Late 40s woman: age-appropriate men look so old

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Anonymous wrote:You are almost 50, lmao

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Not the OP but what is funny about turning fifty?

We ALL age, it comes after even the best of us.

Some will even say ->> the luckiest of us too.

Nothing funny about fifty. PP was just reminding OP that an almost 50yo woman mocking older men is laughable. She is mocking herself.

She is not mocking them, stupid. She is mocking the way they look when they let themselves go.

Are you triggered? Get some damn exercise, wear sunscreen and make an effort.

I’m a 51 year old woman and don’t understand some of the complaints like baldness or wrinkles. Be attracted to whoever you want but these are normal things.

Eh. As a woman, I've spent thousands of dollars on skincare, sunscreen, and Botox. Hours upon hours in the gym and I watch what I eat. Not gray or balding yet (which does happen to women), but when it does, I'd take steps to address those problems. People will say that's not necessary and men don't care, but I know 100% if I gained 30 pounds, let my face age, stopped wearing makeup or styling my hair....my dating options would go down drastically.

So after all that, it's disappointing to date men my age who don't care for their skin, don't work out, and eat a diet consisting of Hot Pockets and Taco Bell. I don't need a male model, he doesn't need to get Botox, but just a little bit of effort can drastically amplify a man's attractiveness. Hell, I'd drop my underwear for a guy who could cook me a decent healthy meal, rather than just microwaving something frozen.

A guy friend of mine who is 42 spent the last few years glowing up. He got in shape, got a hair transplant, and gets some cosmetic work done. He looks fantastic, and he has a revolving door of attractive women sleeping with him.

Yep. Y’all are ugly. If you’re going to hate women generally speaking, the least you can do is look decent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 47, and recently started dating again after a 24-year relationship. I'm shocked how old men my age look. I myself don't have wrinkles, saggy skin or gray hair. I'm fit and full of energy. But these guys, geeze... I don't want to date them myself!

I don’t believe that you are 47 with zero gray hair (unless you dye your hair)

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We're out there, but men who lift weights, have a great diet, nice clothes, etc date much younger.

[Anonymous]

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First of all, your post is the work of an angry man crashing out. Second, sir, go argue alimony with your ex-wife, not with me. I don't care about your problems.

What, exactly, am I "crashing out" of, sweetee?

So the answer is "yes." You are sucking at the teat of your exDH's career while complaining about how awful men your age look.

You care enough about my post to reply. Because you know that I am right.

What are you doing today? Getting ready for the last round-up at the J. Gilbert's happy hour (where you can place your large buttocks on a couple of barstools and go on the prowl)? You should spend more time getting ready for happy hour and less time on DCUM. It would improve your luck.

Damn, sir. Two finger snaps. Did you end up marrying that boyfriend your wife divorced you over?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We're out there, but men who lift weights, have a great diet, nice clothes, etc date much younger.

Women do all those things, plus take HRT, undergo annual Fraxel laser treatments, light botox (face still moves, too subtle to notice), color their hair, and wear makeup, which is why a woman of means who cares will look better than her male peers of the same race 98% of the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 47, and recently started dating again after a 24-year relationship. I'm shocked how old men my age look. I myself don't have wrinkles, saggy skin or gray hair. I'm fit and full of energy. But these guys, geeze... I don't want to date them myself!

Then don’t date them. Why do you care how they look?

[Anonymous]

I'm a 40F and notice a huge variety in how men look. I've recently gone out with a 44 year old man who is extremely fit, has all his hair, good skin, and is well groomed, etc. I've also gone out with 40 year old men who look scrubby. I think, like with women, your 40s are where the differences between men who take good care of themselves and men who don't really start to become apparent. From my experience, a robust fitness routine truly makes a difference at this age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here again: I'd rather be single than date a man to whom I'm not physically attracted. So many of my single friends try to make it work with men they're not attracted to... That's just repulsive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are almost 50, lmao

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Not the OP but what is funny about turning fifty?

We ALL age, it comes after even the best of us.

Some will even say ->> the luckiest of us too.

Nothing funny about fifty. PP was just reminding OP that an almost 50yo woman mocking older men is laughable. She is mocking herself.

She is not mocking them, stupid. She is mocking the way they look when they let themselves go.

Are you triggered? Get some damn exercise, wear sunscreen and make an effort.

I’m a 51 year old woman and don’t understand some of the complaints like baldness or wrinkles. Be attracted to whoever you want but these are normal things.

Eh. As a woman, I've spent thousands of dollars on skincare, sunscreen, and Botox. Hours upon hours in the gym and I watch what I eat. Not gray or balding yet (which does happen to women), but when it does, I'd take steps to address those problems. People will say that's not necessary and men don't care, but I know 100% if I gained 30 pounds, let my face age, stopped wearing makeup or styling my hair....my dating options would go down drastically.

So after all that, it's disappointing to date men my age who don't care for their skin, don't work out, and eat a diet consisting of Hot Pockets and Taco Bell. I don't need a male model, he doesn't need to get Botox, but just a little bit of effort can drastically amplify a man's attractiveness. Hell, I'd drop my underwear for a guy who could cook me a decent healthy meal, rather than just microwaving something frozen.

A guy friend of mine who is 42 spent the last few years glowing up. He got in shape, got a hair transplant, and gets some cosmetic work done. He looks fantastic, and he has a revolving door of attractive women sleeping with him.

So don’t date them. What’s the issue?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 40F and notice a huge variety in how men look. I've recently gone out with a 44 year old man who is extremely fit, has all his hair, good skin, and is well groomed, etc. I've also gone out with 40 year old men who look scrubby. I think, like with women, your 40s are where the differences between men who take good care of themselves and men who don't really start to become apparent. From my experience, a robust fitness routine truly makes a difference at this age.

+ skin care, good teeth and some fashion sense.

[Anonymous]

no matter what you do if you are a woman in your 40s a man is only attraced to women at least 4-5 years younger but not more than 15

[Anonymous]

What, exactly, am I "crashing out" of, sweetee?

So the answer is "yes." You are sucking at the teat of your exDH's career while complaining about how awful men your age look.

You care enough about my post to reply. Because you know that I am right.

What are you doing today? Getting ready for the last round-up at the J. Gilbert's happy hour (where you can place your large buttocks on a couple of barstools and go on the prowl)? You should spend more time getting ready for happy hour and less time on DCUM. It would improve your luck.

Damn, sir. Two finger snaps. Did you end up marrying that boyfriend your wife divorced you over?

I am sure he is prettier than you. Have fun at J. Gilbert's.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a 40F and notice a huge variety in how men look. I've recently gone out with a 44 year old man who is extremely fit, has all his hair, good skin, and is well groomed, etc. I've also gone out with 40 year old men who look scrubby. I think, like with women, your 40s are where the differences between men who take good care of themselves and men who don't really start to become apparent. From my experience, a robust fitness routine truly makes a difference at this age.

+ skin care, good teeth and some fashion sense.

You're right.. but it's not that easy for men. Where do I go to get skin care products and who do I ask? I'm clueless, and the stores I've been to, like Sephora (with my DDs) seem oriented towards women.

Fashion sense is similar -- go to the mall and notice how many of the clothing stores are for women vs men. There's not much for men to choose from. Even at a place like Zara, the mens section is 1/3 the women's section.

Not saying it's impossible but it's not easy either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I married at 36 and divorced at 50. The decline in the physical appearance of men during that span of time is dramatic. Some women also take a deep dive during those years. But women are able to get an updated hairstyle and color it and they can wear makeup to conceal age spots and sun damage. They can wear Spanx and push up bras without people laughing at them, whereas it's considered odd for a man to wear a waist cincher.

This. There’s no difference. We just mask it better.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a 40F and notice a huge variety in how men look. I've recently gone out with a 44 year old man who is extremely fit, has all his hair, good skin, and is well groomed, etc. I've also gone out with 40 year old men who look scrubby. I think, like with women, your 40s are where the differences between men who take good care of themselves and men who don't really start to become apparent. From my experience, a robust fitness routine truly makes a difference at this age.

+ skin care, good teeth and some fashion sense.

You're right.. but it's not that easy for men. Where do I go to get skin care products and who do I ask? I'm clueless, and the stores I've been to, like Sephora (with my DDs) seem oriented towards women.

Fashion sense is similar -- go to the mall and notice how many of the clothing stores are for women vs men. There's not much for men to choose from. Even at a place like Zara, the mens section is 1/3 the women's section.

Not saying it's impossible but it's not easy either.

It's plenty easy. But if you can't find a decent outfit odds are you can't find a clit either. Find a friend or do some online research on both counts.