Shoe, Cars, Purses, and Country Clubs Why Are These Status Symbols So Important?

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Anonymous wrote:Since this is in the private school forum: Your relationship with the other parents at your school (especially at the beginning) is somewhat like a professional one. You would not go to the head of your office and say "I see that fancy car you have in the executive parking lot. And your big house where we had the Holiday party last year. And those pictures of your kids at your second home and getting awards. I think you are a pretentious ass and need to tone it down a bit! So there! Take that, douchebag!" You really showed him/her what is what.

Not to be snarky but I don't undetstand your point.l

What I mean is you don't judge at the office (or you do but keep it to yourself) but at school it is a judgment free for all.

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Anonymous wrote:It has been my experience that people who can't afford something complain about the excesses of those who can afford to do or buy X. However, if and when their financial circumstances change X no longer seems to be an excess. Jealousy and double standard.

Not for all of us. We have plenty but I don't buy into the Barbie doll culture. I always chuckled at the Marc Jacobs, Jimmy Choo and similar habits of the moms at my children's private. I do like to travel but that isn't valued, generally, by people who like stuff and status.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It has been my experience that people who can't afford something complain about the excesses of those who can afford to do or buy X. However, if and when their financial circumstances change X no longer seems to be an excess. Jealousy and double standard.

Not for all of us. We have plenty but I don't buy into the Barbie doll culture. I always chuckled at the Marc Jacobs, Jimmy Choo and similar habits of the moms at my children's private. I do like to travel but that isn't valued, generally, by people who like stuff and status.

You are chuckling but I notice that you know a brand name when you see one.

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Anonymous wrote:I am confused - not wearing a rash guard/swim shirt makes you trailer trash? I thought they are more of a toddler & younger child thing. My children all claimed they were "geeky" and refused to wear them by age 8 or 9.

I think the comment about a rash shirt being trailer trash was meant to be sarcastic...

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I'm more annoyed with the superior attitude of those that flaunt their huge college savings and retirement plans than I am by someone flaunting their purse.

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[quote=Anonymous]I'm more annoyed with the superior attitude of those that flaunt their huge college savings and retirement plans than I am by someone flaunting their purse. [/quote]

Just curious: how do you define huge?

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And, can you define "real rich people"?

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Anonymous wrote:This is a problem only at Sidwell as far as I can tell. Maybe GDS too, but never at STA.

Who cares about any of these schools?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't appreciate people dismissing us because they flaunt more.

Why do you even care? The insecurities seem like they are with you. Since these people don't pay your mortgage or tuition or contribute in any way to your well-being, why do you give a damn.

Very strange.

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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am confused - not wearing a rash guard/swim shirt makes you trailer trash? I thought they are more of a toddler & younger child thing. My children all claimed they were "geeky" and refused to wear them by age 8 or 9. [/quote]

I think the comment about a rash shirt being trailer trash was meant to be sarcastic...[/quote]

Not either of the PPs and I don't like pejoratives, but IMHO the point of a swim shirt is to prevent sunburn now and skin cancer later. My kids wear them for safety and health.

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Why do you get so upset that some people love to dress up. Why does it bother you?

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I grew up in Philadelphia, went to an old line private school, and now send my two kids to what people down here call big 3 schools. All I can say about this thread is : the bigger the bag, the more expensive the bag - the smaller the brain.

It may sound overly simplistic, but I think it's a solid connection. Think about the people you know. And the big expensive bag lady may have lots of cash to spend, but her world is small. Oh well...

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up in Philadelphia, went to an old line private school, and now send my two kids to what people down here call big 3 schools. All I can say about this thread is : the bigger the bag, the more expensive the bag - the smaller the brain.

It may sound overly simplistic, but I think it's a solid connection. Think about the people you know. And the big expensive bag lady may have lots of cash to spend, but her world is small. Oh well...

Pitiful. Absolutely pitiful. All of your post follow a pattern and are strange.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It has been my experience that people who can't afford something complain about the excesses of those who can afford to do or buy X. However, if and when their financial circumstances change X no longer seems to be an excess. Jealousy and double standard.

Not for all of us. We have plenty but I don't buy into the Barbie doll culture. I always chuckled at the Marc Jacobs, Jimmy Choo and similar habits of the moms at my children's private. I do like to travel but that isn't valued, generally, by people who like stuff and status.

You are chuckling but I notice that you know a brand name when you see one.

+10,000

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't appreciate people dismissing us because they flaunt more.

I really think it's in your head. How about you get your kid in the best school for the kid and then leave it at that? Resist making it about you.

If parents are dismissive to other parents, you don't think the kids pick up on the queues. PLEASE.

Kid took their cues from their parents while queuing up for the Sunday buffet at the club.