Our 35yr old divorced friend is dating a 25yr old

[Anonymous]

Couples in their 40s are beginning to freak out at a lifetime of monogamy. Hanging out with divorced people makes it worse and just stokes the unfaceable and horrible reality.

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OP, many men marry women who are much younger than they are. I'm not sure why you're so surprised. The shock (apparently) is when the situation's reversed and a woman marries a man who's much younger than she is. That's when you can expect nasty comments!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a hot 25 year old and I would like to personally request that no old pervs "rub one out" with me. Trust me, your old, saggy body does not turn me on. If you have managed to trick someone my age into dating you, trust me when I say, she is probably thinking of one of her exes, her own age, while you are having sex with her!

27 year old here and I agree.

Yep.

[Anonymous]

25-35=nbd; 25-45=gross

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My husband was more than 20 years older than me. I didn't see it as a problem then (I'm highly educated and career independent) but years later, looking back on it, it kind if gives me the creeps. I wouldn't approve of my daughter seeing someone years older.

Not to mean this in any way, but he also passed away leaving me a widow very young. Having lived it, I'm not pro the big age difference for a variety of reasons, but not because someone doesn't fit in with the group.

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I dont get why everyone on this thread is annoyed at the OP. I am 27 years old and our group of mid-late twentysomethings find a similar scenario odd too. One of our 25 year old friends is dating a 19 year old college kid! I can see why, she has huge boobs and is in a sorority. Its kind of funny to see a 25 year old go attend sorority parties with her. We all think its kind of odd. We have nothing against her, but find it difficult to see what he would have in common with her.

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Anonymous wrote:I dont get why everyone on this thread is annoyed at the OP. I am 27 years old and our group of mid-late twentysomethings find a similar scenario odd too. One of our 25 year old friends is dating a 19 year old college kid! I can see why, she has huge boobs and is in a sorority. Its kind of funny to see a 25 year old go attend sorority parties with her. We all think its kind of odd. We have nothing against her, but find it difficult to see what he would have in common with her.

I kind of see the OP's point. Where the earlier you are in life, the bigger the differences are in ages depending where you are in life.

But as someone else pointed out and it became really evident about it later, the OP has a really bad attitude about this. And is the reason why a lot of people are getting on her case.

From the sound of it, your group has a better attitude towards the 19 year old then the OP does against the 25 year old.

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Anonymous wrote:If this is actually true, the real issue is that you (clearly a woman) are insecure about this guy bringing a hot young bouncy thing around your husbands.

This is the true answer right here. So many couples become cliquey assholes, my own friends included. Sorry to make all your husbands jealous now that I'm the *only* guy both getting laid and doing it with a woman who still cares about her appearance. LOL.

[Anonymous]

OP, you and your friends sound like a bunch of catty, insecure women who feel threatened by a younger femsle. Grow up and make her feel welcome.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dont get why everyone on this thread is annoyed at the OP. I am 27 years old and our group of mid-late twentysomethings find a similar scenario odd too. One of our 25 year old friends is dating a 19 year old college kid! I can see why, she has huge boobs and is in a sorority. Its kind of funny to see a 25 year old go attend sorority parties with her. We all think its kind of odd. We have nothing against her, but find it difficult to see what he would have in common with her.

I kind of see the OP's point. Where the earlier you are in life, the bigger the differences are in ages depending where you are in life.

But as someone else pointed out and it became really evident about it later, the OP has a really bad attitude about this. And is the reason why a lot of people are getting on her case.

From the sound of it, your group has a better attitude towards the 19 year old then the OP does against the 25 year old.

Sure. I can see the OP being unnecessarily hateful. In our group, its interesting that its the guys who think its really weird and are beginning to shun him and not invite him to our gatherings. The running joke is that he is at a college party somewhere. Us girls are mildly amused and chalk it up to his immaturity. The 25 year old in question wouldn't be able to stand a normal conversation with a 25-27 year old woman so I can see why a 19 year old seems appealing. And it helps that she is really hot too. He's a simple guy.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dont get why everyone on this thread is annoyed at the OP. I am 27 years old and our group of mid-late twentysomethings find a similar scenario odd too. One of our 25 year old friends is dating a 19 year old college kid! I can see why, she has huge boobs and is in a sorority. Its kind of funny to see a 25 year old go attend sorority parties with her. We all think its kind of odd. We have nothing against her, but find it difficult to see what he would have in common with her.

I kind of see the OP's point. Where the earlier you are in life, the bigger the differences are in ages depending where you are in life.

But as someone else pointed out and it became really evident about it later, the OP has a really bad attitude about this. And is the reason why a lot of people are getting on her case.

From the sound of it, your group has a better attitude towards the 19 year old then the OP does against the 25 year old.

Sure. I can see the OP being unnecessarily hateful. In our group, its interesting that its the guys who think its really weird and are beginning to shun him and not invite him to our gatherings. The running joke is that he is at a college party somewhere. Us girls are mildly amused and chalk it up to his immaturity. The 25 year old in question wouldn't be able to stand a normal conversation with a 25-27 year old woman so I can see why a 19 year old seems appealing. And it helps that she is really hot too. He's a simple guy.

Yep, 27 year old woman here. You bring up a good point. I think for many men, it's not about a younger woman being hotter, because women in their early to mid 20s are pretty much at the peak by any standard. But they're easier to talk to and way less intimidating, which an insecure guy will gravitate to. Younger girls, especially a 19 year old, will put up with a lot more BS, feign more interest in boring conversation and all that, then a 25 year old. That's for sure.

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Anonymous wrote:Actually, I am newly-married to a man in my own age cohort, whom I met in grad school. We will grow, develop, make our wealth, climb the career latter, earn our success, oay off our loans, eventually have our children, buy our big house, drive our luxury cars, afford our wonderful travels, by working towards those goals TOGETHER. You know, the old-fashioned way; and not via the materialistic short-cuts to instant gratification by compromising with an older guy you hook up with not for love, but for money.

Newly married in mid-to-late 30s? To someone you met all the way back in grad school? Eventually have children?

Suddenly, the source of your angst seems much clearer.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Actually, I am newly-married to a man in my own age cohort, whom I met in grad school. We will grow, develop, make our wealth, climb the career latter, earn our success, oay off our loans, eventually have our children, buy our big house, drive our luxury cars, afford our wonderful travels, by working towards those goals TOGETHER. You know, the old-fashioned way; and not via the materialistic short-cuts to instant gratification by compromising with an older guy you hook up with not for love, but for money.

Newly married in mid-to-late 30s? To someone you met all the way back in grad school? Eventually have children?

Suddenly, the source of your angst seems much clearer.

LOL please. The posters on this thread are doing the most, trying to make this OP feel like shit because she had a slight issue with her friend dating someone significantly younger. Nothing wrong with that.... the mistake she made was posting her harmless observation on DCUM where of course, as a woman, she will be attacked as a "jealous, hateful nag". Business as usual.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a hot 25 year old and I would like to personally request that no old pervs "rub one out" with me. Trust me, your old, saggy body does not turn me on. If you have managed to trick someone my age into dating you, trust me when I say, she is probably thinking of one of her exes, her own age, while you are having sex with her!

You totally missed the point of "rub one out". You may be hot, but you aren't very bright.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a hot 25 year old and I would like to personally request that no old pervs "rub one out" with me. Trust me, your old, saggy body does not turn me on. If you have managed to trick someone my age into dating you, trust me when I say, she is probably thinking of one of her exes, her own age, while you are having sex with her!

You totally missed the point of "rub one out". You may be hot, but you aren't very bright.

Rub one out as in masturbation? I dont think anyone "missed the point".