I'm afraid that my daughter is not very smart and I'm worried about her future job prospects

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Anonymous wrote:Folks: OP is a troll. With that being said, whoever said a person with average intelligence can't be in big aw obviously isn't in big law or has NPD and doesn't really that he/she is surrounded by mediocre people with average IQs. My MIL is completely clueless and had a 30 year career in big law. In fact, I think you have to be stupid to follow that career path.

OP here. I swear I am not a troll. This is incredibly hard, I'm extremely worried about my daughter's future. Referring to her as not very smart is me just being extremely blunt. It may not (hopefully) even be true. But despite whether her issues are due to low processing speed, adhd, or any other type of learning disability. It's not something that would matter to a future employer. To a future employer, she just wouldn't come across as very smart and that is what I'm worried about.

ADHD can be medicated. An IQ of 110 does not put her at any disadvantage if she has decent social skills. In fact, social skills are far more important for most jobs anyway.

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Find her passion. And put tons of effort into that and she will be fine.

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OP were you a prodigy and a confident ego maniac by 12 yrs old?

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Anonymous wrote:Is she pretty? She can marry well and be a SAHM.

A lot of people won’t like this answer but it’s realistic. Women do this and it’s totally accepted and even applauded, depending on how wealthy you are.

OP here. Yes, she is and sad to say, this does seem to be her best hope. But obviously I can't hedge my bets on this.

Is she kind, outgoing, personable, creative, ... anything besides low processing and 110 IQ?

She is pretty, kind, very empathetic, creative (although not amazingly creative), but she is a bit too shy to be considered personable.

She could be a dentist technician, paralegal, admin assistant, therapist, sonographer

I think you are over reacting, have her do her myers briggs.

Yes, she will make less than your H. That is common in this area, kids making less than their parents. It's not the end of the world.

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Anonymous[b wrote:]Find her passion. And put tons of effort into that and she will be fine.

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Her passion is dance, but she can't realistically make a career out of that.

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Anonymous[b wrote:]Find her passion. And put tons of effort into that and she will be fine.

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Her passion is dance, but she can't realistically make a career out of that.

Why not? She could be a dancer until she can't go any further. Then she could be a dance instructor. She could become a zumba or athletic dance class instructor. She could open up a store selling leotards. Lots of avenues.

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helicopter mom alert

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she pretty? She can marry well and be a SAHM.

A lot of people won’t like this answer but it’s realistic. Women do this and it’s totally accepted and even applauded, depending on how wealthy you are.

OP here. Yes, she is and sad to say, this does seem to be her best hope. But obviously I can't hedge my bets on this.

NO. Now I think you're a troll.

OP here. Believe me I am not a troll, I'm just sad and at my witt's end and hoping someone can give me some advice.

Lots of people (including me) have given you the exact right advice which is to seek out a professional evaluation if you truly have concerns about how she is doing in school. But you keep ignoring that, probably because you are on here for your own jollies.

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Both my DH and I were late bloomers. We didn't start to really excel academically till we hit 15 or so. We now make six figures. There's still time. Don't give up. My 10 yr old DD also seems a bit "slower" to grasp concepts than her older sibling at the same age. She is still very immature for her grade (late summer bday). I have hope for her. But I know how you feel.. sometimes I forget myself and get really frustrated with her.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she pretty? She can marry well and be a SAHM.

A lot of people won’t like this answer but it’s realistic. Women do this and it’s totally accepted and even applauded, depending on how wealthy you are.

OP here. Yes, she is and sad to say, this does seem to be her best hope. But obviously I can't hedge my bets on this.

Is she kind, outgoing, personable, creative, ... anything besides low processing and 110 IQ?

She is pretty, kind, very empathetic, creative (although not amazingly creative), but she is a bit too shy to be considered personable.

She could be a dentist technician, paralegal, admin assistant, therapist, sonographer

I think you are over reacting, have her do her myers briggs.

Yes, she will make less than your H. That is common in this area, kids making less than their parents. It's not the end of the world.

OP here. Actually, I think administrative assistant is the type of job that she would have a very difficult time with because the duties are not typically set in stone. Often your given something to do, and it needs to be done right away and correctly or else someone will get pissed off. Same with waiting tables. Although obviously it's not a job that requires an education, I think waiters need to be pretty sharp and quick thinking. She needs a job that is more rote. Something where she has a set job to do, and isn't required to think quick on her feet.

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OP, I was your daughter. I am truly not smart - was never top of the class, tested badly, etc.

I have tried to be a good, kind person, though and helpful and empathetic to others. My father always told me that the most important thing was to be able to make good decisions and avoid the bad ones.

I've been fine in life. I will never be a super successful person, won't be managing dozens of other people. But, I have a comfortable job, I'm well-paid, amazing DH, wonderful kids and great friends.

I consider myself super lucky and a hard worker.

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Anonymous wrote:Folks: OP is a troll. With that being said, whoever said a person with average intelligence can't be in big aw obviously isn't in big law or has NPD and doesn't really that he/she is surrounded by mediocre people with average IQs. My MIL is completely clueless and had a 30 year career in big law. In fact, I think you have to be stupid to follow that career path.

I don't think big law is a great choice either, but many people who go big law jobs when your MIL did likely wouldn't now.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she pretty? She can marry well and be a SAHM.

A lot of people won’t like this answer but it’s realistic. Women do this and it’s totally accepted and even applauded, depending on how wealthy you are.

OP here. Yes, she is and sad to say, this does seem to be her best hope. But obviously I can't hedge my bets on this.

NO. Now I think you're a troll.

OP here. Believe me I am not a troll, I'm just sad and at my witt's end and hoping someone can give me some advice.

Lots of people (including me) have given you the exact right advice which is to seek out a professional evaluation if you truly have concerns about how she is doing in school. But you keep ignoring that, probably because you are on here for your own jollies.

Like I have said before my big concern at the moment isn't school Yes, it's possible to get her accomodations that will help her get through. But that won't help her on the job. Her future employer won't care about whether she has a designated learning disability and be willing to extend accomodations. An employer only cares about how she performs. THIS is my big worry.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she pretty? She can marry well and be a SAHM.

A lot of people won’t like this answer but it’s realistic. Women do this and it’s totally accepted and even applauded, depending on how wealthy you are.

OP here. Yes, she is and sad to say, this does seem to be her best hope. But obviously I can't hedge my bets on this.

Is she kind, outgoing, personable, creative, ... anything besides low processing and 110 IQ?

She is pretty, kind, very empathetic, creative (although not amazingly creative), but she is a bit too shy to be considered personable.

She could be a dentist technician, paralegal, admin assistant, therapist, sonographer

I think you are over reacting, have her do her myers briggs.

Yes, she will make less than your H. That is common in this area, kids making less than their parents. It's not the end of the world.

OP here. Actually, I think administrative assistant is the type of job that she would have a very difficult time with because the duties are not typically set in stone. Often your given something to do, and it needs to be done right away and correctly or else someone will get pissed off. Same with waiting tables. Although obviously it's not a job that requires an education, I think waiters need to be pretty sharp and quick thinking. She needs a job that is more rote. Something where she has a set job to do, and isn't required to think quick on her feet.

Has she considered working in social services. Not protective services, eligibility (Medicaid/Food Stamps)? Sure, it isn't the highest pay, but it isn't difficult and is pretty much just plugging information into a formula. The other plusses are insurance and retirement benefits.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she pretty? She can marry well and be a SAHM.

A lot of people won’t like this answer but it’s realistic. Women do this and it’s totally accepted and even applauded, depending on how wealthy you are.

OP here. Yes, she is and sad to say, this does seem to be her best hope. But obviously I can't hedge my bets on this.

Is she kind, outgoing, personable, creative, ... anything besides low processing and 110 IQ?

She is pretty, kind, very empathetic, creative (although not amazingly creative), but she is a bit too shy to be considered personable.

She could be a dentist technician, paralegal, admin assistant, therapist, sonographer

I think you are over reacting, have her do her myers briggs.

Yes, she will make less than your H. That is common in this area, kids making less than their parents. It's not the end of the world.

OP here. Actually, I think administrative assistant is the type of job that she would have a very difficult time with because the duties are not typically set in stone. Often your given something to do, and it needs to be done right away and correctly or else someone will get pissed off. Same with waiting tables. Although obviously it's not a job that requires an education, I think waiters need to be pretty sharp and quick thinking. She needs a job that is more rote. Something where she has a set job to do, and isn't required to think quick on her feet.

I am dyslexic and have issues holding information in my head. I can't waitress but I am a project manager and was a very good admin assistant because I can write things down, organize them and check them off.