What’s the longest you’ve dated/stayed with someone just because the sex was good?

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Anonymous wrote:Just because the sex was good? I’ve only had one guy where it was just about the sex and it only lasted 2-3 months. He was very well endowed and I still remember the first time I saw it and he really knew how to use it. But he was about as interesting as a bag of rocks and not much brighter and his sex skills were just not enough for it to last longer.

That must have been an impressive endowment!

It was at least 8”+ and a big girth and pretty scary the first time.

That's funny.

I imagine that every woman has been with a guy that size at least once.

Probably true but very few of them actually enjoyed it.

Only 15% of men have a penis 7” or larger and only 3% 8” and larger. Based on that data not many women have experienced some one really big unless those few guys really get around. I think most of us can be really happy at 5-6”.

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Anonymous wrote:Just because the sex was good? I’ve only had one guy where it was just about the sex and it only lasted 2-3 months. He was very well endowed and I still remember the first time I saw it and he really knew how to use it. But he was about as interesting as a bag of rocks and not much brighter and his sex skills were just not enough for it to last longer.

That must have been an impressive endowment!

It was at least 8”+ and a big girth and pretty scary the first time.

That's funny.

I imagine that every woman has been with a guy that size at least once.

Probably true but very few of them actually enjoyed it.

Only 15% of men have a penis 7” or larger and only 3% 8” and larger. Based on that data not many women have experienced some one really big unless those few guys really get around. I think most of us can be really happy at 5-6”.

Those big guys must get around way more often then because they definitely seem fairly common.

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Anonymous wrote:Just because the sex was good? I’ve only had one guy where it was just about the sex and it only lasted 2-3 months. He was very well endowed and I still remember the first time I saw it and he really knew how to use it. But he was about as interesting as a bag of rocks and not much brighter and his sex skills were just not enough for it to last longer.

That must have been an impressive endowment!

It was at least 8”+ and a big girth and pretty scary the first time.

That's funny.

I imagine that every woman has been with a guy that size at least once.

Probably true but very few of them actually enjoyed it.

My husband is 9” and I had no idea how rare that is and how lucky I am

Only 15% of men have a penis 7” or larger and only 3% 8” and larger. Based on that data not many women have experienced some one really big unless those few guys really get around. I think most of us can be really happy at 5-6”.

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Anonymous wrote:Just because the sex was good? I’ve only had one guy where it was just about the sex and it only lasted 2-3 months. He was very well endowed and I still remember the first time I saw it and he really knew how to use it. But he was about as interesting as a bag of rocks and not much brighter and his sex skills were just not enough for it to last longer.

That must have been an impressive endowment!

It was at least 8”+ and a big girth and pretty scary the first time.

That's funny.

I imagine that every woman has been with a guy that size at least once.

Probably true but very few of them actually enjoyed it.

My husband is 9” and I had no idea how rare that is and how lucky I am

Only 15% of men have a penis 7” or larger and only 3% 8” and larger. Based on that data not many women have experienced some one really big unless those few guys really get around. I think most of us can be really happy at 5-6”.

I don’t think these studies account for who women actually date. It seems to me that the really large guys are more like 25% of the population.

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Anonymous wrote:Just because the sex was good? I’ve only had one guy where it was just about the sex and it only lasted 2-3 months. He was very well endowed and I still remember the first time I saw it and he really knew how to use it. But he was about as interesting as a bag of rocks and not much brighter and his sex skills were just not enough for it to last longer.

That must have been an impressive endowment!

It was at least 8”+ and a big girth and pretty scary the first time.

That's funny.

I imagine that every woman has been with a guy that size at least once.

Probably true but very few of them actually enjoyed it.

My husband is 9” and I had no idea how rare that is and how lucky I am .

Does it ever get old?

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Anonymous wrote:Just because the sex was good? I’ve only had one guy where it was just about the sex and it only lasted 2-3 months. He was very well endowed and I still remember the first time I saw it and he really knew how to use it. But he was about as interesting as a bag of rocks and not much brighter and his sex skills were just not enough for it to last longer.

That must have been an impressive endowment!

It was at least 8”+ and a big girth and pretty scary the first time.

That's funny.

I imagine that every woman has been with a guy that size at least once.

Probably true but very few of them actually enjoyed it.

My husband is 9” and I had no idea how rare that is and how lucky I am

Only 15% of men have a penis 7” or larger and only 3% 8” and larger. Based on that data not many women have experienced some one really big unless those few guys really get around. I think most of us can be really happy at 5-6”.

I don’t think these studies account for who women actually date. It seems to me that the really large guys are more like 25% of the population.

https://www.nature.com/news/bigger-not-always-better-for-penis-size-1.12770

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Anonymous wrote:Just because the sex was good? I’ve only had one guy where it was just about the sex and it only lasted 2-3 months. He was very well endowed and I still remember the first time I saw it and he really knew how to use it. But he was about as interesting as a bag of rocks and not much brighter and his sex skills were just not enough for it to last longer.

That must have been an impressive endowment!

It was at least 8”+ and a big girth and pretty scary the first time.

That's funny.

I imagine that every woman has been with a guy that size at least once.

Probably true but very few of them actually enjoyed it.

My husband is 9” and I had no idea how rare that is and how lucky I am .

Does it ever get old?

No!

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Anonymous wrote:Just because the sex was good? I’ve only had one guy where it was just about the sex and it only lasted 2-3 months. He was very well endowed and I still remember the first time I saw it and he really knew how to use it. But he was about as interesting as a bag of rocks and not much brighter and his sex skills were just not enough for it to last longer.

That must have been an impressive endowment!

It was at least 8”+ and a big girth and pretty scary the first time.

That's funny.

I imagine that every woman has been with a guy that size at least once.

Probably true but very few of them actually enjoyed it.

My husband is 9” and I had no idea how rare that is and how lucky I am

Only 15% of men have a penis 7” or larger and only 3% 8” and larger. Based on that data not many women have experienced some one really big unless those few guys really get around. I think most of us can be really happy at 5-6”.

I don’t think these studies account for who women actually date. It seems to me that the really large guys are more like 25% of the population.

https://www.nature.com/news/bigger-not-always-better-for-penis-size-1.12770

That study basically just says that women are sexually attracted to guys who are well endowed and have nice bodies. They needed to conduct a study to figure that out?

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Anonymous wrote:Just because the sex was good? I’ve only had one guy where it was just about the sex and it only lasted 2-3 months. He was very well endowed and I still remember the first time I saw it and he really knew how to use it. But he was about as interesting as a bag of rocks and not much brighter and his sex skills were just not enough for it to last longer.

That must have been an impressive endowment!

It was at least 8”+ and a big girth and pretty scary the first time.

That's funny.

I imagine that every woman has been with a guy that size at least once.

Probably true but very few of them actually enjoyed it.

My husband is 9” and I had no idea how rare that is and how lucky I am .

Does it ever get old?

No!

Did it intimidate you when you first started dating?

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve been married 34 years and I swear my husband gets better at it so I’d say 34 years. To be honest I had only been with a few guys before him and the sex was fine and in one case very good but never toe tingling. I still remember every detail of the first time I had sex with my husband but clearly not the thousands of times since then though Tuesday night was pretty darn good.

I've been married to my wife for almost 20 years. We've only had sex 627 times.

Do you put a notch in the bedpost to keep an accurate record? 30 times as year is depressing given that frequency in years 1-5 was likely more. For pp twice a week for 34 years is in the thousands which is not extreme but very nice.

I might be off by a few. When we first started dating, I counted because it was kind of fun. Then I kept counting out of habit. (During this period, I might have missed a few or gained a few). Then the sex really felt like it was drying up, so I started a spreadsheet to see if I was right about how seldom we were having sex or if I was imagining things. It's been 162 times since 2012. That said, we had sex 4 times last week, so it might be that we're turning a corner.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve been married 34 years and I swear my husband gets better at it so I’d say 34 years. To be honest I had only been with a few guys before him and the sex was fine and in one case very good but never toe tingling. I still remember every detail of the first time I had sex with my husband but clearly not the thousands of times since then though Tuesday night was pretty darn good.

I've been married to my wife for almost 20 years. We've only had sex 627 times.

Do you put a notch in the bedpost to keep an accurate record? 30 times as year is depressing given that frequency in years 1-5 was likely more. For pp twice a week for 34 years is in the thousands which is not extreme but very nice.

I might be off by a few. When we first started dating, I counted because it was kind of fun. Then I kept counting out of habit. (During this period, I might have missed a few or gained a few). Then the sex really felt like it was drying up, so I started a spreadsheet to see if I was right about how seldom we were having sex or if I was imagining things. It's been 162 times since 2012. That said, we had sex 4 times last week, so it might be that we're turning a corner.

What led to the four times last week? That’s fantastic! How was it for her and what brought her back for 2,3,4? We are good for 1-2 times a week and it’s been many years since we did it four times but as retirees i’m very happy with our pace. Many people our age have put their libidos out to pasture.

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Anonymous wrote:My 20 year anniversary is tomorrow!

Our sex anniversary is at 23 years.

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What led to the four times last week? That’s fantastic! How was it for her and what brought her back for 2,3,4? We are good for 1-2 times a week and it’s been many years since we did it four times but as retirees i’m very happy with our pace. Many people our age have put their libidos out to pasture.

I'm not sure exactly. We've had periodic conversations about our sex frequency being not what I wanted. But those never really went anywhere, so I it'd probably been 6 months to a year since that kind of conversation. I also pretty rarely initiate since I get shot down probably 80% of the time. So, we wait until she's in the mood and/or it occurs to her with the result being we have sex about every 3-6 weeks.Last week, out of nowhere from my perspective, she said that for the next month, if I initiate, she wouldn't turn me down. But, then she proceeded to initiate. Two days later, she initiated again. Both of those times were good for her. Two days later, I initiated. I don't think that time was that great for her, so (trying not to venture into explicit territory here), I asked if I could help her finish. She said no. She then went and took a shower. Apparently happier with her state of hygiene, she invited me to finish her off which I happily did. (I'm counting that as twice that day.)

This has been a novelty. We're approaching 50 and I think something like once or twice a week would be a perfect pace for me. I don't expect this pace to last, but just the fact that she is making the effort unprompted means the world to me.

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What led to the four times last week? That’s fantastic! How was it for her and what brought her back for 2,3,4? We are good for 1-2 times a week and it’s been many years since we did it four times but as retirees i’m very happy with our pace. Many people our age have put their libidos out to pasture.

I'm not sure exactly. We've had periodic conversations about our sex frequency being not what I wanted. But those never really went anywhere, so I it'd probably been 6 months to a year since that kind of conversation. I also pretty rarely initiate since I get shot down probably 80% of the time. So, we wait until she's in the mood and/or it occurs to her with the result being we have sex about every 3-6 weeks.Last week, out of nowhere from my perspective, she said that for the next month, if I initiate, she wouldn't turn me down. But, then she proceeded to initiate. Two days later, she initiated again. Both of those times were good for her. Two days later, I initiated. I don't think that time was that great for her, so (trying not to venture into explicit territory here), I asked if I could help her finish. She said no. She then went and took a shower. Apparently happier with her state of hygiene, she invited me to finish her off which I happily did. (I'm counting that as twice that day.)

This has been a novelty. We're approaching 50 and I think something like once or twice a week would be a perfect pace for me. I don't expect this pace to last, but just the fact that she is making the effort unprompted means the world to me.

Keep initiating but just as important is being affectionate on a daily basis. First thing in the morning my husband always gives me a hug when he enters the kitchen and during the day he will often compliment me on how I look. There are a ton of little things he does that always reminds me that he really cares about me. In bed he will usually ask if there is anything special I’d like tonight because on any given night you never know.

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Anonymous wrote:I haven’t gotten a BJ in over 10 years. I go down on her and make her have the big O. Then I finish up my part.

If you go down on her but let her get away with not giving you oral, the problem is you and you should know what to do. Why are you the only one going down?

A gay man once told me, when a woman gives a man a BJ, she is doing you a favor, when a gay man gives you a BJ, you are doing him a favor. Same thing here, many men, myself included, love going south on women, and do it for our own benefit as well as hers. I have only met one, maybe two women who shared the love of giving, and yes, I should have married them.

I like going down on my husband but I don’t like him going down on me. I know I must be weird and he offers to do it but I rarely say yes.

I was like this until I was with someone who was really incredible at oral. Now I crave it.