DH wants "open relationship" after my affair...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This isn't real. Gimme a break.

This isn't real? Many wives cheat on their devoted, faithful husbands. It happens all the time. Gyms seem to be pretty popular places for wives finding an OM, too.

The OP's situation seems very plausible and real. Unfortunately, for many such devoted and faithful husbands, it is a bitter and horrifying reality.

Centurion

Please, Centurion, tell us about your bitter and horrifying experience.

Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn't Virginia a "no fault" state for divorce. I don't think there is any state where one can assign fault. That you had an affair really doesn't matter in terms of settlement, yes? But I'm not a lawyer, which leads me to my advice:

You need to consult a lawyer in VA and get accurate advice.

No. Infidelity, abandoning the family, etc. can affect property allocation.

OP, what's up with his request for details? That makes this story sound trollish or like a fetish. Also, talk to an attorney ASAP.

Very trollish. Wants details and for her to perform the same acts? Wtf? Fake.

Affair or whatever.

I'd tell the DH to take a shit or get off the pot. To tell details and make some sort of stupid sex game out of it, I can see why the wife cheated, the husband sounds like an insecure loser himself.

She's sorry, she fucked up-she knows it. They both need counseling. If he's not a willing partner to try to repair the marriage, just divorce. He sounds sadistic and I'm sure this is nothing new for him. He probably was a jerkoff the entire marriage.

[Anonymous]

Actually, the most offensive part of OP's post is her whining about having to work at a non-profit with her Ivy League education.

Quelle horreur!

[Anonymous]

OP, are you ever coming back?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This isn't real. Gimme a break.

This isn't real? Many wives cheat on their devoted, faithful husbands. It happens all the time. Gyms seem to be pretty popular places for wives finding an OM, too.

The OP's situation seems very plausible and real. Unfortunately, for many such devoted and faithful husbands, it is a bitter and horrifying reality.

Centurion

Please, Centurion, tell us about your bitter and horrifying experience.

Lol

Lol? Well, I've read marriage and relationship forums where men have talked about this happening. I also had a friend who's wife met and fucked some guy she met at the gym. For him it was a very bitter and horrifying experience.

Why would such a situation be "funny" to anyone?

Centurion

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Right, it's understandable that the betrayed spouse would think about that, but I don't get why 14:02 enjoys fantasizing about OP (a stranger on the Internet to him) cheating on her husband, with all of the sordid details including positions.

14:02 (centurion) is a sick fuck. He seems like the kind of guy who kills prostitutes. His hate for women just seethes and boils. He's dangerous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Actually, the most offensive part of OP's post is her whining about having to work at a non-profit with her Ivy League education.

Quelle horreur!

QFT! Yeah, working at a non-profit...such misery! Lol.

Centurion

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn't Virginia a "no fault" state for divorce. I don't think there is any state where one can assign fault. That you had an affair really doesn't matter in terms of settlement, yes? But I'm not a lawyer, which leads me to my advice:

You need to consult a lawyer in VA and get accurate advice.

No. Infidelity, abandoning the family, etc. can affect property allocation.

OP, what's up with his request for details? That makes this story sound trollish or like a fetish. Also, talk to an attorney ASAP.

Very trollish. Wants details and for her to perform the same acts? Wtf? Fake.

Affair or whatever.

I'd tell the DH to take a shit or get off the pot. To tell details and make some sort of stupid sex game out of it, I can see why the wife cheated, the husband sounds like an insecure loser himself.

She's sorry, she fucked up-she knows it. They both need counseling. If he's not a willing partner to try to repair the marriage, just divorce. He sounds sadistic and I'm sure this is nothing new for him. He probably was a jerkoff the entire marriage.

Let's be crystal clear about something here: OP is the villain, not her husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn't Virginia a "no fault" state for divorce. I don't think there is any state where one can assign fault. That you had an affair really doesn't matter in terms of settlement, yes? But I'm not a lawyer, which leads me to my advice:

You need to consult a lawyer in VA and get accurate advice.

No. Infidelity, abandoning the family, etc. can affect property allocation.

OP, what's up with his request for details? That makes this story sound trollish or like a fetish. Also, talk to an attorney ASAP.

Very trollish. Wants details and for her to perform the same acts? Wtf? Fake.

Affair or whatever.

I'd tell the DH to take a shit or get off the pot. To tell details and make some sort of stupid sex game out of it, I can see why the wife cheated, the husband sounds like an insecure loser himself.

She's sorry, she fucked up-she knows it. They both need counseling. If he's not a willing partner to try to repair the marriage, just divorce. He sounds sadistic and I'm sure this is nothing new for him. He probably was a jerkoff the entire marriage.

Let's be crystal clear about something here: OP is the villain, not her husband.

Let's be realistic about something in general: not every story has extremely clear-cut heroes and villains. Sometimes, everyone is the villain, and sometimes, nobody is. You have one side of the story. You are not omnipotent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Right, it's understandable that the betrayed spouse would think about that, but I don't get why 14:02 enjoys fantasizing about OP (a stranger on the Internet to him) cheating on her husband, with all of the sordid details including positions.

14:02 (centurion) is a sick fuck. He seems like the kind of guy who kills prostitutes. His hate for women just seethes and boils. He's dangerous.

Lol. I hate women? That's bullshit. I love women very much.

Centurion

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This isn't real. Gimme a break.

This isn't real? Many wives cheat on their devoted, faithful husbands. It happens all the time. Gyms seem to be pretty popular places for wives finding an OM, too.

The OP's situation seems very plausible and real. Unfortunately, for many such devoted and faithful husbands, it is a bitter and horrifying reality.

Centurion

Please, Centurion, tell us about your bitter and horrifying experience.

Lol

Lol? Well, I've read marriage and relationship forums where men have talked about this happening. I also had a friend who's wife met and fucked some guy she met at the gym. For him it was a very bitter and horrifying experience.

Why would such a situation be "funny" to anyone?

Centurion

It's funny because you knowing one lady who banged some guy at the gym does not show a trend. Women cheating happens, and so does men cheating. This is not a female problem. It's your problem with women and/or your fetish that makes look like an epidemic to you.

[Anonymous]

Gotta say, OP was so sorry about screwing up that she went to live with the OM. I can imagine her "righteous" indignation when she showed up on the OM's doorstep: "can you imagine the nerve??! He changed the locks on me??"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn't Virginia a "no fault" state for divorce. I don't think there is any state where one can assign fault. That you had an affair really doesn't matter in terms of settlement, yes? But I'm not a lawyer, which leads me to my advice:

You need to consult a lawyer in VA and get accurate advice.

No. Infidelity, abandoning the family, etc. can affect property allocation.

OP, what's up with his request for details? That makes this story sound trollish or like a fetish. Also, talk to an attorney ASAP.

Very trollish. Wants details and for her to perform the same acts? Wtf? Fake.

Affair or whatever.

I'd tell the DH to take a shit or get off the pot. To tell details and make some sort of stupid sex game out of it, I can see why the wife cheated, the husband sounds like an insecure loser himself.

She's sorry, she fucked up-she knows it. They both need counseling. If he's not a willing partner to try to repair the marriage, just divorce. He sounds sadistic and I'm sure this is nothing new for him. He probably was a jerkoff the entire marriage.

I agree. The affair was wrong but her DH sounds sick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This isn't real. Gimme a break.

This isn't real? Many wives cheat on their devoted, faithful husbands. It happens all the time. Gyms seem to be pretty popular places for wives finding an OM, too.

The OP's situation seems very plausible and real. Unfortunately, for many such devoted and faithful husbands, it is a bitter and horrifying reality.

Centurion

Please, Centurion, tell us about your bitter and horrifying experience.

Lol

Lol? Well, I've read marriage and relationship forums where men have talked about this happening. I also had a friend who's wife met and fucked some guy she met at the gym. For him it was a very bitter and horrifying experience.

Why would such a situation be "funny" to anyone?

Centurion

It's funny because you knowing one lady who banged some guy at the gym does not show a trend. Women cheating happens, and so does men cheating. This is not a female problem. It's your problem with women and/or your fetish that makes look like an epidemic to you.

Oh Geesus. Yeah, men cheat too. I never said it was a trend or something "only women" did. I don't have any problem with women, nor do I think wives cheating on their husbands at the gym is an "epidemic".

Centurion

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Actually, the most offensive part of OP's post is her whining about having to work at a non-profit with her Ivy League education.

Quelle horreur!

Yep. Another person thinking an Ivy League degree automatically equals high paying job.