adults who live off their parents' money secretly annoy me (and i don't understand them)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:15:15 - don't bother. Especially if you are self made. People have no concept of that here, they are still attached to their mothers teet. They should be ashamed of themselves, as grown adults. Being a responsible, well adjusted adult means NOT having champagne taste on a beer budget.

Dammit, these grapes are sour!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What bothers me most is those who "expect" their parents money - some before they are even dead!? WHAT?! If my kids had that piss poor attitude, I would for certain donate to charity. Anyone expecting handouts should be sorely disappointed, they deserve it.

I agree with this -- I know someone whose in-laws loaned them a lot of money to buy their house (essentially mortgaged it) and they have never thanked them for it. She expects that because the parents have money and because her friends' parents have subsidized their lives, her in-laws SHOULD do the same. she's rather resentful, actually. very entitled.

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Not sure why I am posting, but we are currently being subsidized by my ILs. They contribute $1000/month, which allows us to both save for college and have a nanny. Yes, we could do daycare and we might have chosen that if MIL hadn't offered. But now we have better care for our kid (not saying a nanny is always better - but given our very specific circumstances including our child's need for PT exercises 5 times a day) and money in a 529. DH and I both work FT and are careful with money. Also, it allows us to pay for our nanny's health insurance, which is important to me. We'll only be doing this for a couple years and while it would be great for our pride to not take the money I honestly don't think it would be the best thing for our kids.

[Anonymous]

I would love to have enough money to enable my children to do what they love and work reasonable hours without worrying about their ability to live in a good neighborhood, send their children to good schools, pay for music lessons, save for college, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure why I am posting, but we are currently being subsidized by my ILs. They contribute $1000/month, which allows us to both save for college and have a nanny. Yes, we could do daycare and we might have chosen that if MIL hadn't offered. But now we have better care for our kid (not saying a nanny is always better - but given our very specific circumstances including our child's need for PT exercises 5 times a day) and money in a 529. DH and I both work FT and are careful with money. Also, it allows us to pay for our nanny's health insurance, which is important to me. We'll only be doing this for a couple years and while it would be great for our pride to not take the money I honestly don't think it would be the best thing for our kids.

We're in a similar situation. Our house was essentially paid for by a generous gift from my parents, and our very small mortgage payment allows us to live more comfortably now and save for the future. We both work but I don't make very much money, but I love my job. If you are sitting around resenting me, I pity you. Life's too short.

[Anonymous]

My children are in their 30's/40's and they still act is if everything in my home belongs to them. When they visit, they'll open up the fridge and root around to see what I have. They'll bring loads of laundry with them and use my machines all weekend long. They don't even have the courtesy to bring their own detergent- they will use up all of mine and leave it so I find it empty when I go to do my laundry. They'll let their kids run wild and when they leave, they don't even go around my house and pick up the crushed cheese puffs and gather up the half empty soda cans their kids have left every where. I am really sick of how these 'adults' act so entitled to treat my house and hospitality as a given.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My children are in their 30's/40's and they still act is if everything in my home belongs to them. When they visit, they'll open up the fridge and root around to see what I have. They'll bring loads of laundry with them and use my machines all weekend long. They don't even have the courtesy to bring their own detergent- they will use up all of mine and leave it so I find it empty when I go to do my laundry. They'll let their kids run wild and when they leave, they don't even go around my house and pick up the crushed cheese puffs and gather up the half empty soda cans their kids have left every where. I am really sick of how these 'adults' act so entitled to treat my house and hospitality as a given.

And whose fault is that??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My children are in their 30's/40's and they still act is if everything in my home belongs to them. When they visit, they'll open up the fridge and root around to see what I have. They'll bring loads of laundry with them and use my machines all weekend long. They don't even have the courtesy to bring their own detergent- they will use up all of mine and leave it so I find it empty when I go to do my laundry. They'll let their kids run wild and when they leave, they don't even go around my house and pick up the crushed cheese puffs and gather up the half empty soda cans their kids have left every where. I am really sick of how these 'adults' act so entitled to treat my house and hospitality as a given.

Be thankful they visit at all. When my children are grown I want them to know my home is the one place in the world they can still be "kids." You sound like a witch.

[Anonymous]

My children are in their 30's/40's and they still act is if everything in my home belongs to them. When they visit, they'll open up the fridge and root around to see what I have.

That is a crazy thing to complain about. The laundry thing is really weird and they should pick up after their kids, but whose parents wouldn't allow them to go to the fridge and take what they want to eat? Wouldn't you want to do the same in your kid's house?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My children are in their 30's/40's and they still act is if everything in my home belongs to them. When they visit, they'll open up the fridge and root around to see what I have. They'll bring loads of laundry with them and use my machines all weekend long. They don't even have the courtesy to bring their own detergent- they will use up all of mine and leave it so I find it empty when I go to do my laundry. They'll let their kids run wild and when they leave, they don't even go around my house and pick up the crushed cheese puffs and gather up the half empty soda cans their kids have left every where. I am really sick of how these 'adults' act so entitled to treat my house and hospitality as a given.

And whose fault is that??

20:16 and 20:39, pay attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My grandmother used to say, "You always see those who have more, but you never see all those who have less." Give the Max today to your charity of choice and stop the envy cycle.

That's very powerful. Thanks for posting.

[Anonymous]

The actions of a 30 or 40 year old person are THEIR fault. You can't play the "It's mommy who made me this way" card when you are fucking 40! Get over it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My children are in their 30's/40's and they still act is if everything in my home belongs to them. When they visit, they'll open up the fridge and root around to see what I have. They'll bring loads of laundry with them and use my machines all weekend long. They don't even have the courtesy to bring their own detergent- they will use up all of mine and leave it so I find it empty when I go to do my laundry. They'll let their kids run wild and when they leave, they don't even go around my house and pick up the crushed cheese puffs and gather up the half empty soda cans their kids have left every where. I am really sick of how these 'adults' act so entitled to treat my house and hospitality as a given.

Tell them to bring their own detergent and hide your own. And tell them to clean up after the kids and have tell the kids to clean up as well. The fridge thing wouldn't bother me, but you should speak up if its an issue for you. Sorry you feel unappreciated.

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18:16 - Nope. These grapes are big ass and realistic. Sorry (not) it it home for you! Your problem, not mine.