Would you date a man previously married to a man?

[Anonymous]

Not gay or bi. Married because the guy made him feel special and wanted. This is in the context of a difficult childhood. Thought he was in love because of that. He was 19/20 at the time. Marriage lasted 4 years. He had one previous relationship with a man that was transactional and lasted 3 years. No other relationships with men.! Has been divorced nearly 6 years. Has been to therapy. Has been dating the last 3 years exclusively women. Would you hesitate?

[Anonymous]

Nope, nope, nope. Therapy doesn’t turn you straight.

[Anonymous]

Hell no.

I think he is blowing sunshine your way.

[Anonymous]

WTF?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't date a man previously married to anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope, nope, nope. Therapy doesn’t turn you straight.

Not that kind of therapy. Therapy to work on his childhood issues. He says he was never gay.

[Anonymous]

are you a sugar mama? why now? why you? I would run the other direction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:are you a sugar mama? why now? why you? I would run the other direction.

I’m not giving him any money. We met through an activity and got to know each other. Been out a few times.

[Anonymous]

No. That would not work for me.

[Anonymous]

Holy cow. Um, no.

[Anonymous]

This would be too much for me.

[Anonymous]

I would guess that he was sexually abused as a child leading to him being very confused about his sexual identity for awhile. If that was the case and it took him time and therapy to deal with the abuse and figure out who he is, then I would proceed very cautiously - I wouldn''t write him off right away.

If he wasn't abused and was just angsty and unsure of himself then it would be a hard no. I would assume he was bi.

[Anonymous]

Go for it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would guess that he was sexually abused as a child leading to him being very confused about his sexual identity for awhile. If that was the case and it took him time and therapy to deal with the abuse and figure out who he is, then I would proceed very cautiously - I wouldn''t write him off right away.

If he wasn't abused and was just angsty and unsure of himself then it would be a hard no. I would assume he was bi.

I don’t know if there was childhood abuse, and I don’t feel it’s my place to ask. What he has shared is that he was bounced between family members from 2-6 and then he was in foster care until he was 15. He ran away from his group home and met the first guy he was in a relationship with. I do know his husband was physically abusive.

[Anonymous]

Ewww.