She wants a very high-quality man—what are her chances?
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Anonymous
In arranged marriage or with matchmakers, that's exactly how it works. First boxes are checked before dating to get to know each other. |
Anonymous
OP posits a marriage of unequals, career wise. Doctor-nurse is a classic marriage and/or affair scenario. Two doctor marriages are "normal" to me. |
Anonymous
| If she can make her rich guy move to a cheaper cost of living country, they can have cook, cleaners, drivers, nannies etc. |
Anonymous
| Dual physician marriages are quite difficult to balance and if both are ambitious type A, often end in failure. |
Anonymous
| She sounds non-functional. She should grow up, study nursing, get a real job, and then she can marry a doctor. |
Anonymous
Yes. Very high expectations in a partner, while doing nothing to make herself worthy of such a partner. Incel, whether male or female. |
Anonymous
-Has zero education, but will education perfectly for her future husband. |
Anonymous
This. The “not driving” thing only works if you grew in NYC and never left it. It doesn’t fly in New England once you’re past college age. |
Anonymous
This. If you're only willing to ever live in Manhattan and hire drivers for every kid activity, or maybe London or Paris, fine. But the kid activities are really the issue here. Adults can avoid driving and Uber just fine. Kids cannot and their sports tends to be farther out. |
Anonymous
| Is she from another culture? None of this looks promising. Any women I knew like this ended up alone at 45. She could try 1) getting treatment for social anxiety and finding herself instead of looking to identify herself through a role of wife. 2) Go to another country where her desire to lose herself in the wants and needs of others might be more accepted but will be ripe for abuse and likely lead to eventual mental health breakdown. |
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Anonymous
| Sounds like my sister in law except for the fact she has to work to pay bills. She’s beautiful, kind, but tidy and religious (Christian). She’s held odd jobs that help support her (her mother provides the rest) - but she’s chronically single and now unable to have kids - she’s mid-40s now. Her introversion, social anxiety, and high standards for potential partners has really hindered her prospects (she’s also still a virgin since she’s unmarried). I hope she will meet someone who can take care of her but realistically it will be an older man with children from a previous marriage. |
Anonymous
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Most successful men want a genuine partner. An equal. Many find their partner in grad school. Pretty 23 year olds are a dime a dozen. But an ambitious man generally wants interesting companionship too.
Of course some men just want eye candy. She may have better luck hanging around Mar A Lago to find her type. |
Anonymous
She isn’t an incel. She’s apparently attractive so she will find men willing to shaboink her if she wants to put out. But they won’t marry it. |
Anonymous
| This is a person who could really benefit from therapy. she's hiding from life and hoping that a man will provide all her answers. |