I'm afraid that my daughter is not very smart and I'm worried about her future job prospects

[Anonymous]

She lives in the US legally so she won’t starve and unless she has mental issues she won’t be or stay homeless for long.
I think we have lost all perspective. We live in the developed world and it means every child from a normal, supportive family will be ok!

[Anonymous]

As if you need to be smart to make a lot of money or be a success. Lol. I’m completely average and I make bank in finance. Plenty of opportunity to do well in life without a high iq.

[Anonymous]

I was worried about my DD at that age (we didn’t do any IQ tests). She is now a Junior in HS with mostly As. It’s amazing how hard work and drive mean more for success.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is she pretty? She can marry well and be a SAHM.

A lot of people won’t like this answer but it’s realistic. Women do this and it’s totally accepted and even applauded, depending on how wealthy you are.

Hell I’ll be honest here. I was always top of my class but grew up in poverty and didn’t want a career. I got everything I ever wanted (upper middle class, nice husband, stay at home with my handful of kids) just by being attractive and getting married. I’m not saying this is for everyone but I am very happy with my life. You have to work with what you’ve got to get what you want.

If you were top of your class then you are pretty and smart, the same situation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She lives in the US legally so she won’t starve and unless she has mental issues she won’t be or stay homeless for long.
I think we have lost all perspective. We live in the developed world and it means every child from a normal, supportive family will be ok!

Is this a joke or are you just stupid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will flat out admit it. I don't think my daughter is particularly bright. She is 12 years old and has taken the WISC IV that showed her IQ as being a 110, but with an extremely low processing speed. I realize that her iq definitely puts her well in the average range, but she is so impacted by her low processing speed that for all practical purposes she doesn't come across as smart in many areas. Her teachers always have concerns about her. She has to study very hard to retain anything, and she's very easily distracted and only manages to get B's because we sit down with her to study every night. But this can't go on forever and I have a hard time seeing how she can get through college. However, what worries me even more than college is if she will be able to remain employed. To be completely honest, I just can't imagine her being very good at any job. This is extremely painful for me to admit to myself, much less post. But I am absolutely worried to death about her future, and am just trying to envision what kind of job a person like her could possibly do.

In the working world, people skills can be a lot more valuable than brains. It she good with people or groups? Could you help her develop these skills?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Folks: OP is a troll. With that being said, whoever said a person with average intelligence can't be in big aw obviously isn't in big law or has NPD and doesn't really that he/she is surrounded by mediocre people with average IQs. My MIL is completely clueless and had a 30 year career in big law. In fact, I think you have to be stupid to follow that career path.

OP here. I swear I am not a troll. This is incredibly hard, I'm extremely worried about my daughter's future. Referring to her as not very smart is me just being extremely blunt. It may not (hopefully) even be true. But despite whether her issues are due to low processing speed, adhd, or any other type of learning disability. It's not something that would matter to a future employer. To a future employer, she just wouldn't come across as very smart and that is what I'm worried about.

If she is ADHD get her some meds. You will not be sorry. Maybe get her pediatrician to let her try some out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As if you need to be smart to make a lot of money or be a success. Lol. I’m completely average and I make bank in finance. Plenty of opportunity to do well in life without a high iq.

+1
Smartest people I know, people with PhDs, don't make a lot of money.
If you are nice, hard working and likable you can make much more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will flat out admit it. I don't think my daughter is particularly bright. She is 12 years old and has taken the WISC IV that showed her IQ as being a 110, but with an extremely low processing speed. I realize that her iq definitely puts her well in the average range, but she is so impacted by her low processing speed that for all practical purposes she doesn't come across as smart in many areas. Her teachers always have concerns about her. She has to study very hard to retain anything, and she's very easily distracted and only manages to get B's because we sit down with her to study every night. But this can't go on forever and I have a hard time seeing how she can get through college. However, what worries me even more than college is if she will be able to remain employed. To be completely honest, I just can't imagine her being very good at any job. This is extremely painful for me to admit to myself, much less post. But I am absolutely worried to death about her future, and am just trying to envision what kind of job a person like her could possibly do.

In the working world, people skills can be a lot more valuable than brains. It she good with people or groups? Could you help her develop these skills?

This. I'm in a leadership role in tech. I really have pretty poor to awful technical skills--nowhere near as good as anyone I manage. But I'm really good at leading people and getting them on board with me, and I'm organized.

[Anonymous]

Regular (stupid) people can get a 6 figure job. Calm down, she's 12!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was worried about my DD at that age (we didn’t do any IQ tests). She is now a Junior in HS with mostly As. It’s amazing how hard work and drive mean more for success.

omg EVERYONE has A's. It is unreal how gullible so many parents are. Grade inflation has made grades MEANINGLESS. Even AP grades are fake unless the kid can back up the A's with 4s and 5s on the official exams.

[Anonymous]

My cousin has a lot of learning disabilities and a lower IQ (she also has low muscle tone . . . it's all related). She works as a teacher's assistant at the same private school for kids with special needs that she attended. And she's fabulously happy. Compared to other "failure to launch" types in the family, she just went right from her special school to a special college to her job.

Now of course, there were obviously interventions that many people couldn't afford here, but it sounds like you have the time and resources to help your daughter find her "thing." You don't have to be smart or quick to be solidly employed or have a full life.

[Anonymous]

As long as she is above average looking, not overweight, and willing to work hard, she will do amazingly well

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As long as she is above average looking, not overweight, and willing to work hard, she will do amazingly well

+1 Pretty girls can still marry out of their problems. She may not have control over how smart she is, but she can control her weight and work on her looks. Boys don't really have that option.

[Anonymous]

Ugh. All these appearance oriented marry well posts make me want to puke. You're all about to give them eating disorders, and make her dependent on a man -- who may later divorce her, be abusive, die, etc. I guess you'd say she can find another one, but that gets harder over time.

What if it were an average boy, of which there are many. Think of it that way, and we'll all be better off.