Would you date a man previously married to a man?
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Anonymous
| Absolutely not. |
Anonymous
| OP here. I’m 28 . I tend to see the best in people, and want to give everyone a chance.I did ask because I wanted genuine advice. We met doing an activity we both love. Have been friendly for awhile before going out. We’ve been out 3 times and he told me this after our last date. He was actually helped out of his marriage by an older gay couple so I don’t think he’d hide being gay. He’s a great guy, but I’m not sure. We both deserve someone sure of us. |
Anonymous
+1 It’s a vestige of the stereotype that bisexuals are out of control sexual libertines who can’t be trusted and spread diseases. |
Anonymous
| No but all that sounds messy and confused and I wouldn’t want that for my life |
Anonymous
You seem like a nice person, OP. I would just take it slow and don’t be put off by some of the over the top negativity here. |
Anonymous
Life is messy and confusing. |
Anonymous
Def slow. I think how normal or not normal your own sex life with him ends up being will be a good bellweather on whether or not it could work long term. |
Anonymous
Yes it is but why seek out situations like this one? No thank you. |
Anonymous
| I would give him a chance. I'd explore more with him about why he doesn't identify as bi or queer. Does he feel like you wouldn't give him a chance if he admitted that he was attracted to men? Human sexuality exists on a continuum and actually a lot of people are attracted to both sexes to varying degrees depending on situation, access, needs, and personal development. I'm very open minded and would be willing to see the relationship to a natural conclusion, whatever that ends up being. If you start having a sexual relationship and he seems like he's having a good time, then why not keep seeing him? But he may just be testing himself and so, I'd be prepared for the relationship to take a U-turn just in case. But I say, go for it! Have fun and enjoy this person that seems to click with you. |
Anonymous
| Only if he was Freddy Mercury, but he'd be checked and double checked wrapped in Saran Wrap. |
Anonymous
| No way |
Anonymous
Believe me bad judgement makes life really messy. CHOICES. |
Anonymous
She didn't seek it out. She didn't post on craigslist "Seeking man previously married to man with numerous other same sex relationships and mysterious trauma." But now she's here and there's a real live human being who seems nice and normal so far. OP proceed with great caution but there's no reason to not take a tiny step forward. |
Anonymous
| No OP unless you are fine w/ not ever having sex with him. If you just want a platonic friendship...it would be ok. Don't expect someone who denies being gay or bi can actually change their ways. |
Anonymous
| No |