Anyone try to cultivate a lifelong interest in a certain university and had it backfire?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think there are ways to experience more than Maryland other than going to another college. In particular, I think paying tens of thousands extra to experience some other town in the US is extremely stupid, when that same money could be spent on exploring dozens of countries and learning a handful of other languages (like I did). But those are just my personal priorities..

If you have only ever lived in Maryland, you have not truly experienced life elsewhere, no matter how much you have traveled.

Who cares? What’s better than being able to live among your life long friends and family?

[Anonymous]

^^ I agree. The world is overrated. I like travel but have never been overwhelmed or impressed. It's just there and getting smaller every day. Family and friends are everthing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there are ways to experience more than Maryland other than going to another college. In particular, I think paying tens of thousands extra to experience some other town in the US is extremely stupid, when that same money could be spent on exploring dozens of countries and learning a handful of other languages (like I did). But those are just my personal priorities..

If you have only ever lived in Maryland, you have not truly experienced life elsewhere, no matter how much you have traveled.

Who cares? What’s better than being able to live among your life long friends and family?

It causes you to be perceived as parochial. Because you are a parochial.

It is possible to experience life outside of the bubble you grew up in, and to stay close to friends and family. It is not an either/or dichotomy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids are not robots you can program. How about you participate in MD events to the extent that it is fun and logical for your family (and your kid's interests/tastes). It seems unlikely to me that both kids would pick the same school anyway. Don't try to orchestrate who they turn into. It is not a good look.

You're funny. And I know you're prob trying to craft some kind of compassionate and higher-level response, but actually, kids ARE like sponges. And our brains are VERY close to "programmable" to the degree that many, many American Psychological Association studies show that it is quite easy to "program" people's brains to think in a certain way and adopt certain viewpoints. How do you not know this??? That's why cults like Scientology and the Moonies exist!

Now....whether or not the OP SHOULD try to do this is an entirely different point. But...it is definitely doable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there are ways to experience more than Maryland other than going to another college. In particular, I think paying tens of thousands extra to experience some other town in the US is extremely stupid, when that same money could be spent on exploring dozens of countries and learning a handful of other languages (like I did). But those are just my personal priorities..

If you have only ever lived in Maryland, you have not truly experienced life elsewhere, no matter how much you have traveled.

Who cares? What’s better than being able to live among your life long friends and family?

It causes you to be perceived as parochial. Because you are a parochial.

It is possible to experience life outside of the bubble you grew up in, and to stay close to friends and family. It is not an either/or dichotomy.

NP...but PP--I hope you do realize that this statement is about how YOU (and others who happen not to have grown up and lived in only one place) view others who have only lived in one place as "parochial" right??? And it may be a shared prejudice you hold with others like you, but this doesn't mean that the OP *is* parochial.
You also need to allow for the reality that others have different values from yours. Not *inferior* to yours...just DIFFERENT from yours. One who is so "worldly" as you ought to recognize that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there are ways to experience more than Maryland other than going to another college. In particular, I think paying tens of thousands extra to experience some other town in the US is extremely stupid, when that same money could be spent on exploring dozens of countries and learning a handful of other languages (like I did). But those are just my personal priorities..

If you have only ever lived in Maryland, you have not truly experienced life elsewhere, no matter how much you have traveled.

Who cares? What’s better than being able to live among your life long friends and family?

It causes you to be perceived as parochial. Because you are a parochial.

It is possible to experience life outside of the bubble you grew up in, and to stay close to friends and family. It is not an either/or dichotomy.

NP...but PP--I hope you do realize that this statement is about how YOU (and others who happen not to have grown up and lived in only one place) view others who have only lived in one place as "parochial" right??? And it may be a shared prejudice you hold with others like you, but this doesn't mean that the OP *is* parochial.
You also need to allow for the reality that others have different values from yours. Not *inferior* to yours...just DIFFERENT from yours. One who is so "worldly" as you ought to recognize that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there are ways to experience more than Maryland other than going to another college. In particular, I think paying tens of thousands extra to experience some other town in the US is extremely stupid, when that same money could be spent on exploring dozens of countries and learning a handful of other languages (like I did). But those are just my personal priorities..

If you have only ever lived in Maryland, you have not truly experienced life elsewhere, no matter how much you have traveled.

Who cares? What’s better than being able to live among your life long friends and family?

It causes you to be perceived as parochial. Because you are a parochial.

It is possible to experience life outside of the bubble you grew up in, and to stay close to friends and family. It is not an either/or dichotomy.

NP...but PP--I hope you do realize that this statement is about how YOU (and others who happen not to have grown up and lived in only one place) view others who have only lived in one place as "parochial" right??? And it may be a shared prejudice you hold with others like you, but this doesn't mean that the OP *is* parochial.
You also need to allow for the reality that others have different values from yours. Not *inferior* to yours...just DIFFERENT from yours. One who is so "worldly" as you ought to recognize that.

Anyone who is trying to “cultivate a lifelong interest” for their kid in the state university they attended, in the state they grew up in, is a person who is parochial per se.