Back on the dating scene. Confused.

[Anonymous]

Why are you incapable of suggesting a time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me get this straight - he's been askin you out a few times, you've flaked on him, and now you are mad he doesn't make plans after you say "sorry I'm busy"?

Wtf - how is he supposed to suggest a different concrete time without knowing your schedule and with you giving a track record of being unavailable?

I told him the day I would get back. Not mad, confused. Like one of the PP said if a guy is really interested he's going to make concrete plans if he knows you're available. I was raised to think the same way so that's why I said I was confused.

I'm PP who stated OP lacks man balls and said women like a guy to take charge. There you have it.

Why would she be interested in some flaky guy who can't make plans. Said "boy" needs to man up and make plans. If he likes her, make some plans and follow through. I'm not a woman and don't get courted my other men...that often (although I've been asked out). I imagine nothing drives a woman nuts more than a guy who doesn't follow through with plans. It shows inconsistency and lack of drive, both terrible qualities

OP, if he flakes again don't give him another chance, it will be the defining norm of your relationship. Find a guy with gumption

[Anonymous]

Same PP, there is the possibility you're on a list of women and not at the top for him either so something better comes along and he bolts on you. Something he perceives as better at least. If that's the case, tell him to fuck himself. I don't play section me string quarterback to anyone else.

Believe me, when given the ultimatum most people stopped with the bullshit. If they dump you off, their loss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Same PP, there is the possibility you're on a list of women and not at the top for him either so something better comes along and he bolts on you. Something he perceives as better at least. If that's the case, tell him to fuck himself. I don't play section me string quarterback to anyone else.

Believe me, when given the ultimatum most people stopped with the bullshit. If they dump you off, their loss.

*second string quarterback

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

So he has been inquiring about your availability for several weeks but doesn't follow up once he has the information? This is easy, there is another woman out there. He is casually dating or thinking about ending a relationship or something. This non-committal behavior screams other chick

^ bingo!

the guy thinks he's a player and possibly he has another woman or two he's seeing n the side. he's basically toying with you, OP, trying to get you to want him and then when you do manage to get together, the expectation is that you'll throw yourself at him.

(bt, I'm a guy who has seen too much of this BS in one lifetime)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Same PP, there is the possibility you're on a list of women and not at the top for him either so something better comes along and he bolts on you. Something he perceives as better at least. If that's the case, tell him to fuck himself. I don't play section me string quarterback to anyone else.

Believe me, when given the ultimatum most people stopped with the bullshit. If they dump you off, their loss.

Thanks. Here's the thing he's not flaking. He consistently asks and majority of the time I've been the one who's said I couldn't for various reasons. I just didn't like how he said sounds good.

Now very well could be on a roster of women. We're not exclusive so it's always safe to assume if you're not exclusive they're dating others. Now, if supposedly second string why the heck keep asking if I turned him down before? Wouldn't it just be time to find another second string who would be more willing to cooperate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you say in a few days, or give an exact day? LIke, 'I'll be free in a few days when I am back' vs. 'I am free Saturday.'

Well 1. I didn't even tell him the reason why I wouldn't be free
2. Just said I'll be free from Monday on.

In that case, you deserve your vague response. You certainly don't sound interested in seeing him. I wouldn't make plans with you, either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So he has been inquiring about your availability for several weeks but doesn't follow up once he has the information? This is easy, there is another woman out there. He is casually dating or thinking about ending a relationship or something. This non-committal behavior screams other chick

^ bingo!

the guy thinks he's a player and possibly he has another woman or two he's seeing n the side. he's basically toying with you, OP, trying to get you to want him and then when you do manage to get together, the expectation is that you'll throw yourself at him.

(bt, I'm a guy who has seen too much of this BS in one lifetime)

Again, I think you guys have it the other way around lol.

Like another PP said,

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Let me get this straight - he's been askin you out a few times, you've flaked on him, and now you are mad he doesn't make plans after you say "sorry I'm busy"?

Wtf - how is he supposed to suggest a different concrete time without knowing your schedule and with you giving a track record of being unavailable?"

[Anonymous]

If you're the one with the difficult schedule, you need to be the one to offer specific days/times you're available.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Same PP, there is the possibility you're on a list of women and not at the top for him either so something better comes along and he bolts on you. Something he perceives as better at least. If that's the case, tell him to fuck himself. I don't play section me string quarterback to anyone else.

Believe me, when given the ultimatum most people stopped with the bullshit. If they dump you off, their loss.

Thanks. Here's the thing he's not flaking. He consistently asks and majority of the time I've been the one who's said I couldn't for various reasons. I just didn't like how he said sounds good.

Now very well could be on a roster of women. We're not exclusive so it's always safe to assume if you're not exclusive they're dating others. Now, if supposedly second string why the heck keep asking if I turned him down before? Wouldn't it just be time to find another second string who would be more willing to cooperate?

LOL

Same PP, this thread is great!

If that's the case I'm willing to bet dollars to doughnuts as soon as he blows you off or stop expressing interest you're going to try to hook up. At that point he's shown he's capable of pulling other women and you'll wonder "why did date her when I have (insert quality here)"?

If you'd flaked out on me that many times...you're done to me.

OP, are you hot?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Same PP, there is the possibility you're on a list of women and not at the top for him either so something better comes along and he bolts on you. Something he perceives as better at least. If that's the case, tell him to fuck himself. I don't play section me string quarterback to anyone else.

Believe me, when given the ultimatum most people stopped with the bullshit. If they dump you off, their loss.

Thanks. Here's the thing he's not flaking. He consistently asks and majority of the time I've been the one who's said I couldn't for various reasons. I just didn't like how he said sounds good.

Now very well could be on a roster of women. We're not exclusive so it's always safe to assume if you're not exclusive they're dating others. Now, if supposedly second string why the heck keep asking if I turned him down before? Wouldn't it just be time to find another second string who would be more willing to cooperate?

LOL

Same PP, this thread is great!

If that's the case I'm willing to bet dollars to doughnuts as soon as he blows you off or stop expressing interest you're going to try to hook up. At that point he's shown he's capable of pulling other women and you'll wonder "why did date her when I have (insert quality here)"?

If you'd flaked out on me that many times...you're done to me.

OP, are you hot?

Yea he took me out valentines day and afterwards he contacted me and I ignored him completely. I'm a bitch I know already feel bad about so don't chew me up and spit me back out lol. I just wasn't sure if I was ready to date. I've enjoyed being single. So he contacted me again the next week and I wasn't that receptive then either. So he's been asking, albeit in his own weird way lol, since then. We've already had sex so if I were him like you said I would've dropped my ass already, especially if I already got sex from you.

Don't want to sound conceited, but yes I am.

[Anonymous]

This thread is painful to read. OP stop thinking. Please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you say in a few days, or give an exact day? LIke, 'I'll be free in a few days when I am back' vs. 'I am free Saturday.'

Well 1. I didn't even tell him the reason why I wouldn't be free
2. Just said I'll be free from Monday on.

OP, you didn't even tell him the reason why you wouldn't be free? You didn't let him know that you would be out of town? When you said that you would be free on Monday, he must have thought that you'd be spending the weekend on dates with other guys! He was probably so surprised that nothing else came to mind for him to say other than "Sounds good."

Even so, he doesn't seem to be the right guy for you at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Same PP, there is the possibility you're on a list of women and not at the top for him either so something better comes along and he bolts on you. Something he perceives as better at least. If that's the case, tell him to fuck himself. I don't play section me string quarterback to anyone else.

Believe me, when given the ultimatum most people stopped with the bullshit. If they dump you off, their loss.

Thanks. Here's the thing he's not flaking. He consistently asks and majority of the time I've been the one who's said I couldn't for various reasons. I just didn't like how he said sounds good.

Now very well could be on a roster of women. We're not exclusive so it's always safe to assume if you're not exclusive they're dating others. Now, if supposedly second string why the heck keep asking if I turned him down before? Wouldn't it just be time to find another second string who would be more willing to cooperate?

LOL

Same PP, this thread is great!

If that's the case I'm willing to bet dollars to doughnuts as soon as he blows you off or stop expressing interest you're going to try to hook up. At that point he's shown he's capable of pulling other women and you'll wonder "why did date her when I have (insert quality here)"?

If you'd flaked out on me that many times...you're done to me.

OP, are you hot?

Yea he took me out valentines day and afterwards he contacted me and I ignored him completely. I'm a bitch I know already feel bad about so don't chew me up and spit me back out lol. I just wasn't sure if I was ready to date. I've enjoyed being single. So he contacted me again the next week and I wasn't that receptive then either. So he's been asking, albeit in his own weird way lol, since then. We've already had sex so if I were him like you said I would've dropped my ass already, especially if I already got sex from you.

Don't want to sound conceited, but yes I am.

If you're an 8/10 or above and you're not bullshitting yourself you have your answer. He wants to date you because your a smoke show so he's trying to place the nice guy card. It's obviously not working for him. Two things are happening here. You're either leading him on and giving him signals you're interested (i.e. You've fucked him already and continue to entertain the idea of dates).

My guess, he's someone mildly attractive to you and you're keeping him around until the BBD (bigger, better, deal) comes along in which case you'll complexity break contact until said BBD isn't available.

Which one is it. Same PP BTW

[Anonymous]

Ugh. My head hurts from reading this thread. Thank god I'm not dating anymore. Texting has turned people into socially retarded daters. Don't people just call each other anymore?