GF broke up with me because of money problems

[Anonymous]

She probably already moved on OP. I don't think you can reverse this.

[Anonymous]

Guy here. Bullet dodged.

I dated many women when I was younger (I'm married now) where there was an income disparity, and my rule was never give them any money if they ask for it, but always pay. So I'd pay for everything if we went out, but never if she asked for money or something. I'd make an exception if it's an emergency like she's sick and needed medicine, but no way was I buying her a new phone or whatever.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like after 3 years you should know whether you want to marry her or not.

I feel like he did know: his answer to her asking to borrow (not very much) money was to laugh it off and assume she's a mooch. If he wanted to marry her his response would have been different. So now he knows he doesn't want to be with her long-term, and she clearly knows too. And thanks to the internet; we also get to know!

We all know it's not "borrowing," she asked to be given money for CC debt. Give me a break. At least be up front.

I asked him to clarify what "$200 until next summer" meant on page one and he didn't until after this post, so no breaks will be given. The OP was in no way clear.

Doesn't change my point -- he did know he didn't want to be with her long-term. And now he doesn't have to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She probably already moved on OP. I don't think you can reverse this.

Yeah, she's moved on to some poor sucker who might pay her monthly CC bills. The nerve!

[Anonymous]

Where are pps getting borrowing from? The gf asked OP to pay $200 towards her cc debt until next summer. Clearly, that means $200 a month and not as a loan. I'm guessing that the $200 is the minimum payment that she has to make on the account or it goes to collections.

Bullet dodged.

[Anonymous]

You dodged a bullet OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like after 3 years you should know whether you want to marry her or not.

I feel like he did know: his answer to her asking to borrow (not very much) money was to laugh it off and assume she's a mooch. If he wanted to marry her his response would have been different. So now he knows he doesn't want to be with her long-term, and she clearly knows too. And thanks to the internet; we also get to know!

We all know it's not "borrowing," she asked to be given money for CC debt. Give me a break. At least be up front.

I asked him to clarify what "$200 until next summer" meant on page one and he didn't until after this post, so no breaks will be given. The OP was in no way clear.

Doesn't change my point -- he did know he didn't want to be with her long-term. And now he doesn't have to.

Yeah no, you just had sh*tty reading comprehension and gave the GF way too much credit based on your own biases. We got it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Well she did tell me she choose me out of a million guys and she's not feeling like I support her enough emotionally. She's probably right. She has a lot more options.

I have a feeling there is a LOT more to this breakup than just money problems.

And yea, she probably does have more options. When I was in my 20s, I had a lot of credit card debt and found a guy who was willing and able to pay it off, although I never actually asked him to. He just offered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like after 3 years you should know whether you want to marry her or not.

I feel like he did know: his answer to her asking to borrow (not very much) money was to laugh it off and assume she's a mooch. If he wanted to marry her his response would have been different. So now he knows he doesn't want to be with her long-term, and she clearly knows too. And thanks to the internet; we also get to know!

We all know it's not "borrowing," she asked to be given money for CC debt. Give me a break. At least be up front.

I asked him to clarify what "$200 until next summer" meant on page one and he didn't until after this post, so no breaks will be given. The OP was in no way clear.

Doesn't change my point -- he did know he didn't want to be with her long-term. And now he doesn't have to.

Yeah no, you just had sh*tty reading comprehension and gave the GF way too much credit based on your own biases. We got it.

You seem angry. Deep breaths buddy, you'll get through.

He didn't say monthly, he said she asked for $200 until next summer, and it took until the about the 30th comment to even clarify that she had broken up with him, he initially only said she was acting distant since they got back. He did not communicate his story clearly. Don't take it so personally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like after 3 years you should know whether you want to marry her or not.

I feel like he did know: his answer to her asking to borrow (not very much) money was to laugh it off and assume she's a mooch. If he wanted to marry her his response would have been different. So now he knows he doesn't want to be with her long-term, and she clearly knows too. And thanks to the internet; we also get to know!

We all know it's not "borrowing," she asked to be given money for CC debt. Give me a break. At least be up front.

I asked him to clarify what "$200 until next summer" meant on page one and he didn't until after this post, so no breaks will be given. The OP was in no way clear.

Doesn't change my point -- he did know he didn't want to be with her long-term. And now he doesn't have to.

Yeah no, you just had sh*tty reading comprehension and gave the GF way too much credit based on your own biases. We got it.

You seem angry. Deep breaths buddy, you'll get through.

He didn't say monthly, he said she asked for $200 until next summer, and it took until the about the 30th comment to even clarify that she had broken up with him, he initially only said she was acting distant since they got back. He did not communicate his story clearly. Don't take it so personally.

Yeah, no. This was on you, dummy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:it took until the about the 30th comment to even clarify that she had broken up with him, he initially only said she was acting distant since they got back.

Read the thread title -- they broke up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like after 3 years you should know whether you want to marry her or not.

I feel like he did know: his answer to her asking to borrow (not very much) money was to laugh it off and assume she's a mooch. If he wanted to marry her his response would have been different. So now he knows he doesn't want to be with her long-term, and she clearly knows too. And thanks to the internet; we also get to know!

We all know it's not "borrowing," she asked to be given money for CC debt. Give me a break. At least be up front.

I asked him to clarify what "$200 until next summer" meant on page one and he didn't until after this post, so no breaks will be given. The OP was in no way clear.

Doesn't change my point -- he did know he didn't want to be with her long-term. And now he doesn't have to.

Yeah no, you just had sh*tty reading comprehension and gave the GF way too much credit based on your own biases. We got it.

You seem angry. Deep breaths buddy, you'll get through.

He didn't say monthly, he said she asked for $200 until next summer, and it took until the about the 30th comment to even clarify that she had broken up with him, he initially only said she was acting distant since they got back. He did not communicate his story clearly. Don't take it so personally.

Yeah, no. This was on you, dummy.

Deep breathing didn't work?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Well she did tell me she choose me out of a million guys and she's not feeling like I support her enough emotionally. She's probably right. She has a lot more options.

I have a feeling there is a LOT more to this breakup than just money problems.

And yea, she probably does have more options. When I was in my 20s, I had a lot of credit card debt and found a guy who was willing and able to pay it off, although I never actually asked him to. He just offered.

...or she's looking for a sugar daddy. I mean, it's nice that you found "a guy" who paid off your CC, but it would have been poor form to ask.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:it took until the about the 30th comment to even clarify that she had broken up with him, he initially only said she was acting distant since they got back.

Read the thread title -- they broke up.

Yes, and in the OP he said she canceled a trip and acted distant. Half a dozen people on the first page asked if they'd broken up or not. Acting like OP is a good writer just because you think his exGF was a hustler is a strange tack.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like after 3 years you should know whether you want to marry her or not.

I feel like he did know: his answer to her asking to borrow (not very much) money was to laugh it off and assume she's a mooch. If he wanted to marry her his response would have been different. So now he knows he doesn't want to be with her long-term, and she clearly knows too. And thanks to the internet; we also get to know!

We all know it's not "borrowing," she asked to be given money for CC debt. Give me a break. At least be up front.

I asked him to clarify what "$200 until next summer" meant on page one and he didn't until after this post, so no breaks will be given. The OP was in no way clear.

Doesn't change my point -- he did know he didn't want to be with her long-term. And now he doesn't have to.

Yeah no, you just had sh*tty reading comprehension and gave the GF way too much credit based on your own biases. We got it.

You seem angry. Deep breaths buddy, you'll get through.

He didn't say monthly, he said she asked for $200 until next summer, and it took until the about the 30th comment to even clarify that she had broken up with him, he initially only said she was acting distant since they got back. He did not communicate his story clearly. Don't take it so personally.

Yeah, no. This was on you, dummy.

Deep breathing didn't work?

You made a reading comprehension error and now you seem unhinged and cray cray. Do you always dig in when you've clearly made a mistake? How unpleasant.