Our 35yr old divorced friend is dating a 25yr old

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I HAVE met her. I just felt that for his sake and for hers we might want to not have them tag along to us to 2Amys. She probably watches Empire and bought he Taylor Swift CD while we all watch MSNBC and listen to 90s pop. Lol.

So you met her, don't know her tastes, are making gross assumptions based on age, and are afraid of going outside your own bubble of comfort. Got it.

You still sound horrible. MSNBC and 90s pop- that's reason enough to avoid your little circle.

[Anonymous]

I am 18 years younger than my husband and get along fine with his friends and family.

My own friends are 10 years older than I am - so I suppose I just tend to gravitate towards that age range.

Clearly life has not taught you very much, OP!
This woman may very well be more mature, knowledgeable and intelligent than you.

A little introspection is in order.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I HAVE met her. I just felt that for his sake and for hers we might want to not have them tag along to us to 2Amys. She probably watches Empire and bought he Taylor Swift CD while we all watch MSNBC and listen to 90s pop. Lol.

Why are you throwing Taylor Swift and Empire under the bus? I know plenty of old ladies (folks your age) that love Taylor Swift.

[Anonymous]

OP, I think you're the issue. I'm 41 and have some lovely friends in their mid twenties. I also have some lovely friends in their fifties who somehow managed to stomach my company when I was 26.

[Anonymous]

Um, my husband is 7 yrs older than me. What's the big deal.

[Anonymous]

I love how OP is completely in denial about how she comes across. Her poor husband. Can you imagine being married to someone like this? Or maybe that's where her issues come from. DH is over her mean girl pettiness and she's worried he will see how good he could have it. At least that makes sense.

[Anonymous]

I kind of understand the OP's point of view. Where there's one couple that we know where the guy is older and the girl is younger than the couple described by the OP. We're associated through the guy.

There are some generational differences. Where sometimes I might get kicked under the table when mentioning something along the lines that something is due to the difference in generations. ie preference in styles and tastes. I think that Adam Sandler movie with Jennifer Aniston made a joke about it too. Where the younger girl was singing to N'Sync or something.

And a lot of it also depends on where someone is in life. Where someone at 25 may not be at the same point of life and mentality as someone ten to fifteen years older. This isn't the case for everybody.

But the differences isn't anything that would cause us to want to exclude the girl from any activities or anything. If anything she's more level headed and has more common sense then the guy she's dating.

[Anonymous]

you jealous

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I kind of understand the OP's point of view. Where there's one couple that we know where the guy is older and the girl is younger than the couple described by the OP. We're associated through the guy.

There are some generational differences. Where sometimes I might get kicked under the table when mentioning something along the lines that something is due to the difference in generations. ie preference in styles and tastes. I think that Adam Sandler movie with Jennifer Aniston made a joke about it too. Where the younger girl was singing to N'Sync or something.

And a lot of it also depends on where someone is in life. Where someone at 25 may not be at the same point of life and mentality as someone ten to fifteen years older. This isn't the case for everybody.

But the differences isn't anything that would cause us to want to exclude the girl from any activities or anything. If anything she's more level headed and has more common sense then the guy she's dating.

Of course there may be generational differences. The problem with OP's approach is her reluctance to associate with anyone different from her little clique. So what if the new girl has a different taste in music? Maybe OP can turn off the Go-Gos for a second and try a little Taylor Swift or Modest Mouse.

OP is glibly discussing the exclusion of one of her husband's friends because his new GF likes different tv shows and music. Its shallow and pathetic.

[Anonymous]

OP sounds awful. I am ten years younger than my husband and not once have any of his friends been anything other than welcoming and warm, and we all get along great. We have friends who are both younger and older than us, as well. You might be missing out on a great person, as well as losing a good friend.

[Anonymous]

Are you looking to get rid or him or keep him as a friend?

Treat his girlfriends accordingly.

[Anonymous]

Reminds me of the time I was about 25 and brought my date (a very attractive 20 year old female) out with our group of friends. None of the guys cared one bit, but she got plenty of dirty looks from the females in the group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It feels like we're babysitting her or that the babysitter joined us. Her view of the world is so skewed. It's awkward.

This is too ridiculous to be real, but just in case...OP, you're not that much older than she is. Regardless, would it kill you to be gracious and kind a few hours a month? Or are you just not that kind of person?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I HAVE met her. I just felt that for his sake and for hers we might want to not have them tag along to us to 2Amys. She probably watches Empire and bought he Taylor Swift CD while we all watch MSNBC and listen to 90s pop. Lol.

I watch empire and I'm 34. I also watch MSNBC and listen to 90s pop. I also have friends that are both in their 20s and in their 40s and 50s. My closest work collegue is 56.

You are the worst.

[Anonymous]

The best way to handle the situation is let her come. Only one of two outcomes:

1) You actually find out that you like her
2) It is awkward as heck and the guy realizes it.