Anyone try to cultivate a lifelong interest in a certain university and had it backfire?

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Anonymous wrote:I know too many families who raise their kids to love, live, and breathe my alma mater, who are then devastated when they don't get in.

Mind sharing which school?

Notre Dame.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think there are ways to experience more than Maryland other than going to another college. In particular, I think paying tens of thousands extra to experience some other town in the US is extremely stupid, when that same money could be spent on exploring dozens of countries and learning a handful of other languages (like I did). But those are just my personal priorities..

If you have only ever lived in Maryland, you have not truly experienced life elsewhere, no matter how much you have traveled.

People place emphasis on the most bizarre things. Now, if you’re talking UMDCP vs a small liberal arts college or something then sure, there is a difference. But people who pay $100K just so their kid can go to Big State U in Madison or Ann Arbor or wherever instead of Big State U in College Park under the rationale of “experiencing life elsewhere!!!!!” are absolute suckers.

This.

[Anonymous]

Common where I'm from, upper middle and middle class are OBSESSED with Ohio State University. It's all many kids think about, I rarely saw it backfire, as OP is concerned with.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think there are ways to experience more than Maryland other than going to another college. In particular, I think paying tens of thousands extra to experience some other town in the US is extremely stupid, when that same money could be spent on exploring dozens of countries and learning a handful of other languages (like I did). But those are just my personal priorities..

If you have only ever lived in Maryland, you have not truly experienced life elsewhere, no matter how much you have traveled.

People place emphasis on the most bizarre things. Now, if you’re talking UMDCP vs a small liberal arts college or something then sure, there is a difference. But people who pay $100K just so their kid can go to Big State U in Madison or Ann Arbor or wherever instead of Big State U in College Park under the rationale of “experiencing life elsewhere!!!!!” are absolute suckers.

This.

No they're not. Diversity of region, thought and classmates ... and getting away from parents ... helps kids grow. It's a privilege parents can provide such an opportunity to their kids. You sound salty you can't afford to give your kids the same luxury.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there are ways to experience more than Maryland other than going to another college. In particular, I think paying tens of thousands extra to experience some other town in the US is extremely stupid, when that same money could be spent on exploring dozens of countries and learning a handful of other languages (like I did). But those are just my personal priorities..

If you have only ever lived in Maryland, you have not truly experienced life elsewhere, no matter how much you have traveled.

People place emphasis on the most bizarre things. Now, if you’re talking UMDCP vs a small liberal arts college or something then sure, there is a difference. But people who pay $100K just so their kid can go to Big State U in Madison or Ann Arbor or wherever instead of Big State U in College Park under the rationale of “experiencing life elsewhere!!!!!” are absolute suckers.

This.

No they're not. Diversity of region, thought and classmates ... and getting away from parents ... helps kids grow. It's a privilege parents can provide such an opportunity to their kids. You sound salty you can't afford to give your kids the same luxury.

Lol. Assumptions. I am saying this precisely because I have experienced firsthand.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there are ways to experience more than Maryland other than going to another college. In particular, I think paying tens of thousands extra to experience some other town in the US is extremely stupid, when that same money could be spent on exploring dozens of countries and learning a handful of other languages (like I did). But those are just my personal priorities..

If you have only ever lived in Maryland, you have not truly experienced life elsewhere, no matter how much you have traveled.

People place emphasis on the most bizarre things. Now, if you’re talking UMDCP vs a small liberal arts college or something then sure, there is a difference. But people who pay $100K just so their kid can go to Big State U in Madison or Ann Arbor or wherever instead of Big State U in College Park under the rationale of “experiencing life elsewhere!!!!!” are absolute suckers.

This.

No they're not. Diversity of region, thought and classmates ... and getting away from parents ... helps kids grow. It's a privilege parents can provide such an opportunity to their kids. You sound salty you can't afford to give your kids the same luxury.

What does this mean? Like, it sounds really nice, but it’s very fluffy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there are ways to experience more than Maryland other than going to another college. In particular, I think paying tens of thousands extra to experience some other town in the US is extremely stupid, when that same money could be spent on exploring dozens of countries and learning a handful of other languages (like I did). But those are just my personal priorities..

If you have only ever lived in Maryland, you have not truly experienced life elsewhere, no matter how much you have traveled.

People place emphasis on the most bizarre things. Now, if you’re talking UMDCP vs a small liberal arts college or something then sure, there is a difference. But people who pay $100K just so their kid can go to Big State U in Madison or Ann Arbor or wherever instead of Big State U in College Park under the rationale of “experiencing life elsewhere!!!!!” are absolute suckers.

This.

No they're not. Diversity of region, thought and classmates ... and getting away from parents ... helps kids grow. It's a privilege parents can provide such an opportunity to their kids. You sound salty you can't afford to give your kids the same luxury.

Lol.....you think it's a luxury to go to some public state university? More like a punishment.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, they just don't want to admit they are suckers.

Yes, it's a luxury to pay some crazy our of state over priced tuition, but a very stupid one. With the same money, your family could enjoy thousands of other luxuries that are more valuable and enjoyable

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there are ways to experience more than Maryland other than going to another college. In particular, I think paying tens of thousands extra to experience some other town in the US is extremely stupid, when that same money could be spent on exploring dozens of countries and learning a handful of other languages (like I did). But those are just my personal priorities..

If you have only ever lived in Maryland, you have not truly experienced life elsewhere, no matter how much you have traveled.

People place emphasis on the most bizarre things. Now, if you’re talking UMDCP vs a small liberal arts college or something then sure, there is a difference. But people who pay $100K just so their kid can go to Big State U in Madison or Ann Arbor or wherever instead of Big State U in College Park under the rationale of “experiencing life elsewhere!!!!!” are absolute suckers.

This.

No they're not. Diversity of region, thought and classmates ... and getting away from parents ... helps kids grow. It's a privilege parents can provide such an opportunity to their kids. You sound salty you can't afford to give your kids the same luxury.

What does this mean? Like, it sounds really nice, but it’s very fluffy.

She means you could spend four years with a bunch of yokels from Wisconsin instead of a bunch of yokels from Virginia. Huuugggeee diversity advantage.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there are ways to experience more than Maryland other than going to another college. In particular, I think paying tens of thousands extra to experience some other town in the US is extremely stupid, when that same money could be spent on exploring dozens of countries and learning a handful of other languages (like I did). But those are just my personal priorities..

If you have only ever lived in Maryland, you have not truly experienced life elsewhere, no matter how much you have traveled.

People place emphasis on the most bizarre things. Now, if you’re talking UMDCP vs a small liberal arts college or something then sure, there is a difference. But people who pay $100K just so their kid can go to Big State U in Madison or Ann Arbor or wherever instead of Big State U in College Park under the rationale of “experiencing life elsewhere!!!!!” are absolute suckers.

This.

No they're not. Diversity of region, thought and classmates ... and getting away from parents ... helps kids grow. It's a privilege parents can provide such an opportunity to their kids. You sound salty you can't afford to give your kids the same luxury.

What does this mean? Like, it sounds really nice, but it’s very fluffy.

DP, but if you don't think living somewhere other than the Mid-Atlantic and specifically the DC region for a stretch doesn't make a difference, then you are deluding yourself.

-Someone who did.

[Anonymous]

There are ways to live in another part of the country without paying $70k per year in tuition.

But you know what, keep it up. Your full pay tuition will fund my kids' scholarships

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there are ways to experience more than Maryland other than going to another college. In particular, I think paying tens of thousands extra to experience some other town in the US is extremely stupid, when that same money could be spent on exploring dozens of countries and learning a handful of other languages (like I did). But those are just my personal priorities..

If you have only ever lived in Maryland, you have not truly experienced life elsewhere, no matter how much you have traveled.

People place emphasis on the most bizarre things. Now, if you’re talking UMDCP vs a small liberal arts college or something then sure, there is a difference. But people who pay $100K just so their kid can go to Big State U in Madison or Ann Arbor or wherever instead of Big State U in College Park under the rationale of “experiencing life elsewhere!!!!!” are absolute suckers.

This.

No they're not. Diversity of region, thought and classmates ... and getting away from parents ... helps kids grow. It's a privilege parents can provide such an opportunity to their kids. You sound salty you can't afford to give your kids the same luxury.

What does this mean? Like, it sounds really nice, but it’s very fluffy.

DP, but if you don't think living somewhere other than the Mid-Atlantic and specifically the DC region for a stretch doesn't make a difference, then you are deluding yourself.

-Someone who did.

In what ways? List them, please.

-Someone who also did.

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Meh. I'm raising my kids (one a senior in HS, one a freshman) in the DC area, my sister is raising hers (same ages) in a midsized town in the Midwest where we grew up (Grand Rapids) and I still have tons of friends there who also have high schoolers. They all go to school, play sports or do other extracurriculars, hang out with friends, spend too much time on their phones, sleep late whenever they can, and so on and so forth. The idea that there is this huge difference between a teen growing up X locale and a teen growing up in Y locale, so much so that you're about to pay $120K for it - is hilarious to me.

[Anonymous]

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She means you could spend four years with a bunch of yokels from Wisconsin instead of a bunch of yokels from Virginia. Huuugggeee diversity advantage.

You think spending age 18-22 in the same state you grew up in, two hours from home, mostly the same clique of high school friends, in a college full of kids from the same state, broadens your mind as much as all new state, all new friends, all new region on the country and all the experiences and panic and growth forced on you? Umm...not so much.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there are ways to experience more than Maryland other than going to another college. In particular, I think paying tens of thousands extra to experience some other town in the US is extremely stupid, when that same money could be spent on exploring dozens of countries and learning a handful of other languages (like I did). But those are just my personal priorities..

If you have only ever lived in Maryland, you have not truly experienced life elsewhere, no matter how much you have traveled.

People place emphasis on the most bizarre things. Now, if you’re talking UMDCP vs a small liberal arts college or something then sure, there is a difference. But people who pay $100K just so their kid can go to Big State U in Madison or Ann Arbor or wherever instead of Big State U in College Park under the rationale of “experiencing life elsewhere!!!!!” are absolute suckers.

This.

No they're not. Diversity of region, thought and classmates ... and getting away from parents ... helps kids grow. It's a privilege parents can provide such an opportunity to their kids. You sound salty you can't afford to give your kids the same luxury.

What does this mean? Like, it sounds really nice, but it’s very fluffy.

DP, but if you don't think living somewhere other than the Mid-Atlantic and specifically the DC region for a stretch doesn't make a difference, then you are deluding yourself.

-Someone who did.

In what ways? List them, please.

-Someone who also did.

Why travel abroad? Why travel, period? Why ever leave your safe bubble? Why ever make new friends (what's wrong with your current friends?!)? Why ever have new experiences?