Our 35yr old divorced friend is dating a 25yr old

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Anonymous wrote:I kind of understand the OP's point of view. Where there's one couple that we know where the guy is older and the girl is younger than the couple described by the OP. We're associated through the guy.

There are some generational differences. Where sometimes I might get kicked under the table when mentioning something along the lines that something is due to the difference in generations. ie preference in styles and tastes. I think that Adam Sandler movie with Jennifer Aniston made a joke about it too. Where the younger girl was singing to N'Sync or something.

And a lot of it also depends on where someone is in life. Where someone at 25 may not be at the same point of life and mentality as someone ten to fifteen years older. This isn't the case for everybody.

But the differences isn't anything that would cause us to want to exclude the girl from any activities or anything. If anything she's more level headed and has more common sense then the guy she's dating.

Of course there may be generational differences. The problem with OP's approach is her reluctance to associate with anyone different from her little clique. So what if the new girl has a different taste in music? Maybe OP can turn off the Go-Gos for a second and try a little Taylor Swift or Modest Mouse.

OP is glibly discussing the exclusion of one of her husband's friends because his new GF likes different tv shows and music. Its shallow and pathetic.

Modest Mouse is great, but they aren't a great example of youth.

Fine- Ed Sheeran. Better? wtf

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I HAVE met her. I just felt that for his sake and for hers we might want to not have them tag along to us to 2Amys. She probably watches Empire and bought he Taylor Swift CD while we all watch MSNBC and listen to 90s pop. Lol.

Oh please, you can't even hear shit at 2Amys, just sit across the table and you won't have to listen to her.

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We should go to 2Amys and find the table full of old chicks and that one young hottie.

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Anonymous wrote:We should go to 2Amys and find the table full of old chicks and that one young hottie.

Look for the group blasting 90s pop and talking about what they saw on MSNBC the other night...

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Anonymous wrote:We should go to 2Amys and find the table full of old chicks and that one young hottie.

Look for the group blasting 90s pop and talking about what they saw on MSNBC the other night...

They'll be talking about 50 Shades of Gray for sure. And their husbands will be eye-fucking the hell out of the young chick.

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Be kind. I say invite her.

She may be nice + you may find out that you have more in common than you originally thought.

And give your friend some credit on his part.

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I think OP is attracted to the 25 year old, and is overcompensating by putting her down.

Don't worry, OP. You're still young enough to get with a 25 year old.

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OP - Your kids may some day hook up with 25 year olds. Will you be such a bitch then?

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Anonymous wrote:And he wants to bring her to couples events with us. We have a group of 3-4 couples and we do stuff once a month or so. We're all mid to late 30s and all still in our first marriages. He's the only divorced one and he's bringing around a girl who got out of college jn 2013!!! She doesn't fit the group at all. Career wise, popular culture wise etc. should we just tolerate her or start excluding him?

Wow, you're pretty bitter for someone in your thirties! I don't want to be anywhere near you after you hit 45!

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I am sure the 25YO will hate to miss out on the discussions about basic-cable television newscasts.

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I was a married business owner when I was 25. It's not like she's 18 or something. She's an adult, so are you. Act like it.

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OP here. Just came back to read most of the responses. I may not have articulated everything clearly.

1) I have met the girl. She's an airhead. Period.
2) He's just doing this as a way to get back at his exwife IMO.
3) He's a friend of the group and his wife wasn't part of the group so he gets to stay.
4) She graduated in 2013. She was 22 then. She's 25 now. I literally almost asked her if she could babysit my 4yr old on Saturday night but then I realized she was probably going to be out at Smith Point or Old Glory.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. It feels like we're babysitting her or that the babysitter joined us. Her view of the world is so skewed. It's awkward.

This is too ridiculous to be real, but just in case...OP, you're not that much older than she is. Regardless, would it kill you to be gracious and kind a few hours a month? Or are you just not that kind of person?

OP, have you considered that your view of the world is skewed? It's like you're looking to dislike her. She's a grown up, you obviously don't need to babysit her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Just came back to read most of the responses. I may not have articulated everything clearly.

1) I have met the girl. She's an airhead. Period.
2) He's just doing this as a way to get back at his exwife IMO.
3) He's a friend of the group and his wife wasn't part of the group so he gets to stay.
4) She graduated in 2013. She was 22 then. She's 25 now. I literally almost asked her if she could babysit my 4yr old on Saturday night but then I realized she was probably going to be out at Smith Point or Old Glory.

OP - Now it is crystal clear that you are a bitch!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Just came back to read most of the responses. I may not have articulated everything clearly.

1) I have met the girl. She's an airhead. Period.
2) He's just doing this as a way to get back at his exwife IMO.
3) He's a friend of the group and his wife wasn't part of the group so he gets to stay.
4) She graduated in 2013. She was 22 then. She's 25 now. I literally almost asked her if she could babysit my 4yr old on Saturday night but then I realized she was probably going to be out at Smith Point or Old Glory.

Being an airhead is one thing but you're borderlining on having a bad attitude.

I don't know of any 20 year olds that would be interested in babysitting and I don't know if I'd trust any to be a babysitter anyways.

I'm not sure if you're trying to say that this person acts even younger than her age.

But your attitude is really condescending.