DH wants "open relationship" after my affair...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hold up--you had the affair 3 yrs ago but have been separated 8 months? What am I missing?

It started 3 years ago, she got caught 8 months ago.

She whored around with an other man for YEARS!

Then she left her kids and moved in with him.

After your DH locked you out, if you were really sorry, if you really had your family's best interest at heart. You would have went to a counselor the next day and begged to move back home.

The only one I truly feel sorry for - your daughters. They will suffer the most.

Yup. Hopefully DH can remarry a better role model who prioritizes children over sex. And while he was providing for you? You're disgusting OP.

[Anonymous]

Go to the marriagebuilders website. That's your best bet for rebuilding your marriage, but your DH may still kick you to the curb.

[Anonymous]

This isn't real. Gimme a break.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This isn't real. Gimme a break.

Which part seem unrealistic to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This isn't real. Gimme a break.

It seems like someone posting on this forum is completely obsessed with women cheating and/or prior partners. It's bullshit.

[Anonymous]

You know, OP, by you fucking the day lights outta the gym stud, you *opened up* the marriage. When you spread yourself out, head down and ass up for the gym stud to fill you up and plow you, you didn't think about that reality affecting your marriage, did you?

So, maybe now you need to embrace your "inner slut" and enjoy whatever your husband wants. Be your *husband's* slut. Perhaps your husband has felt "bored" and unfulfilled all of these years, and now he wants to taste some new, strange women!

Your husband might actually want to have other men fuck you now, with your husband fully participating. It may be a way for him to feel some kind of emotional control and stability in the relationship. Even if that sounds weird to you, there's something to it. That's how some men react to their wife suddenly discarding their faithful, traditional marriage, and fucking another man. Now your husband wants some wild kink in his marriage, too. If you want your marriage to be rebuilt you may have to consider this as a new aspect of your marriage. It may be a long term or permanent reality. Then again, it may only be a temporary thing for your husband as you show him more love and devotion, his desire for such may pass.

*you* brought this on, however. So, you need to do whatever it takes to make your husband happy and secure.

Never forget, that if you had kept your faithful husband as a priority, instead of yourself--you would not be in this situation.

Centurion

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No sympathy. You fucked up. Except for demanding the intimate details of the affair (maybe you should provide those -- in graphic detail -- if you want to twist the knife?), I would probably do the same thing.

I hope he gets custody, too.

+1000. you deserve what you're getting and if it were me, you would have gotten more than than just your suitcases on the doorstep. I'd be surprised if he isn't already talking to an attorney, b/c divorce papers would have been served at the time you found yourself locked out of the house.

your daughters deserve a strong role model - not a tramp who knowingly and willingly threw her family and life out the window just to satisfy her own needs. you might be lucky to have some semblance of a relationship with the girls - do you realize how much of a mountain you have to climb, Ms. Ivy League?

[Anonymous]

14:02, is there a reason you get off on imagining all of the details of OP having sex with her affair partner?

[Anonymous]

I think that this "open relationship" stuff is your husband's way of saying "I can not trust you. If I can't trust you to honor our vows, it is not fair to expect me to be faithful to you. From here on out - it's every man (or woman) for themselves."

He has a point OP. How are you going to fix that OP?

[Anonymous]

I can't believe you moved in with the OM after you got caught.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:14:02, is there a reason you get off on imagining all of the details of OP having sex with her affair partner?

Nope. Cheating spouses typically like to trickle truth, "sanitize" and minimize the details of what they've done with their AP. The betrayed spouse, however, constantly thinks about all of the messy details. The OP needs to fully accept the damage that she's done, and realize that her husband is thinking of exactly such details in his mind movies, and part of the process of healing her husband is sharing such details and more, with her husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No sympathy. You fucked up. Except for demanding the intimate details of the affair (maybe you should provide those -- in graphic detail -- if you want to twist the knife?), I would probably do the same thing.

I hope he gets custody, too.

+1000. you deserve what you're getting and if it were me, you would have gotten more than than just your suitcases on the doorstep. I'd be surprised if he isn't already talking to an attorney, b/c divorce papers would have been served at the time you found yourself locked out of the house.

your daughters deserve a strong role model - not a tramp who knowingly and willingly threw her family and life out the window just to satisfy her own needs. you might be lucky to have some semblance of a relationship with the girls - do you realize how much of a mountain you have to climb, Ms. Ivy League?

Damn straight! *sigh*--and she trashed her marriage...because, as a SAHM, with her loving, faithful husband providing everything...she was "bored".

Centurion

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:14:02, is there a reason you get off on imagining all of the details of OP having sex with her affair partner?

Nope. Cheating spouses typically like to trickle truth, "sanitize" and minimize the details of what they've done with their AP. The betrayed spouse, however, constantly thinks about all of the messy details. The OP needs to fully accept the damage that she's done, and realize that her husband is thinking of exactly such details in his mind movies, and part of the process of healing her husband is sharing such details and more, with her husband.

Unless 14:02 is the OP's husband, which I am reasonably sure he is not, given that he's posted a lot of personal details about his wife and this was not one of them, his details about the OP's affair is kind of disturbing. Especially the way it's worded.

[Anonymous]

Right, it's understandable that the betrayed spouse would think about that, but I don't get why 14:02 enjoys fantasizing about OP (a stranger on the Internet to him) cheating on her husband, with all of the sordid details including positions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hold up--you had the affair 3 yrs ago but have been separated 8 months? What am I missing?

It started 3 years ago, she got caught 8 months ago.

She whored around with an other man for YEARS!

Then she left her kids and moved in with him.

After your DH locked you out, if you were really sorry, if you really had your family's best interest at heart. You would have went to a counselor the next day and begged to move back home.

The only one I truly feel sorry for - your daughters. They will suffer the most.

Yup. Hopefully DH can remarry a better role model who prioritizes children over sex. And while he was providing for you? You're disgusting OP.

Wow. The OP was whoring it up with the OM for THREE YEARS? Geesus.

Centurion