Back on the dating scene. Confused.

[Anonymous]

I'm 31 and I recently got back on the dating scene after an eight year relationship so I'm pretty rusty. This man that I'm casually seeing is odd, I think.

He asked about going to dinner and wanted to know when I would be and I told him starting in a few days (traveling for work). All he said was sounds good. I may be overrracting here but that really put a bad tatse in my mouth.

Overreacting?

[Anonymous]

Reading your post. Confused.

[Anonymous]

**edit**

He asked about going to dinner and wanted to know when I would be *free* and I told him starting in a few days (traveling for work). All he said was sounds good. I may be overrracting here but that really put a bad tatse in my mouth. 

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:**edit**

He asked about going to dinner and wanted to know when I would be *free* and I told him starting in a few days (traveling for work). All he said was sounds good. I may be overrracting here but that really put a bad tatse in my mouth. 

Why? How did you expect him to react/to say? Seems like a perfectly reasonable response to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 31 and I recently got back on the dating scene after an eight year relationship so I'm pretty rusty. This man that I'm casually seeing is odd, I think.

He asked about going to dinner and wanted to know when I would be and I told him starting in a few days (traveling for work). All he said was sounds good. I may be overrracting here but that really put a bad tatse in my mouth.

Overreacting?

LOL, this is going to be painful for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:**edit**

He asked about going to dinner and wanted to know when I would be *free* and I told him starting in a few days (traveling for work). All he said was sounds good. I may be overrracting here but that really put a bad tatse in my mouth. 

Why? How did you expect him to react/to say? Seems like a perfectly reasonable response to me.

To actually say how about *insert day*?

See my issue is I can't decide if this guy is just playing games or he's just not very assertive (either one I dislike)
For example:
He'll say I want to see you and ask if the weekend is good for me. I'll tell him the weekend is good but when the weekend comes he'll skirt around it. He'll ask what my plans are, when I'll be done, *then* he'll say I want to see you even though I already said I was good with seeing him. Or ask me where I'm at becsuse he wants to know if I'm out and about instsad if jusr saying hey are you free I want to see you.

[Anonymous]

what did you want him to say?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 31 and I recently got back on the dating scene after an eight year relationship so I'm pretty rusty. This man that I'm casually seeing is odd, I think.

He asked about going to dinner and wanted to know when I would be and I told him starting in a few days (traveling for work). All he said was sounds good. I may be overrracting here but that really put a bad tatse in my mouth.

Overreacting?

LOL, this is going to be painful for you.

Uh oh why do you say that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:**edit**

He asked about going to dinner and wanted to know when I would be *free* and I told him starting in a few days (traveling for work). All he said was sounds good. I may be overrracting here but that really put a bad tatse in my mouth. 

Why? How did you expect him to react/to say? Seems like a perfectly reasonable response to me.

To actually say how about *insert day*?

See my issue is I can't decide if this guy is just playing games or he's just not very assertive (either one I dislike)
For example:
He'll say I want to see you and ask if the weekend is good for me. I'll tell him the weekend is good but when the weekend comes he'll skirt around it. He'll ask what my plans are, when I'll be done, *then* he'll say I want to see you even though I already said I was good with seeing him. Or ask me where I'm at becsuse he wants to know if I'm out and about instsad if jusr saying hey are you free I want to see you.

You should have put all this in your OP. Just don't plan on seeing him, since it's casual, and stay on the market.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what did you want him to say?

Make concrete plans. At least a little more than that. It's not like I'm saying I'll be free weeks out, heck even a week.

[Anonymous]

#PrayingForOP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what did you want him to say?

"Doesn't sound good"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:**edit**

He asked about going to dinner and wanted to know when I would be *free* and I told him starting in a few days (traveling for work). All he said was sounds good. I may be overrracting here but that really put a bad tatse in my mouth. 

Why? How did you expect him to react/to say? Seems like a perfectly reasonable response to me.

To actually say how about *insert day*?

See my issue is I can't decide if this guy is just playing games or he's just not very assertive (either one I dislike)
For example:
He'll say I want to see you and ask if the weekend is good for me. I'll tell him the weekend is good but when the weekend comes he'll skirt around it. He'll ask what my plans are, when I'll be done, *then* he'll say I want to see you even though I already said I was good with seeing him. Or ask me where I'm at becsuse he wants to know if I'm out and about instsad if jusr saying hey are you free I want to see you.

You should have put all this in your OP. Just don't plan on seeing him, since it's casual, and stay on the market.

Thanks. To be honest that's what I had been doing. He asks almost weekly to see me and usually I have something come up on my end but still the lack of planning is just something I don't like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:#PrayingForOP

Thanks but um why the praying? Lol.

[Anonymous]

I think you're reading way too much into this hence the painful poster. It just means he'll check back in with you for a concrete time "in a few days". No big deal. It's probably the exact response I would've given and honestly from HIS side I would've wondered if you were being flaky. If you're the one that has the restriction then YOU offer the date. Simple.