What’s the longest you’ve dated/stayed with someone just because the sex was good?

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Anonymous wrote:I haven’t gotten a BJ in over 10 years. I go down on her and make her have the big O. Then I finish up my part.

If you go down on her but let her get away with not giving you oral, the problem is you and you should know what to do. Why are you the only one going down?

A gay man once told me, when a woman gives a man a BJ, she is doing you a favor, when a gay man gives you a BJ, you are doing him a favor. Same thing here, many men, myself included, love going south on women, and do it for our own benefit as well as hers. I have only met one, maybe two women who shared the love of giving, and yes, I should have married them.

I like going down on my husband but I don’t like him going down on me. I know I must be weird and he offers to do it but I rarely say yes.

Girl - you are missing one of life’s wonders! It’s my best way to get a Big O. Whatever hang ups you have you need to get over them before it’s too late.

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Anonymous wrote:Just because the sex was good? I’ve only had one guy where it was just about the sex and it only lasted 2-3 months. He was very well endowed and I still remember the first time I saw it and he really knew how to use it. But he was about as interesting as a bag of rocks and not much brighter and his sex skills were just not enough for it to last longer.

That must have been an impressive endowment!

It was at least 8”+ and a big girth and pretty scary the first time.

That could be great or terribly painful depending on his skillset. Was he good at using it?

I’m not the PP but I dated a guy like this for a few months. The first couple of times I was with him I was on top and I was able to completely control the sex along with some extra lubrication so it wasn’t painful but a very different feel. Over time I got very use to it and he was very skillful. But his other shortcomings did not make up for it so I moved on. Honestly, a guy with an average size but skillful is just as satisfying.

This sounds just like some I dated years ago. Does his first name begin with an R and his last name end with an N?

Richard NixoN - well he was known as Tricky Dick!

You are confusing him with Ronald Reagan.

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I can't imagine dating a guy just for sex. If he's good with sex then there are other things about him I would like.

[Anonymous]

A few months.

I found him utterly smothering and not really physically attractive at all. But his relentlessness in pursuing me carried through to his dedication and perseverance sexually and it was amazing.

If I could have that guy's sexual energy and dedication with my otherwise amazing husband I would be the luckiest woman on the planet.

But at least I have the memories.

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Anonymous wrote:A few months.

I found him utterly smothering and not really physically attractive at all. But his relentlessness in pursuing me carried through to his dedication and perseverance sexually and it was amazing.

If I could have that guy's sexual energy and dedication with my otherwise amazing husband I would be the luckiest woman on the planet.

But at least I have the memories.

My husband sounds like yours. Early on in our relationship he was lacking in some of the “finer skills” that I had experienced in a prior relationship so I would subtly hint at what might be fun for both of us. He took the hints very enthusiastically and he is now amazing in and out of bed.

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2 years. He was a diplomat so there was an end date and we both knew it. We had really good chemistry and it was super fun while it lasted. I married the next guy I dated after him and while DH is marriage material, I did used to think about the diplomat frequently.

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Anonymous wrote:2 years. He was a diplomat so there was an end date and we both knew it. We had really good chemistry and it was super fun while it lasted. I married the next guy I dated after him and while DH is marriage material, I did used to think about the diplomat frequently.

Was he the diplomat from Bigdickistan? Lol.

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Anonymous wrote:2 years. He was a diplomat so there was an end date and we both knew it. We had really good chemistry and it was super fun while it lasted. I married the next guy I dated after him and while DH is marriage material, I did used to think about the diplomat frequently.

Was he the diplomat from Bigdickistan? Lol.

Yes, sent to the US for two years to represent his people and improve relations with the US’s single women.

He left quite an impression.

[Anonymous]

I don’t get into a serious relationship unless the sex is good. So, literally all of them. Like each one. Now I’m dabbling with a boy toy and Joel the age gap keeps me from catching feelings. I’m tired of the drama!

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t get into a serious relationship unless the sex is good. So, literally all of them. Like each one. Now I’m dabbling with a boy toy and Joel the age gap keeps me from catching feelings. I’m tired of the drama!

In my single days I was happy to work on “skills development” if I really liked someone. I never met a guy who wasn’t interested in getting better and I was smart enough to never say you need to get better.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t get into a serious relationship unless the sex is good. So, literally all of them. Like each one. Now I’m dabbling with a boy toy and Joel the age gap keeps me from catching feelings. I’m tired of the drama!

In my single days I was happy to work on “skills development” if I really liked someone. I never met a guy who wasn’t interested in getting better and I was smart enough to never say you need to get better.

Different women like different things and no guy is going to hit it out of the park his first time at the plate. What gets us to the Big O is far more complicated then it is for men who all seem to be happy with a BJ and then PIV. I definitely agree with PP about coaching men to give you what you want. They are desperate to please but they need to know what you want. Unfortunately, some just can’t deliver it.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t get into a serious relationship unless the sex is good. So, literally all of them. Like each one. Now I’m dabbling with a boy toy and Joel the age gap keeps me from catching feelings. I’m tired of the drama!

In my single days I was happy to work on “skills development” if I really liked someone. I never met a guy who wasn’t interested in getting better and I was smart enough to never say you need to get better.

Different women like different things and no guy is going to hit it out of the park his first time at the plate. What gets us to the Big O is far more complicated then it is for men who all seem to be happy with a BJ and then PIV. I definitely agree with PP about coaching men to give you what you want. They are desperate to please but they need to know what you want. Unfortunately, some just can’t deliver it.

Why can’t some deliver?

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t get into a serious relationship unless the sex is good. So, literally all of them. Like each one. Now I’m dabbling with a boy toy and Joel the age gap keeps me from catching feelings. I’m tired of the drama!

In my single days I was happy to work on “skills development” if I really liked someone. I never met a guy who wasn’t interested in getting better and I was smart enough to never say you need to get better.

Different women like different things and no guy is going to hit it out of the park his first time at the plate. What gets us to the Big O is far more complicated then it is for men who all seem to be happy with a BJ and then PIV. I definitely agree with PP about coaching men to give you what you want. They are desperate to please but they need to know what you want. Unfortunately, some just can’t deliver it.

Why can’t some deliver?

NP - as in many things not everyone is coachable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t get into a serious relationship unless the sex is good. So, literally all of them. Like each one. Now I’m dabbling with a boy toy and Joel the age gap keeps me from catching feelings. I’m tired of the drama!

In my single days I was happy to work on “skills development” if I really liked someone. I never met a guy who wasn’t interested in getting better and I was smart enough to never say you need to get better.

Different women like different things and no guy is going to hit it out of the park his first time at the plate. What gets us to the Big O is far more complicated then it is for men who all seem to be happy with a BJ and then PIV. I definitely agree with PP about coaching men to give you what you want. They are desperate to please but they need to know what you want. Unfortunately, some just can’t deliver it.

In fact, lesbians, who should already know about lady parts still have to learn how to please a new lover

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t get into a serious relationship unless the sex is good. So, literally all of them. Like each one. Now I’m dabbling with a boy toy and Joel the age gap keeps me from catching feelings. I’m tired of the drama!

In my single days I was happy to work on “skills development” if I really liked someone. I never met a guy who wasn’t interested in getting better and I was smart enough to never say you need to get better.

Different women like different things and no guy is going to hit it out of the park his first time at the plate. What gets us to the Big O is far more complicated then it is for men who all seem to be happy with a BJ and then PIV. I definitely agree with PP about coaching men to give you what you want. They are desperate to please but they need to know what you want. Unfortunately, some just can’t deliver it.

In fact, lesbians, who should already know about lady parts still have to learn how to please a new lover

I’ve been married 24 years and I’m still trying to figure out what my wife likes! I have a darn good idea but on any given day it can be different. I will often ask “what would feel good tonight?” And the answer is usually “I don’t know.” That’s not very helpful so I simply guess and do my best. As someone above noted men’s needs are pretty darn simple.