a different situation and if there is a nurse on site, it would make sense for them to do it.

There is no registered nurse. There is a health tech. And, no, it doesn't make sense for them to do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG. People on this board clearly have not been around a lot of kids in school. One time accidents like this are not common but not unusual. It happened to my one kid in K. An explosion like yours. This kid has been regular since he was a baby. But the class kept getting worked up all day, and he was afraid to ask to go to the bathroom. Classroom misbehavior made (and still makes) him very anxious. He usually didn’t go outside designated times. He HATED the school bathrooms, so he avoided them to the extent possible. He held everything until he couldn’t. It was a BIG mess. Awful. Embarrassing. He had never had a problem before or since. I never had problems as a child, but Thankfully, I was aware of incidents when I was in my school days (a couple — yes more than one going as far as SIXTH grade). The older ones weren’t explosions per se but kids were sent home. One was a relative and another I knew from overhearing a discussion my mom had with s neighbor. Last year I ran a school program right after school. I took over the specials room after a kindergarten class, and yep, the teacher and I cleaned up messes a couple of times. (The janitorial staff took too long to come before my students arrived.)

All this is to say ... your child is not alone. If this is a regular problem, look into it further. My other kid was a withholder — which was waaay bad. If it’s a one time thing, move on.

The part that is really not normal is not the child but op’s reaction - I can’t believe I was called. Surely the nurse is used to this. Etc. it borders on seeming like a troll.

That said, I agree it makes sense to talk to her. Figure out if she is afraid of the bathroom or something and has been trying to hold it all day. Poor kid.

I've experienced enough of these types of parents to know that OP isn't a troll. I currently know of a parent who is livid that the school health tech won't just administer IV antibiotics for a student with a temporary port who needs medication administered during the school day. One of the parents has to come to school every day to do it and just can't understand why the school won't do it for them.

I sympathize for working parents. That would be a huge inconvenience and disruption in the work day depending how long commute is.

I ended up quitting when my oldest was in kindergarten. I missed so much work that year. Between the 14 snow days, 10 two hour delays, teacher work days, sicknesses, doc appointments, sports and my kids crying that I was the only mom not to come to the class parties, I decided to stay home. I remember having to pick up my sick kid but not wanting to miss a very important meeting. I had my assistant sit in the car with my sleeping sick kid for an hour. In hindsight, I should have just missed the meeting.

Kindergarten kicked my ass compared to daycare.

Op, I hope we have a mild winter without too many snow days.

Now I’m home full time with 3 kids and getting called is no big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This her first year in school, we did not do preschool. She does not have accidents at home, and hasn’t for years. According to to the teacher, she encourages my DD to try and DD refuses. I talked to her tonight about how she has to try when the teacher tells her to, and she said okay. She did mention there is a boy at her table who laughs at her, and then mentioned another girl who rushes/pushes her when walking down the steps(she does not like stairs) So there definitely could be some anxiety.

-OP

Has she ever been separated from you before?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG. People on this board clearly have not been around a lot of kids in school. One time accidents like this are not common but not unusual. It happened to my one kid in K. An explosion like yours. This kid has been regular since he was a baby. But the class kept getting worked up all day, and he was afraid to ask to go to the bathroom. Classroom misbehavior made (and still makes) him very anxious. He usually didn’t go outside designated times. He HATED the school bathrooms, so he avoided them to the extent possible. He held everything until he couldn’t. It was a BIG mess. Awful. Embarrassing. He had never had a problem before or since. I never had problems as a child, but Thankfully, I was aware of incidents when I was in my school days (a couple — yes more than one going as far as SIXTH grade). The older ones weren’t explosions per se but kids were sent home. One was a relative and another I knew from overhearing a discussion my mom had with s neighbor. Last year I ran a school program right after school. I took over the specials room after a kindergarten class, and yep, the teacher and I cleaned up messes a couple of times. (The janitorial staff took too long to come before my students arrived.)

All this is to say ... your child is not alone. If this is a regular problem, look into it further. My other kid was a withholder — which was waaay bad. If it’s a one time thing, move on.

The part that is really not normal is not the child but op’s reaction - I can’t believe I was called. Surely the nurse is used to this. Etc. it borders on seeming like a troll.

That said, I agree it makes sense to talk to her. Figure out if she is afraid of the bathroom or something and has been trying to hold it all day. Poor kid.

I've experienced enough of these types of parents to know that OP isn't a troll. I currently know of a parent who is livid that the school health tech won't just administer IV antibiotics for a student with a temporary port who needs medication administered during the school day. One of the parents has to come to school every day to do it and just can't understand why the school won't do it for them.

I sympathize for working parents. That would be a huge inconvenience and disruption in the work day depending how long commute is.

I ended up quitting when my oldest was in kindergarten. I missed so much work that year. Between the 14 snow days, 10 two hour delays, teacher work days, sicknesses, doc appointments, sports and my kids crying that I was the only mom not to come to the class parties, I decided to stay home. I remember having to pick up my sick kid but not wanting to miss a very important meeting. I had my assistant sit in the car with my sleeping sick kid for an hour. In hindsight, I should have just missed the meeting.

Kindergarten kicked my ass compared to daycare.

Op, I hope we have a mild winter without too many snow days.

Now I’m home full time with 3 kids and getting called is no big deal.

So you're a single parent?