adults who live off their parents' money secretly annoy me (and i don't understand them)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, does living on the couch, in your parent's basement = living off them? If so, count me in haters.

f-ing hilarious!

btw - different category, as there's a bit more humility in your case!

[Anonymous]

you're a bitch. my parents are dead. would you prefer that?

-$160k HHI looking at $1mil houses

[Anonymous]

Nanny pp, did this old, old money start in North America?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you're a bitch. my parents are dead. would you prefer that?

-$160k HHI looking at $1mil houses

Who's a bitch?

My father's dead. So what's your point?

We have a HHI similar to yours and would NEVER look at $1m homes.

You're an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm not incorrect about how the wealth was obtained. All the parties involved have never had high paying jobs. For instance, the lawyer I mentioned making $100K is a federal attorney. Maybe $100K is a low estimate and he's actually making $150K--certainly I don't know his exact salary but it's not like he's making a ton of money (and never did).

And for all those who ask "how do i know these things about people?" Well, they're open and honest about them. People talk about such things. Not sure I would.

And each family was given money by parents, not grandparents. I wrote grandparents incorrectly. Not that this matters or changes things.

That all said, I said my piece, and now I'm done. I'm perfectly okay with our present financial state. We were given 100K for a down payment for our house from parents (in addition to the $300K we had saved). SO in a way I'm the pot calling the kettle black. However, I never felt right about taking this money and it caused a huge rift in my marriage (it was from my husband's parents and was between him and them) and so I have a difficult time imagining being an adult and having my entire life paid for by my parents. That's all. I'm jealous in the way that I'm also jealous that athletes make $100k/game or whatever. It doesn't keep me up at night but it just sort of annoys me. Not sure why.

And that's that.

"In a way"? Honey, you ARE the pot calling the kettle black.

You don't have a leg to stand on.

Sheesh.

[Anonymous]

I know people who married after seeing their future IL's house thinking that would be their money some day. BOY, do they have a shocker coming! Doesn't stop them from warming up their shovels, though. So sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you're a bitch. my parents are dead. would you prefer that?

-$160k HHI looking at $1mil houses

Who's a bitch?

My father's dead. So what's your point?

We have a HHI similar to yours and would NEVER look at $1m homes.

You're an idiot.

The OP is. My point was that despite my HHI, I have an inheritance that allows me to buy a $1m house in cash. So I guess I'm living off my parents, though I'd rather they were alive. Not sure why you freaked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm not incorrect about how the wealth was obtained. All the parties involved have never had high paying jobs. For instance, the lawyer I mentioned making $100K is a federal attorney. Maybe $100K is a low estimate and he's actually making $150K--certainly I don't know his exact salary but it's not like he's making a ton of money (and never did).

And for all those who ask "how do i know these things about people?" Well, they're open and honest about them. People talk about such things. Not sure I would.

And each family was given money by parents, not grandparents. I wrote grandparents incorrectly. Not that this matters or changes things.

That all said, I said my piece, and now I'm done. I'm perfectly okay with our present financial state. We were given 100K for a down payment for our house from parents (in addition to the $300K we had saved). SO in a way I'm the pot calling the kettle black. However, I never felt right about taking this money and it caused a huge rift in my marriage (it was from my husband's parents and was between him and them) and so I have a difficult time imagining being an adult and having my entire life paid for by my parents. That's all. I'm jealous in the way that I'm also jealous that athletes make $100k/game or whatever. It doesn't keep me up at night but it just sort of annoys me. Not sure why.

And that's that.

"In a way"? Honey, you ARE the pot calling the kettle black.

You don't have a leg to stand on.

Sheesh.

Agreed. OP, you've lost this battle. Hypocrite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i love how the OP states that the wives don't work. guess she doesn't consider being a stay at home mom real "work" - and if their families are dumb enough to foot the bill, who cares? you just want to sound self-righteous, like you DESERVE the life these people are living and they don't, but you just sound jealous to me.

OP here. try again. I'm a SAHM as well. But good job on trying to make this a SAH vs working mom debate.

OMG, you have to be kidding me. You're a SAHM and preaching about people living off others? SERIOUSLY!?!

[Anonymous]

"you just want to sound self-righteous, like you DESERVE the life these people are living and they don't, but you just sound jealous to me."

You sound like you're in high school. Queen Bee.

[Anonymous]

And it is fine to be jealous, I get it and you are venting on an anonymous forum. But, I don't think you should hold it against these people, they are fortunate and it sounds like you are also OP.

[Anonymous]

how do i get one of these families to adopt me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I could afford it, I would treat my children/grandchildren this way. As long as they're being productive on their own, why not?

I agree with this. Of course, my children/grandchildren were lazy, spoiled, entitled and rude, then I would make a different decision. But if they were good people who worked hard and lived good values, then why not help make their lives easier if I could?

[Anonymous]

What a weird thread. I don't believe for a moment that OP actually knows three people in this situation and that these people share their financial information with her like this.

Whatevs. Seriously, OP, if this is serious, get over it. You just sound really bitter and the only person who will suffer from that is you, plus your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"My parents are both psychologists. This is old old old family money. My parents have always said that money is for security and not to be spent (my relatives are very frugal!!!) it's to be passed on to the next generation. Seriously my Mom used to not even let me buy ziplock bags because she said they were too expensive and 'fancy'. For school lunches we used those old school baggies or parchment paper!"

Truly Dickens' material.

I don't care if you don't believe me. I'm happy and grateful in my condo.