Back on the dating scene. Confused.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. My head hurts from reading this thread. Thank god I'm not dating anymore. Texting has turned people into socially retarded daters. Don't people just call each other anymore?

The women are socially retarded, as personified in this thread.

[Anonymous]

Really, OP?

Are you for real with this shit?

You've been a total bitch to this guy, who likes you and you want to complain about his response when all you've done is blow him off when he's tried to plan dates with you.

You're 31. Same age as I am. If you want a serious relationship with a guy , and possibly marriage you need to grow the hell up!
You are behaving like you are 13 not 31.

- A 31 year old woman.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think you're overthinking this. He's saying he's cool with you being out of pocket for a few days. He also may be a guy who doesn't plan too far in advance, or he may be trying to play it cool so he doesn't scare you off by being too eager to schedule something.

Next time in that situation, you could always say, I'll be out of town until Thursday, but maybe Friday or Saturday?"

Some people are not planners. Decide now if you can live with it.

.. or decide later, or don't decide. Whatever.

[Anonymous]

Any man contemplating divorce, even casually, should be forced to read this thread. He will run back to his rational DW when he realizes what's swimming around in today's dating pool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Really, OP?

Are you for real with this shit?

You've been a total bitch to this guy, who likes you and you want to complain about his response when all you've done is blow him off when he's tried to plan dates with you.

You're 31. Same age as I am. If you want a serious relationship with a guy , and possibly marriage you need to grow the hell up!
You are behaving like you are 13 not 31.

- A 31 year old woman.

And you also sound like a bitch. OP already admitted that she was a bitch to him why say it again? For 31 you don't comprehend very well. She said she got out of an 8 year relationship and enjoyed being single so why are you trying to shove a relationship, especially marriage down her throat?

Not everyone is eager to settle down. To be honest it's probably best if she doesn't jump back into a serious relationship right now anyways.

Stop with this ageism bullshit. If you want to play it that way you sound like a boring stuck up wet blanket. Are you sure you're just 31? You sound more like an old bitch.

-A 42 year old woman.

[Anonymous]

Let him go. He deserves someone who wants to spend time with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Really, OP?

Are you for real with this shit?

You've been a total bitch to this guy, who likes you and you want to complain about his response when all you've done is blow him off when he's tried to plan dates with you.

You're 31. Same age as I am. If you want a serious relationship with a guy , and possibly marriage you need to grow the hell up!
You are behaving like you are 13 not 31.

- A 31 year old woman.

And you also sound like a bitch. OP already admitted that she was a bitch to him why say it again? For 31 you don't comprehend very well. She said she got out of an 8 year relationship and enjoyed being single so why are you trying to shove a relationship, especially marriage down her throat?

Not everyone is eager to settle down. To be honest it's probably best if she doesn't jump back into a serious relationship right now anyways.

Stop with this ageism bullshit. If you want to play it that way you sound like a boring stuck up wet blanket. Are you sure you're just 31? You sound more like an old bitch.

-A 42 year old woman.

I would think by 42 you would understand the meaning and use of the word "if"


I would also think you would understand how to be a decent human. If she's not really into him she should let him know and stop playing silly games and looking for a reason to be nasty to him.

I'm not going to cosign OP"s behavior because she's female. OP came here wanting to trash a guy and it turns out her behavior is what is appalling.

If you think the way she is acting is ok, just because she got out of a LTR then you need to grow up as well.

[Anonymous]

Maybe I'm tired, but I can't understand a word, OP.

If you don't understand him, move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Really, OP?

Are you for real with this shit?

You've been a total bitch to this guy, who likes you and you want to complain about his response when all you've done is blow him off when he's tried to plan dates with you.

You're 31. Same age as I am. If you want a serious relationship with a guy , and possibly marriage you need to grow the hell up!
You are behaving like you are 13 not 31.

- A 31 year old woman.

And you also sound like a bitch. OP already admitted that she was a bitch to him why say it again? For 31 you don't comprehend very well. She said she got out of an 8 year relationship and enjoyed being single so why are you trying to shove a relationship, especially marriage down her throat?

Not everyone is eager to settle down. To be honest it's probably best if she doesn't jump back into a serious relationship right now anyways.

Stop with this ageism bullshit. If you want to play it that way you sound like a boring stuck up wet blanket. Are you sure you're just 31? You sound more like an old bitch.

-A 42 year old woman.

I would think by 42 you would understand the meaning and use of the word "if"


I would also think you would understand how to be a decent human. If she's not really into him she should let him know and stop playing silly games and looking for a reason to be nasty to him.

I'm not going to cosign OP"s behavior because she's female. OP came here wanting to trash a guy and it turns out her behavior is what is appalling.

If you think the way she is acting is ok, just because she got out of a LTR then you need to grow up as well.

And I would think by 31 you would know that people make mistakes. She obviously recognized her behavior as being less than desirable. I'm guessing you're so perfect that you've never treated someone poorly? How did she trash by saying she was confused?

I didn't say her behavior was okay. What I am saying is no need to say she was acting like a bitch. She already said it. No need to throw age in her face. We've got it already. She made a mistake. Glad you're still young. Use the time to learn empathy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Really, OP?

Are you for real with this shit?

You've been a total bitch to this guy, who likes you and you want to complain about his response when all you've done is blow him off when he's tried to plan dates with you.

You're 31. Same age as I am. If you want a serious relationship with a guy , and possibly marriage you need to grow the hell up!
You are behaving like you are 13 not 31.

- A 31 year old woman.

And you also sound like a bitch. OP already admitted that she was a bitch to him why say it again? For 31 you don't comprehend very well. She said she got out of an 8 year relationship and enjoyed being single so why are you trying to shove a relationship, especially marriage down her throat?

Not everyone is eager to settle down. To be honest it's probably best if she doesn't jump back into a serious relationship right now anyways.

Stop with this ageism bullshit. If you want to play it that way you sound like a boring stuck up wet blanket. Are you sure you're just 31? You sound more like an old bitch.

-A 42 year old woman.

I would think by 42 you would understand the meaning and use of the word "if"


I would also think you would understand how to be a decent human. If she's not really into him she should let him know and stop playing silly games and looking for a reason to be nasty to him.

I'm not going to cosign OP"s behavior because she's female. OP came here wanting to trash a guy and it turns out her behavior is what is appalling.

If you think the way she is acting is ok, just because she got out of a LTR then you need to grow up as well.

And I would think by 31 you would know that people make mistakes. She obviously recognized her behavior as being less than desirable. I'm guessing you're so perfect that you've never treated someone poorly? How did she trash by saying she was confused?

I didn't say her behavior was okay. What I am saying is no need to say she was acting like a bitch. She already said it. No need to throw age in her face. We've got it already. She made a mistake. Glad you're still young. Use the time to learn empathy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any man contemplating divorce, even casually, should be forced to read this thread. He will run back to his rational DW when he realizes what's swimming around in today's dating pool.

my married girlfriends are way crazier than my divorced friends. so NO.

[Anonymous]

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He asked about going to dinner and wanted to know when I would be *free* and I told him starting in a few days (traveling for work). All he said was sounds good. I may be overrracting here but that really put a bad tatse in my mouth. 

Why? How did you expect him to react/to say? Seems like a perfectly reasonable response to me.

To actually say how about *insert day*?

See my issue is I can't decide if this guy is just playing games or he's just not very assertive (either one I dislike)
For example:
He'll say I want to see you and ask if the weekend is good for me. I'll tell him the weekend is good but when the weekend comes he'll skirt around it. He'll ask what my plans are, when I'll be done, *then* he'll say I want to see you even though I already said I was good with seeing him. Or ask me where I'm at becsuse he wants to know if I'm out and about instsad if jusr saying hey are you free I want to see you.

You should have put all this in your OP. Just don't plan on seeing him, since it's casual, and stay on the market.

Thanks. To be honest that's what I had been doing. He asks almost weekly to see me and usually I have something come up on my end but still the lack of planning is just something I don't like.

So he has been inquiring about your availability for several weeks but doesn't follow up once he has the information? This is easy, there is another woman out there. He is casually dating or thinking about ending a relationship or something. This non-committal behavior screams other chick

No. OP has already rejected him a few times. As a guy I would read this as she has another guy and wants to see what her options will be in a few days. I would think she is lying about traveling(especially after the other rejections)...just stringing me a long. If the other guy is busy or she has nothing else to do, she may be free. This guy is no player, just a sucker with no self esteem. He should have ghosted a few rejections back. She is clearly not in to him. That said, I doubt he will call back...he just ghosted.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Same PP, there is the possibility you're on a list of women and not at the top for him either so something better comes along and he bolts on you. Something he perceives as better at least. If that's the case, tell him to fuck himself. I don't play section me string quarterback to anyone else.

Believe me, when given the ultimatum most people stopped with the bullshit. If they dump you off, their loss.

Thanks. Here's the thing he's not flaking. He consistently asks and majority of the time I've been the one who's said I couldn't for various reasons. I just didn't like how he said sounds good.

Now very well could be on a roster of women. We're not exclusive so it's always safe to assume if you're not exclusive they're dating others. Now, if supposedly second string why the heck keep asking if I turned him down before? Wouldn't it just be time to find another second string who would be more willing to cooperate?

LOL

Same PP, this thread is great!

If that's the case I'm willing to bet dollars to doughnuts as soon as he blows you off or stop expressing interest you're going to try to hook up. At that point he's shown he's capable of pulling other women and you'll wonder "why did date her when I have (insert quality here)"?

If you'd flaked out on me that many times...you're done to me.

OP, are you hot?

Yea he took me out valentines day and afterwards he contacted me and I ignored him completely. I'm a bitch I know already feel bad about so don't chew me up and spit me back out lol. I just wasn't sure if I was ready to date. I've enjoyed being single. So he contacted me again the next week and I wasn't that receptive then either. So he's been asking, albeit in his own weird way lol, since then. We've already had sex so if I were him like you said I would've dropped my ass already, especially if I already got sex from you.

Don't want to sound conceited, but yes I am.

If you're an 8/10 or above and you're not bullshitting yourself you have your answer. He wants to date you because your a smoke show so he's trying to place the nice guy card. It's obviously not working for him. Two things are happening here. You're either leading him on and giving him signals you're interested (i.e. You've fucked him already and continue to entertain the idea of dates).

My guess, he's someone mildly attractive to you and you're keeping him around until the BBD (bigger, better, deal) comes along in which case you'll complexity break contact until said BBD isn't available.

Which one is it. Same PP BTW

Really pp is a troll ...everyone on here is a 10 or higher and none have sex until like 8 to 12 months of dating. LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:**edit**

He asked about going to dinner and wanted to know when I would be *free* and I told him starting in a few days (traveling for work). All he said was sounds good. I may be overrracting here but that really put a bad tatse in my mouth. 

Why? How did you expect him to react/to say? Seems like a perfectly reasonable response to me.

To actually say how about *insert day*?

See my issue is I can't decide if this guy is just playing games or he's just not very assertive (either one I dislike)
For example:
He'll say I want to see you and ask if the weekend is good for me. I'll tell him the weekend is good but when the weekend comes he'll skirt around it. He'll ask what my plans are, when I'll be done, *then* he'll say I want to see you even though I already said I was good with seeing him. Or ask me where I'm at becsuse he wants to know if I'm out and about instsad if jusr saying hey are you free I want to see you.

You should have put all this in your OP. Just don't plan on seeing him, since it's casual, and stay on the market.

Thanks. To be honest that's what I had been doing. He asks almost weekly to see me and usually I have something come up on my end but still the lack of planning is just something I don't like.

So he has been inquiring about your availability for several weeks but doesn't follow up once he has the information? This is easy, there is another woman out there. He is casually dating or thinking about ending a relationship or something. This non-committal behavior screams other chick

No. OP has already rejected him a few times. As a guy I would read this as she has another guy and wants to see what her options will be in a few days. I would think she is lying about traveling(especially after the other rejections)...just stringing me a long. If the other guy is busy or she has nothing else to do, she may be free. This guy is no player, just a sucker with no self esteem. He should have ghosted a few rejections back. She is clearly not in to him. That said, I doubt he will call back...he just ghosted.

+100 OP will be back in a week with a post about being ghosted. In 5 years OP's friend will post about her friend(OP) who is so great etc and how she can't find a man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So it's up to him to suggest concrete plans? Why don't you take the initiative, OP? His response was perfectly reasonable.

Because who wants to be with a weak, indecisive beta? That's what this guy's sounds like. Not attractive. Not a catch.