Things you wish your wish your spouse told you before the wedding:

[Anonymous]

1) although we are legally getting married, I am actually married to my family and will never leave this area, no matter how good a job opportunity might be somewhere else

2) I have no desire, nor motivation to finish my college degree. Could do it 100 times over but why bother?

3) I intend for you to pay every bill until one of us is dead

[Anonymous]

I will talk to at least one of my parents each day. My mother will buy us bedding.

[Anonymous]

Oh, divorce her already. Don't badmouth her on anonymous forums.

[Anonymous]

I don't believe in cleaning anything, ever. Or rather, I don't believe in ME cleaning anything, ever.

[Anonymous]

Nothing? Getting married wasn't a shocker here. DH was the same after we got married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing? Getting married wasn't a shocker here. DH was the same after we got married.

Same here.

[Anonymous]

I had to take an unexpected leave from work to deal with serious depression.

My mother is a substance abuser and has been to rehab several times.

I will never take responsibility for our children, even though I am enthusiastically encouraging you to have kids with me. I will play with them, but I will never change a diaper, go to the pediatrician, give them medicine when they are sick, do their laundry, fix their lunches, etc. In fact, when you leave me to "babysit" them, I will call you with questions, or take them and leave them with another adult, whom you may or may not know.

[Anonymous]

Wow. Lots of venom in this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't believe in cleaning anything, ever. Or rather, I don't believe in ME cleaning anything, ever.

Hi honey!

[Anonymous]

Wish I had known:
spending habits
drinking habits (family history)

[Anonymous]

I view Saturdays as a day to work (either on house stuff or work stuff), which means you will have the kids by yourself every single Saturday all day long. Sunday will be family day. When will you do the stuff you need to do? Hmm, I don't know.

[Anonymous]

I will come to view sex as ever more of a chore. But I will get sad and feel like a bad wife if you let it be known that you are unhappy that I don't like sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wish I had known:
spending habits
drinking habits (family history)

You really saw NO signs that your future spouse possibly drank too much or had family members that did?

[Anonymous]

Married life has exceed my expectations. All pleasant suprises. Nothing. I like suprises.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will come to view sex as ever more of a chore. But I will get sad and feel like a bad wife if you let it be known that you are unhappy that I don't like sex.

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