DH wants "open relationship" after my affair...

[Anonymous]

*a woman*

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. No and no.

this and OP wanted sympathy (which she got from a few men-haters). the most amazing thing is that folks are jumping on what OP said her H wanted (i.e., to be his slut and do to him what she did to the OM for 3+ years) - which given the circumstances, how can we take her at her word that DH actually said that in the first place? H most likely is cataloging all the details for the divorce papers to reduce any financial support owed to her and possibly to have primary custody and/or possible sole legal guardianship as her judgement is very seriously called into question.

Just because a few of us don't call OP a whore that needs to live a miserable life or be murdered over this doesn't make us man haters

[Anonymous]

I am sure her DH had the expectations that her pussy would now belong to him or at least have exclusive use of it. Let's face it, no man will marry a women if she does not have a snatch down there, essentially, that's the price.

Let me get this straight: you write this way about women, and have the nerve to call PP's "man-haters?" Dude, you're psycho.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I am sure her DH had the expectations that her pussy would now belong to him or at least have exclusive use of it. Let's face it, no man will marry a women if she does not have a snatch down there, essentially, that's the price.

Let me get this straight: you write this way about women, and have the nerve to call PP's "man-haters?" Dude, you're psycho.

they were two different posters - reading comprehension IS important

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

ts a pretty valid requirement, considering he was providing her food, shelter, clothing, and a gym membership, which she used to fuck another man for 3 years. Paid for by him.

Food, shelter, clothing, and gym are also pretty valid requirements for someone who keeps house, raises the kids, and does all the cooking/cleaning.

If their agreement was that one parent would stay home, he wasn't doing her a goddamn favor by paying the bills.

And once again, it doesn't justify sexual coercion.

Old life back, no. End of marriage, sure. Joint custody, yes. Kids need both their parents.

Same as if cheating spouse were a DH.

This thread is getting old.

Not even remotely the same if husband was the cheater.



How good was she keeping house and raising her kids? She certainly had time to engage in sex with another man for THREE years. Did he fuck her in her maritalbed? Most definitely. While hubby was away paying for her ass. Raising her kids? She ruined her whole family. Great job she did.

He has every right to know exactly what she did with gym stud. Everything she did on his dime, behind his back, when she was supposed to be "raising the kids". Hell never trust her, but hes giving her a chance to be his slut.

You are pathetic. Women do not belong to their husbands. Men have no greater or lesser rights regarding SAHMs or WOHMs. A couple deciding that one parent should be home does not mean the SAHM is doing everything "on her DH's dime." I am a SAHM and (1) my DH and I treat our finances the same way we did while I was a WOHM, and we always will, (2) I could stay home for over a decade, pay half of our expenses, and not run through the savings I'd accumulated before having kids. So don't go thinking all SAHMs are living on someone else's dime. Oh, and plenty of WOHMs adn working husbands manage to find a way to cheat long-term while still being highly professionally successful. None of this excuses OP's bad conduct and disloyalty, but my God your statements about SAHMs and just so out-of-touch and pathetic. I can't imagine any self-respecting woman would marry you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I am sure her DH had the expectations that her pussy would now belong to him or at least have exclusive use of it. Let's face it, no man will marry a women if she does not have a snatch down there, essentially, that's the price.

Let me get this straight: you write this way about women, and have the nerve to call PP's "man-haters?" Dude, you're psycho.

they were two different posters - reading comprehension IS important

It applies to both posters. Try to keep up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

ts a pretty valid requirement, considering he was providing her food, shelter, clothing, and a gym membership, which she used to fuck another man for 3 years. Paid for by him.

Food, shelter, clothing, and gym are also pretty valid requirements for someone who keeps house, raises the kids, and does all the cooking/cleaning.

If their agreement was that one parent would stay home, he wasn't doing her a goddamn favor by paying the bills.

And once again, it doesn't justify sexual coercion.

Old life back, no. End of marriage, sure. Joint custody, yes. Kids need both their parents.

Same as if cheating spouse were a DH.

This thread is getting old.

Not even remotely the same if husband was the cheater.



How good was she keeping house and raising her kids? She certainly had time to engage in sex with another man for THREE years. Did he fuck her in her maritalbed? Most definitely. While hubby was away paying for her ass. Raising her kids? She ruined her whole family. Great job she did.

He has every right to know exactly what she did with gym stud. Everything she did on his dime, behind his back, when she was supposed to be "raising the kids". Hell never trust her, but hes giving her a chance to be his slut.

You are pathetic. Women do not belong to their husbands. Men have no greater or lesser rights regarding SAHMs or WOHMs. A couple deciding that one parent should be home does not mean the SAHM is doing everything "on her DH's dime." I am a SAHM and (1) my DH and I treat our finances the same way we did while I was a WOHM, and we always will, (2) I could stay home for over a decade, pay half of our expenses, and not run through the savings I'd accumulated before having kids. So don't go thinking all SAHMs are living on someone else's dime. Oh, and plenty of WOHMs adn working husbands manage to find a way to cheat long-term while still being highly professionally successful. None of this excuses OP's bad conduct and disloyalty, but my God your statements about SAHMs and just so out-of-touch and pathetic. I can't imagine any self-respecting woman would marry you.

Well said, 23:21.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

ts a pretty valid requirement, considering he was providing her food, shelter, clothing, and a gym membership, which she used to fuck another man for 3 years. Paid for by him.

Food, shelter, clothing, and gym are also pretty valid requirements for someone who keeps house, raises the kids, and does all the cooking/cleaning.

If their agreement was that one parent would stay home, he wasn't doing her a goddamn favor by paying the bills.

And once again, it doesn't justify sexual coercion.

Old life back, no. End of marriage, sure. Joint custody, yes. Kids need both their parents.

Same as if cheating spouse were a DH.

This thread is getting old.

Not even remotely the same if husband was the cheater.



How good was she keeping house and raising her kids? She certainly had time to engage in sex with another man for THREE years. Did he fuck her in her maritalbed? Most definitely. While hubby was away paying for her ass. Raising her kids? She ruined her whole family. Great job she did.

He has every right to know exactly what she did with gym stud. Everything she did on his dime, behind his back, when she was supposed to be "raising the kids". Hell never trust her, but hes giving her a chance to be his slut.

You are pathetic. Women do not belong to their husbands. Men have no greater or lesser rights regarding SAHMs or WOHMs. A couple deciding that one parent should be home does not mean the SAHM is doing everything "on her DH's dime." I am a SAHM and (1) my DH and I treat our finances the same way we did while I was a WOHM, and we always will, (2) I could stay home for over a decade, pay half of our expenses, and not run through the savings I'd accumulated before having kids. So don't go thinking all SAHMs are living on someone else's dime. Oh, and plenty of WOHMs adn working husbands manage to find a way to cheat long-term while still being highly professionally successful. None of this excuses OP's bad conduct and disloyalty, but my God your statements about SAHMs and just so out-of-touch and pathetic. I can't imagine any self-respecting woman would marry you.

Well said, 23:21.

+1 PP sounds like such asshole, I feel bad for any woman suffering with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she went home after the relationship with the OM didnt work out. Don't see how this could end well for OP.

Did she actually go home? Has she had sex again with DH? I didn't read the whole thread.

I don't think her DH wants to have sex with her again, at least not in a loving way, maybe a slutty way.

Think about it this way. By marrying her, providing, care and giving her children, I am sure her DH had the expectations that her pussy would now belong to him or at least have exclusive use of it. Let's face it, no man will marry a women if she does not have a snatch down there, essentially, that's the price. And that is the reason he's committed himself to providing for her even with all things being considered. The OP went out and let some random dude poked her in all kinds of way down there. Well, that's a gross violation of her husband and the life she promised him. Her DH is the victim here and the OP deserve to be thrown out on her ass. Did she think her Ivy degree entitled her to special treatments? Welcome to the bread line OP.

Exactly. He kicked the whore into the gutter, and that's where she belongs.

[Anonymous]

I don't think you can underestimate the sense of betrayal OP's husband must feel. That's a permanent scar - regardless of whether they stay together or split up. Nobody wants to feel like a chump. And that's exactly what OP's husband is. He gave of himself. Most likely a great deal. And, in return, his wife made him a cuckold for three years.

[Anonymous]

Do we know how the husband found out she was cheating ?

[Anonymous]

Cell phone hack.

[Anonymous]

You should probably just get a divorce. Obviously you didn't care enough to not cheat on him while he was earning all of the money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should probably just get a divorce. Obviously you didn't care enough to not cheat on him while he was earning all of the money.

You say that as if the person earning the money can cheat but not the one staying home.....no.

I do agree that a divorce is the answer OP. Move on, learn, and maybe eventually be happy and content.

[Anonymous]

OP move on with your life!