I'm afraid that my daughter is not very smart and I'm worried about her future job prospects

[Anonymous]

Social skills, attractiveness and a good personality/humor will take you so, so much farther than most of the academic skills that people overly focus on.

I also agree about being reliable.

I know this thread is old, but had to say it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she pretty? She can marry well and be a SAHM.

A lot of people won’t like this answer but it’s realistic. Women do this and it’s totally accepted and even applauded, depending on how wealthy you are.

OP here. Yes, she is and sad to say, this does seem to be her best hope. But obviously I can't hedge my bets on this.

OP, the biggest influence- in your daughter's childhood and teen years- on what your daughter sets her sights on in life later on IS YOU, whether you treat her like she is worthy and that YOU as the center of her life value her.

Not, whether her IQ is 110 or 120.

As for being pretty, plenty of pretty girls allow themselves to be horribly abused. Why ? Because their parents taught them every day by their own actions that they weren't worth anything to them.

This is an old post , but hopefully anyone reading it now GETS This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she pretty? She can marry well and be a SAHM.

A lot of people won’t like this answer but it’s realistic. Women do this and it’s totally accepted and even applauded, depending on how wealthy you are.

OP here. Yes, she is and sad to say, this does seem to be her best hope. But obviously I can't hedge my bets on this.

There are engineers whose only criteria is 5 IQ points less than his. Can you be an involved grandma? How is she at sales? Many feel it too monotonous and are so under-stimulated they go to grad-school. Sales people make good money.

[Anonymous]

If she’s good in bed you have nothing to worry about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Luckily woman can always find a man that is fine with them not working. Nothing wrong with that.

That really depends on the woman, doesn’t it?

OP: is your daughter attractive? You might want to encourage her to stay fit and take care of her appearance as best she can, with a goal of attracting the right suitor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she pretty? She can marry well and be a SAHM.

A lot of people won’t like this answer but it’s realistic. Women do this and it’s totally accepted and even applauded, depending on how wealthy you are.

np there is nothing wrong with being a SAHM but you want to prepare her to be able to be independent. What if her husband dies? What if he is abusive? So, this is not a good goal in the 21st century. Op, you dd is only 12. Isn't it a bit premature to write her off? I feel sorry for your dd that you think only 'geniuses' can make a living and "thrive" in life.

[Anonymous]

Be careful OP she's gonna sense your lack of confidence in her and that could really mess with her in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she pretty? She can marry well and be a SAHM.

A lot of people won’t like this answer but it’s realistic. Women do this and it’s totally accepted and even applauded, depending on how wealthy you are.

OP here. Yes, she is and sad to say, this does seem to be her best hope. But obviously I can't hedge my bets on this.

Are you kidding? Just train her to be pleasant and agreeable - in other words, pretty much the opposite of every other American girl - and the potential husbands will be beating the door down to get at her.

Wow! Do you expect sons to be "pleasant and agreeable" at all times? So unbelievable sexist you are pp. I am not teaching my dd's to be unpleasant but, I am teaching them to stand up for their rights and not be a door mat.

[Anonymous]

What ARE is gifts? Explore careers that use those. My aunt had many academic disabilities but zero cognitive or other deficits. She has a wonderful, fulfilling job in a geriatric care setting and is gifted beyond measure in this badly needed career.

[Anonymous]

My plan for my not bright child is to get into the healthcare field. There are plenty of technician-type jobs that only require an associates degree that I think would be perfect for my kind, loving, hard working child who doesn't do very well in school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My plan for my not bright child is to get into the healthcare field. There are plenty of technician-type jobs that only require an associates degree that I think would be perfect for my kind, loving, hard working child who doesn't do very well in school.

The biggest return on investment two year degree is dental hygienist, I believe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She might surprise you, OP.

+1...

I understand your concern but it is too early. Also, intelligence does not equal to success.
Some people are not smart/nerds but they do very well. She can go into sales.. or any career. Just be there for her and don't worry about it.
She will find a way..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she pretty? She can marry well and be a SAHM.

A lot of people won’t like this answer but it’s realistic. Women do this and it’s totally accepted and even applauded, depending on how wealthy you are.

If you are apK with your DD being in an abusive or unfulfilling relationship.

Much better she has an education and career before and after marriage.

[Anonymous]

OP

Our DD also tests well below our other child and myself for that matter.

One of the biggest gifts you can give her is high expectations and structural supports to reach her goals.

[Anonymous]

I have very low processing speed. I work in a job that requires long-term deadlines and deep dives. I rarely get asked for answers on the spot. Instead, I write long reports and do a lot of research. It works quite well. There are many niches in a country of over 300 million people, so please don’t think you’re daughter can’t find one.