Our 35yr old divorced friend is dating a 25yr old

[Anonymous]

How is she 25 and just graduated college? Dumb.

[Anonymous]

Ha. I knew someone like OP. No shock here that's she's divorced and basically friendless. Meanwhile woman she tried to get everyone to hate is getting married this summer and some of us our bridesmaids. Sometimes I wish I still talked to bitter former friend to see if she realized her lame middle.school.girl tactics were the wrong way to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I HAVE met her. I just felt that for his sake and for hers we might want to not have them tag along to us to 2Amys. She probably watches Empire and bought he Taylor Swift CD while we all watch MSNBC and listen to 90s pop. Lol.

You sound like a bitch and lack graciousness and any sort of class. Definitely better for her if she doesn't come.

[Anonymous]

OP you do come across as a bit of a bitch but your feelings are understandable. Were the women in your group close w the ex? That will make it harder to want to be friendly to the new girl. Also if she is young and hot it would be hard not to be a bit jealous. Divorce is definitely contagious, but in my anecdotal experience it is women friends of a women who initiated her divorce who do that, not male friends of men

Anyway, if you can get last your feelings about the divorce, give her a chance. 35 is too young to start getting set in your ways and becoming a stick in the mud

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I HAVE met her. I just felt that for his sake and for hers we might want to not have them tag along to us to 2Amys. She probably watches Empire and bought he Taylor Swift CD while we all watch MSNBC and listen to 90s pop. Lol.

If your DH has any sense in his brain he'll throw you to the curb with the trash and trade up with a 25.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I HAVE met her. I just felt that for his sake and for hers we might want to not have them tag along to us to 2Amys. She probably watches Empire and bought he Taylor Swift CD while we all watch MSNBC and listen to 90s pop. Lol.

haha, you knock her forTaylor Swift while listening to The Spice Girls? I bet you can really rate to Scary Spice, bit not Baby Spice.

And did you REALLY just say you watch MSNBC? You must be a Strayer grad.

[Anonymous]

OP, she probably doesn't want to hang out with a bunch of 35 year old ladies either. I am sure she will not become a permanent fixture at your gatherings because they sound pretty unfun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is she 25 and just graduated college? Dumb.

A lot of people don't go, or had to work their way through college.

[Anonymous]

The difference between 25 and 35 is not that big. OP is just insecure about younger women.

[Anonymous]

My partner is 8 years older than me. You sound quite judgemental and unpleasant.

[Anonymous]

Watch the Four Seasons with Alan Alda, Carol Burnette, and Bess Armstrong and the young new thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I kind of understand the OP's point of view. Where there's one couple that we know where the guy is older and the girl is younger than the couple described by the OP. We're associated through the guy.

There are some generational differences. Where sometimes I might get kicked under the table when mentioning something along the lines that something is due to the difference in generations. ie preference in styles and tastes. I think that Adam Sandler movie with Jennifer Aniston made a joke about it too. Where the younger girl was singing to N'Sync or something.

And a lot of it also depends on where someone is in life. Where someone at 25 may not be at the same point of life and mentality as someone ten to fifteen years older. This isn't the case for everybody.

But the differences isn't anything that would cause us to want to exclude the girl from any activities or anything. If anything she's more level headed and has more common sense then the guy she's dating.

Of course there may be generational differences. The problem with OP's approach is her reluctance to associate with anyone different from her little clique. So what if the new girl has a different taste in music? Maybe OP can turn off the Go-Gos for a second and try a little Taylor Swift or Modest Mouse.

OP is glibly discussing the exclusion of one of her husband's friends because his new GF likes different tv shows and music. Its shallow and pathetic.

Modest Mouse is great, but they aren't a great example of youth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I HAVE met her. I just felt that for his sake and for hers we might want to not have them tag along to us to 2Amys. She probably watches Empire and bought he Taylor Swift CD while we all watch MSNBC and listen to 90s pop. Lol.

I'm 36, and you still sound terminally boring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I HAVE met her. I just felt that for his sake and for hers we might want to not have them tag along to us to 2Amys. She probably watches Empire and bought he Taylor Swift CD while we all watch MSNBC and listen to 90s pop. Lol.

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1) I am 36 years old, have no idea what Empire is and listen to 60s pop and have no interest in hanging out with you after this horrible attempt at being cute or whatever.
2) how many times have you hung out with this girl? If only once I really wouldn't worry about it because I doubt she's going to hang out with you again.

Maybe you answered whether she ever willingly spent time with you after the initial meeting but I can't read this thread for fear that I'll see another post from OP like the above and punch my monitor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is she 25 and just graduated college? Dumb.

Sometimes people have to take a year off for a sick relative, or to save up money for school, or just because they want to take a year off. Dumb.