Would you date a man previously married to a man?

[Anonymous]

That he was in gay relationships would concern me less than the fact that it sounds like he went through horrific abuse. He might be okay, but I would be cautious. Hurt people hurt people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not gay or bi. Married because the guy made him feel special and wanted. This is in the context of a difficult childhood. Thought he was in love because of that. He was 19/20 at the time. Marriage lasted 4 years. He had one previous relationship with a man that was transactional and lasted 3 years. No other relationships with men.! Has been divorced nearly 6 years. Has been to therapy. Has been dating the last 3 years exclusively women. Would you hesitate?

What is he then?! Are you stupid?

[Anonymous]

I’m interested in your background, OP. People who lack the judgment to bypass situations that everyone can see will end disastrously are often themselves deeply damaged. What happened to you to injure your sense of self-preservation and make you willing to sacrifice yourself to obviously harmful situations?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not gay or bi. Married because the guy made him feel special and wanted. This is in the context of a difficult childhood. Thought he was in love because of that. He was 19/20 at the time. Marriage lasted 4 years. He had one previous relationship with a man that was transactional and lasted 3 years. No other relationships with men.! Has been divorced nearly 6 years. Has been to therapy. Has been dating the last 3 years exclusively women. Would you hesitate?

No.A.Chance.In.Helll.

Not gay? Not bi? Umkay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s bi? Bi-curious? You might be his experiment with women... do you want to be that?

Bi curious? No, the dude was having sex with HIS husband for 4 years. That is not curious. You do know what people do when they are married, no?

[Anonymous]

Never

[Anonymous]

No.

You've asked your question and multiple people have given you the same answer. Ditch him, or tell us we are wrong and come back crying and hopefully without AIDS in the future.

[Anonymous]

You guys are wasting time on OP. Anyone who has to ask if she should date a “straight” man who has at least 7 years of homosexual sex under his belt is not someone who can be helped. Kudos to the guy for finding a low self-esteemed sucker to be his beard.

[Anonymous]

No. Damaged goods.

[Anonymous]

NO.

[Anonymous]

Women are way less tolerant of a man having had any kind of homosexual experience than the other way around.

[Anonymous]

Only if I were a man.

[Anonymous]

Come on, OP. My 17 year old son is gay. We have lots of very close gay friends. Every single one of them would tell you this is a bad idea. Straight men do not marry gay men and have sex with them for four years. The guy may be struggling. But he is definitely gay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No.

You've asked your question and multiple people have given you the same answer. Ditch him, or tell us we are wrong and come back crying and hopefully without AIDS in the future.

the 1980's called and they want their Homophobia back.

[Anonymous]

If you like him and are interested, I would proceed cautiously and slowly. He didn't have to tell you about his past.