Any advice for seasoned moms? Clique moms at soccer (even after 2 years)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so happy to sit there by myself for an hour at soccer practice and just veg, play on my phone, read a book or watch my kid play.

I am not there for myself; I am there because my kid wants to do this activity.

Just look at soccer as bonus "me" time and don't worry about it being "group" time for you.

+1

--mom of a 7 year old dd

+1

Bring a book, watch your kid, whatever.

[Anonymous]

This is so strange. We all have children, the last thing we should do is also act like children. Really. When I have an hour to sit, the last fing thing I want to do is worry about what other adults are doing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here- thank you for all the posts/suggestions/comments. It is extreme, DH last practice (who is laid back that never even saw this) said- what's up with that?? The women were hiding behind a tree like 3 trees away from the few parents watching practice. I am sorry- but this is rude. As for only seeing each other then- not in this case, they have dinners together etc. Ok- so they are good friends- but it is rude to zoom off on every practice/game and huddle physically away from the rest of the team. And it's not like we don't know each other- we either have kids in the same grade and school or other (religion).

Sorry, I don't get this, why are you complaining? Are all parents supposed to sit together, WTF? Do people have quotas to fill for how much time they are required to talk to you, sit by you, etc? I am asking in all sincerity and seriousness. You complaint re the tree talk is so ridiculous. Read what you wrote again. You sound upset that the other people aren't sitting all around YOU, that you aren't the queen bee in some imaginary mommy soccer popularity contest. What is it you want or need to remedy this? I am not sure if I have read that, and I read the entire thread.

Maybe they wanted some privacy, maybe they like the smell of the tree, maybe they need a break from watching soccer so they go by the tree, maybe they are tree hungers or tree worshipers (a la GOT). You are the one who sounds paranoid.

Feeling left out is no fun, and unfortunately is not something we outgrow with age. These feelings and situations can take on a life of their own, don't let this over take your rational thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here- thank you for all the posts/suggestions/comments. It is extreme, DH last practice (who is laid back that never even saw this) said- what's up with that?? The women were hiding behind a tree like 3 trees away from the few parents watching practice. I am sorry- but this is rude. As for only seeing each other then- not in this case, they have dinners together etc. Ok- so they are good friends- but it is rude to zoom off on every practice/game and huddle physically away from the rest of the team. And it's not like we don't know each other- we either have kids in the same grade and school or other (religion).

Sorry, I don't get this, why are you complaining? Are all parents supposed to sit together, WTF? Do people have quotas to fill for how much time they are required to talk to you, sit by you, etc? I am asking in all sincerity and seriousness. You complaint re the tree talk is so ridiculous. Read what you wrote again. You sound upset that the other people aren't sitting all around YOU, that you aren't the queen bee in some imaginary mommy soccer popularity contest. What is it you want or need to remedy this? I am not sure if I have read that, and I read the entire thread.

Maybe they wanted some privacy, maybe they like the smell of the tree, maybe they need a break from watching soccer so they go by the tree, maybe they are tree hungers or tree worshipers (a la GOT). You are the one who sounds paranoid.

Feeling left out is no fun, and unfortunately is not something we outgrow with age. These feelings and situations can take on a life of their own, don't let this over take your rational thought.

Idiot

[Anonymous]

??????

[Anonymous]

OP, I posted this expression on another thread. Maybe I was thinking of this one, but it could apply to both: Don't worry about the sheeple. I guarantee that they are backstabbing each other just as much, if not more.

Besides, look at their faces. Do they *look* happy? Probably not. I had one of these moms actually stick her a&& in my face at pick up today. I was sitting on a chair in the hall waiting for my DC, just as the other moms were. She looked me in the face, then did it. It was so calculated, it made it that much more funny. Two other moms saw it and texted me about it. We had a great laugh. It was indeed, her better side!

Really, they are their own downfall. To you, they shouldn't exist. Even when they stick their big hairy a&& in your face

[Anonymous]

PP here. My friend got a photo! She just emailed me! My friends are the absolute best - they have my sense of humor, that is why they are my friends! Certainly better than those with no sense of humor. But if it were not for the latter, I wouldn't have great photos......

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP here. My friend got a photo! She just emailed me! My friends are the absolute best - they have my sense of humor, that is why they are my friends! Certainly better than those with no sense of humor. But if it were not for the latter, I wouldn't have great photos......

Can you post it with face cropped or blocked? Would love to see this!

[Anonymous]

Just talk with the other moms there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP here. My friend got a photo! She just emailed me! My friends are the absolute best - they have my sense of humor, that is why they are my friends! Certainly better than those with no sense of humor. But if it were not for the latter, I wouldn't have great photos......

Um, I hate to break it to you, but if you are texting gossipy pictures of other moms from school pickup…then YOU GUYS are the a**hole moms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP here. My friend got a photo! She just emailed me! My friends are the absolute best - they have my sense of humor, that is why they are my friends! Certainly better than those with no sense of humor. But if it were not for the latter, I wouldn't have great photos......

Um, I hate to break it to you, but if you are texting gossipy pictures of other moms from school pickup…then YOU GUYS are the a**hole moms.

So you were cackling with your harpie “friends” about another mom, essentially, standing ahead of you in a crowded hallway, while you remained seated? Was she supposed to squat down to wait so you didn’t have your face level with her behind?

[Anonymous]

I hate to break it to you: this thread is 12 years old.

[Anonymous]

The 7 year olds from this this thread have all graduated from high school.

[Anonymous]

I was totally that parent it took many years and repeated sightings of parents for me to start to learn people and names. 10+ years if sports and I might be that parent, but genuine relationships and happiness to see people I know.

[Anonymous]

How did you find a thread from 2013?