Things you wish your wish your spouse told you before the wedding:

[Anonymous]

I will love you no matter what screwed up things happens. Thank you, honey.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom is completely crazy and i will never stand up to her for you.

I will never get better in the bedroom.

I am the most amazing father a kid could ever want.

I will love you no matter what.

I hate exercise of any kind.

I will put this families needs above my own.

I will get you to believe that you deserve to be happy and hold your hand threw your extreme depression.

awww. you got a good one, on balance.

[Anonymous]

Man, DH is getting it tonight. I'm one lucky woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish he had told me about what the bottled up anger was all about. Or that it would leak out and turn him into an angry violent man. I wish he had told me that someday i would tremble in fear at the sight of him. I wish he had told me that i was making a terrible, life-altering choice that would someday make me regret the day i was born.

I'm so sorry pp. Please tell me you left him?

[Anonymous]

I could more or less subsist on dairy products and sugary snacks. No really! And I will give our family the dental bills to prove it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom is completely crazy and i will never stand up to her for you.

I will never get better in the bedroom.

I am the most amazing father a kid could ever want.

I will love you no matter what.

I hate exercise of any kind.

I will put this families needs above my own.

I will get you to believe that you deserve to be happy and hold your hand threw your extreme depression.

awww. you got a good one, on balance.

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom is completely crazy and i will never stand up to her for you.

I will never get better in the bedroom.

I hate exercise of any kind.

Are you saying that you expected the person to change? Because that is pretty silly. People don't change the way you want. And I married pretty much an alcoholic. I _hoped_ she would clean up her act, but I didn't assume she would.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom is completely crazy and i will never stand up to her for you.

I will never get better in the bedroom.

I hate exercise of any kind.

Are you saying that you expected the person to change? Because that is pretty silly. People don't change the way you want. And I married pretty much an alcoholic. I _hoped_ she would clean up her act, but I didn't assume she would.

I was to blind to see this and didn't think it would matter, but it does.

[Anonymous]

I'm never going to come around to liking yours or anyone's cooking but my mother's whose idea of a meal was cream cheese on a cold bagel.

[Anonymous]

I'll never throw any old clothing away. I'll keep suits I haven't worn since the 70's moldering in the large walk in closet that I finally agreed to have built for us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will love you no matter what screwed up things happens. Thank you, honey.

lucky you!

[Anonymous]

I will turn our linen closet into cornucopia of mostly expired OTC remedies for my rarely real illnesses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish he had told me about what the bottled up anger was all about. Or that it would leak out and turn him into an angry violent man. I wish he had told me that someday i would tremble in fear at the sight of him. I wish he had told me that i was making a terrible, life-altering choice that would someday make me regret the day i was born.

I'm so sorry pp. Please tell me you left him?

I left him. Five years ago. But we have kids so i still have to deal with him. He is still verbally abusive, takes out his anger on me at every opportunity and generally causes me a lot if distress. When i stand up to him it gets worse and i feel like each time i fall further down. I am still afraid he will hurt me but he hasn't since we were first separated. I can avoid being alone with him so probably i am safe from physical harm - just can't seem to shake the fear. I am shaking right now as i type this - i don't talk about this at all IRL, it is just too much to lay on anyone. And i don't want anyone to know. Thank you for asking.

[Anonymous]

1. I am aces at opening kitchen cupboards
2. I have no idea how to close kitchen cupboards.
3. I am unable to see dust
4. I can survive for months without eating a vegetable
5. I will put empty sour creme containers back into the refrigerator and leave them for weeks rather than throw them away.
6. Other than that I will be just about perfect.

[Anonymous]

My mom has never had a wedding, a husband, and I was raised by grandparents. I will fix it all for her: let her run our wedding, our new family, and be primary caregiver to our DC.